Alone

[fianoelle]

Hi. I never thought about how alone I would feel as an adult (21). Yet I have nobody at all, except I guess ? Family? I’m so lonely. I just want people who understand.

[Dolphin14 Moderator]

I'm sorry you feel so alone.

I remember how I felt in the early stages. I could be in a room full of people yet I still felt like I was on a deserted island. There was a lot of support for the " old" me. The " new " me was not understood at all.

Is your family supportive? What about friends?

You will never be alone here.

🐬

[fianoelle in reply to Dolphin14]

Family is tricky, I’ve been told that I am hard to live with, and gotten the whole “why are you doing this to us” thing. I keep to myself more now.

[Dolphin14 Moderator in reply to fianoelle]

Yes indeed I agree. They are tricky.

[BrainIsFull]

Hi. I, too, have (and still do at times) suffer from intense, painful loneliness. I see that you are in yor 20s and that was a particularly difficult time for me regarding lonliness. I am now 56 and I can report that it has gotten sooooo much better so please know that there is hope! (In case you're thinking that it can never get better for you, remember that I thought that too. I had lost all hope).

One thing that helps me is to drop the judgement that I had made about what it means if I am lonely. I always said "I am lonely bc I am a loser" and at some point I realized that EVERYONE gets lonely, no matter how many or few friends you have, how much or little money you make, where you livee, etc. That realization helped me to stop belittling myself when I got lonely.

I often write in here when I get that feeling of intense isolation. Sometimes making a connection even over thousands of kilometers helps me know that I am part of tje bigger universe. And then I know that I am not *really* alone. 💚