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Mitigating Inter-generational Post Traumatic Stress...Children & Families in Life After Trauma...

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Dear Kindred Spirits:

As an author, blogger, and child advocate, my great passion in life during my retirement years is to help stop the stigma connected with mental health, especially as it relates to the painful tragedy of children growing up in toxic homes where parents suffer with post traumatic stress. Kids inhale the pain of parents and often suffer in silence while exposed to anger, depression, and anxiety over extended periods of time. Children make adjustments and are resilient, but eventually leave home carrying all the emotional baggage with them. Parents, mentors, and teachers can make a huge difference in mitigating the toxic circumstances and longer term emotional damage to children, by becoming sensitive to how youngsters are affected at very early ages. Family members often take on the same symptoms of post traumatic stress if exposed daily to a life of toxic behaviors from adults.

I write in my most recent book, My Journey of Healing in Life After Trauma, Part 2, how children can be saved from the emotional damage of growing up in a toxic home. I also write in my blog about the same topic along with a focus on K-12 education. I serve on the board of an after-school program in Depoe Bay, Oregon. I also have the honor to serve the citizens of Depoe Bay, Oregon as City Councilor.

I advocate for children because my childhood was consumed by the challenges of growing up with parents who suffered severe emotional damage following WWII and Korean War. My awareness of the symptoms of PTSD was very limited for most of my adult life until deciding to confront my own demons when researching and writing my first book Reconciliation: A Son's Story. We live in in world where generations of wars have torn apart families, leaving them ignorant of the long term damage of PTSD on children who carry forward the emotional pain and symptoms that can linger for a lifetime without treatment. It is never too late to break the cycle of pain and to begin the journey of healing. I waited until age 64, and now live with an high level of awareness, providing a peace of mind never before achieved. But treating the symptoms of PTSD and keeping the pain at a safe distance is a work in progress. For this reason, I continue to push forward making a difference for others by writing and speaking about post trauma stress, including the toxic circumstances and painful outcomes, which can be mitigated with open and honest communications. Stopping the stigma and denial of this painful and life threatening disease is the first step in healing. We now have the awareness and tools to provide "trauma informed care" and 'mental health 1st aid" delivered at a local level to more quickly recognize mental health symptoms and identify alternative treatment strategies for those of suffer.

My only disclaimer is that my background and experience is that of a trauma survivor who thrives...and not a mental health professional.

With best wishes for your good health and happiness...

Steve Sparks

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However, a lot of Community Mental Health team staff seem not to be able to recognise the signs of PTSD.

Those questionaires which they give you on your first appointment seem just to be focussed on whether you are suicidal, and do not lead to you getting appropriate help and support. in my experience.

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This is true. Inter-generational PTSD requires a much closer relationship with the client to see the forest through the trees.

Do you have any advice that would be helpful for someone working towards unbonding from an abusive relationship?

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I would say as a lay person, it is time and diverting your attention to making a difference for others...

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That is probably fair enough advice for someone who is out of the relationship for some time. Thanks anyway, I was interested in your views. Best of luck with your blog and work with children. It doesn't take much to make a big impact, sometimes just for a child to know they are not alone. I edited my first post as it was unnecessarily long!

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I hope you have a good peer support person or group to help. Trying to work through this painful period without a support system is very difficult. All the best in your journey of healing...

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Check out ptsdchat.org

I would agree with the implication that to over think and over dramatise the past abuses is ultimately counter productive. Once an experience is shared in a safe and professionally sound environment that should be validation enough. The next step is starting a new way forward, if only it really were that simple...!!! Night night all on Health Unlocked.

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