I find that I've evolved quite significantly in how I approach my disease. I have complex PTSD from profound, repeated childhood abuse and trauma (physical and emotional) and suffered PTSD symptoms from age 8 on. Brought to my knees 7 years ago (at age 44) after a traumatic rock climbing fall put me on a path of horrific insomnia and huge anxiety related issues that overwhelmed me, I found help in the law enforcement and military world for my PTSD. What I learned there helped me tremendously. Here is what I do now to manage and care for myself:
1. I use the Sedona Release Technique to release emotions that get "stuck" inside of me. Often I'm actually resisting how I feel as it seems so dangerous that I fight it but the Sedona Method unties all those knots and allows me to accept and release any feelings - positive or negative. Fyi, positive feelings can be just as difficult for me so releasing them is fantastic too.
2. The LE/Military world talks about things like resilience, compartmentalization, pragmatic optimism and specific techniques to revisualize and reframe traumas. I did this mostly without a therapist after being diagnosed, (but have had 15 years of therapy before that) and frankly, seeing myself as resilient and compartmentalizing difficult thoughts and feelings has been huge for me. Knowing that being practical and optimistic and resilient is a great way for me to handle my life is huge. I constantly adopt this POV and it helps tremendously. Revisualizing is nothing short of miraculous for rewiring my brain about these events.
What doesn't help? Pathologizing myself and every feeling I have and every thing I do. Obsessing on PTSD and seeing it everywhere in my life and constantly analyzing myself. Now it's true that in the early phases, after diagnosis, you have to dive deeply into it and yourself, but once I learned these techniques and ideas, I think less and less of myself as having a disease or being impaired by PTSD. In fact, seeing myself as not sick, but just the way I am is quite affirming and healthy for me. In other words, the more i focus on stress relieving tools, and the other things I mentioned here and the less I think about PTSD, the better I am.
I came here initially because I felt maybe it would help, but instead I find that most here seem to be fetishizing their PTSD and making a lifestyle of it or something. You folks are welcome to do so, but that is not the pathway to a better and happier life from my point of view. Doing the work and transcending PTSD in real ways is the pathway. And seeing every single thing as PTSD is the opposite of what is good for you. I also really doubt many here actually have PTSD.
I know, many of you won't like hearing this from me. I don't care. I'm writing it for the people out there who come here and scratch their heads saying. WTF to some of the comments and posts. To those people I say, remember, almost none of the participants here are professionals and what they have to say about PTSD in many ways is nonsense they've made up in their heads. Even more to the point, many here also have self-diagnosed. If you think you have PTSD, go see a professional who treats it and get diagnosed before running around here claiming every bad thing that ever happened to you gave you PTSD or is caused by PTSD.