Need some advice

[Mini_katie]

Hello, 2 days ago I was rejected from my dream course which was art but being told my art isn’t at level 3 standard. Now I can’t stop thinking of the comments 😩 is this another thing for ptsd?

[Marnie22 Volunteer]

Hi. I haven't heard of it particularly being a PTSD thing, but it can be a thing in anxiety, depression etc. I believe it's categorised as 'rumination.' There are lots of self help tips for this if you Google it. I know because I have been supporting someone I know who has this problem quite badly.

I hope you can get past it. I really hope you find a path to what you want to do. 🙂🌸

[AWebs]

Hi Mini_katie,

I just wanted to say that just because somebody has deemed that your art hasn’t matched up to some particular standard at some particular time, doesn’t mean that your art isn’t brilliant and isn’t going to bring something wonderful to the world - only you can decide on that, just like only you can decide how other people make you feel. Easier said than done I know. I wonder if your past experiences could mean that you experience a judgement like ‘your art is not what we’re looking for here’ as ‘you are not good enough.’ Or something like that. Again, only you get to judge your own self-worth & value in the world. If you can value yourself, then it doesn’t matter what anybody says about you as you will know the truth, that you are brilliant & worthy, and so is your art

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Hi Mini_katie,

Rejection can bring up past memories of things that you may not have been able to realise are there in the background. Maybe it's something worth exploring.

Would it help if you spoke to a therapist to find out where is this coming from and they might suggest some good coping strategies?

Sometimes facing a situation is actually less difficult than the fear of the emotions associated with it.

Your self worth is important and once you feel stronger within yourself then those situations won't have such an impact on you because you have a strong sense of self.

I know that therapy isn't something to take on lightly but it can greatly help if it's the right kind. Sometimes having answers is helpful to understand "where is this coming from" or "when did I feel this way before?"

Be patient and compassionate with yourself.

[Lindyloo53 Volunteer]

Ruminating can be part of ptsd. By their standards they don’t believe you are at level three with your art, everything is subjective p, and you can choose not to accept this as rejection. You could choose to see it as an opportunity to explore other art courses. Art is unique to every individual. For example I go to a place called king street art. It’s a place any artist can go to to work on this art. I have made some things there with old pottery called bee stations a place for bees to drink from and I have also worked with clay and made things. I’m not particularly artistic but people there have been copying what I have been making so someone likes the work I create. Don’t let this rejection stop you from creating and do look around for other courses or groups to go to to create your art.