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IN SEARCH OF REAL Friendship

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Well as all of us know

Surviving trauma can interfere with our ability to meet people and form friendships.

I have lived in Southwest Florida many years and have no real friends to speak of.

I want to change this.

Reaching out is not my best quality

Hoping someone else out there feels similar. Fingers crossed they do!

Thanks

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BeingindependentVolunteer

Yes friendship is very important. Volunteering is a way you could meet people and perhaps form friendships. Volunteermatch.org gives you opportunities to do that in your area.

A group called buy nothing is a group on Facebook. Where people share items or ask for anything you want could be a place for friendships to form.

The first step toward friendships is the desire to seek it out.

Hope you find what you’re looking for.

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V941 in reply to Beingindependent

I was hoping to be involved in chats first to see if we share common grounds.

I do not place myself in large in person groups due to my PTSD limitations until knowing I can feel safe with individuals

Therefore not looking to volunteer just yet

Thank you for reaching out

Habe a peaceful day

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rubyslipper in reply to V941

I’m with you. Need friends desperately but very cautious. Have trouble leaving my apt. Have list my smile and self esteem due to my divorce. My grown kids do t understand at all. It’s terrible

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SavingGraceAdministrator

I have always felt the same and right now, feel this even more as I reflect on my life in 2020. It is hard to find people not only to trust, yet those who can be loyal when you disclose your PTSD. That has been my greatest trial. I do believe in humanity however and know that there are people out there who can relate and become our friends, even if we are lapsed in having them yet....... this place is a great place to start .... friendship starts when we become true to ourselves they say..... and here, I believe I have been true to myself. Blessings and love to you. HNY!

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V941 in reply to SavingGrace

Thank you for reaching out

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SavingGraceAdministrator in reply to V941

PTSD has isolated me for so many years and please, accept my grace, when I say that reaching out here is the very best place you can in order to find trust and understanding. I struggled for so many years before finding this place, where I realised that there are like-minded loveable folk who could empathise and hold my fears in their hearts and bear my truth. It has been a remarkable place for me, personally, to rebuild my personal narrative - alongside those who comprehend and know that which we go through. In that sense, I can totally [and wholeheartedly] place my faith in this forum because of the people who continue to return to speak their truth in this forum. I pray and hope you shall do so too.

Having PTSD has been an uncompromising journey in my life. Finding others who understand and fathom this, has been a blessing.

We, I - Catherine - welcome you completely, with open and trusting arms - because your journey is our journey only just beginning. I truly believe that I have only come to find my own understanding and comfort in years since joining this forum; that I have begun to find my own pace, voice, space and reason for being. Honestly. This place is golden. I don't know why. I can only speak and recommend its place for your wellbeing and recovery V941 and am wishing you the very, very best xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

PS I have edited for my poor own grammar spelling :)

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V941 in reply to SavingGrace

Ohhhh thank you:)

I do hope to get to know you better as you seem very level headed and sincere and I like that very much in people.

I have been through quite a journey and amazed that I don't give up.

Oddly I thought I would.

But I don't.

I am involved in a heated battle just now with the community who had banded against me because of a Pickleball noise problem and it has escalated to a federal HUD case.

Therefore I am now the pariah in my own neighborhood and its awful.

I'm an outcast and people are retaliating saying and doing, nasty things towards me having PTSD and that it isn't true that I am disabled from it.

I do not do well when I feel challenged by ignorance.

Looking for sensitivity training for community and HOA's awareness

Know of any such format???

Ask around please

Cheers

V941

Hi V941 yes PTSD can interfere with our ability to meet people and to form friendships. The thought of volunteering really makes me feel ill. Strange places are not good for me. I work in a shop and feel quite happy meeting strangers and helping them because it is an environment I am safe in. Put me in a strange place and I’m completely lost. When out walking my collie I can talk to people no problem, but take her away from me and put me out by myself I can’t do it. We are all different on how we cope in our everyday lives and also how we cope with our Ptsd. I have found talking on here in the past has helped. It would be nice to talk to you again. Take care. 😊🌹xx

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Agara33

This is also my main concern of how i will be able to heal-people and community is crucial especially if ptsd has been for many years. I live in a country where people are very open and communal and I'm not really at that step yet anyway, but i too wonder as i went through trauma in my mid 20s and am now in my mid 30s--everyone is with their families now...i hope that ill be able to find a way in somehow...my mom began studying buddhism in her 60s and made many new friends late in life...maybe there needs to be like a central connecting point

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