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In a HS (Highly Sensitive) Relationship

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Hi. Dealing with a case of severe sensitivity that enables me to feel intense reaction and irritability from what I go through from a relationship..I need helpful; constructive advice to improve our communication drastically?

That way I can relax and feel my emotional behavior is at bay when it can be easy to feel triggered and react while my partner also deals with similar HS tendencies to react and resist tempering her emotions...I need to know when too much is enough ultimately.

Listen, we do care about each other and have strong feelings for each other as well, yet why psychologically, do I allow myself to keep to turning back to her if it leads to turmoil? We quarrel so very often, say things we shouldn’t have, and talk over each other so easily..it difficult to tolerate.. and naturally it leads us to question our relationship altogether frequently.

What do we do?

On the contrary, we then convince ourselves we still have feelings to continue the relationship? Bottom line is, we have been with each other between 7-9 months and cause we have stuck with each other this long, we still cling to what feelings we have developed but it gets smothered every time we don’t treat each other with respect, tolerance, patience and a listening ear much of the time due to our similar nature in being HSP (Highly Sensitive People).

If you pair two HSP together how can we hope and believe we can thrive and cultivate a loving and healthy relationship that leads to lasting peace and passion for each other?

I would VERY much appreciate hearing everyone’s sincere advise about this; having read it carefully. Thank you!

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Hi I'm not feeling too good myself today to say the least so please be gentle with me when I offer you my sincere reply.

I wonder if you have something called an insecure attachment style? I think I have this myself. I have grown up being a people pleaser and reacting to others rather than being self determining. I think unless we can self determine we will always be vulnerable.

Just an idea. It may not apply to you but there again it may. I think the only way forward for me is to recognise this terrifying truth about myself and to try and find a way to take steps independently of others. I am not there yet at all. Just thinking about it and feeling that if I could ever achieve that then maybe my problems would lessen.

Hope this helps. If not please feel free to ignore. x

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