I just need to vent...

[Kinali]

These last few months has brought so much change. I changed jobs and a lady who is a qc(quality control) at the new job had singled me out. She picks on the new people and says the meanest, cruelest things she can. She has been that way for forever but I got annoyed and pissed about it after awhile. I hadn't said anything about it to the supervisor because the two are friends and I wanted to see if she would ease up if I totally ignored her. It didn't. It only got worse. I am the type of person who has a hard time trusting people so I like to sit back and watch a bit before I really start to get close to anyone. I wouldn't say I have friends there, I would say I have aquantinces. You can learn a lot about people by simply sitting back and watching their actions I have learned. Anyways, I eventually went to the supervisor about it one night and told her how mean this woman was being to me. She said she would talk to her about it but I needed to stop taking things so personal. Um, hello, this was personal! I almost walked out of her office when she told me I need to stand up for myself. I can apparently say whatever I want as long as I am not swearing or yelling. So I guess if I want anything done, I have to do it myself. Total bullshit. That, in my opinion is exactly how harassment starts. I am not the only one to say this about this woman so I know it isn't just me. On top of that, I have been having nightmares of my recent car accident. Not exactly of what happened but of slamming into the back of cars at high speeds. I also don't really like to drive much anymore as I am always afraid I am gonna get smashed by someone crossing the center line. Stress? Normal? I don't know what to think anymore. I feel so not normal anymore...

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Hi, I'm really sorry you have and are going through this. Unfortunately, victims of bullying can tend to blame themselves and it is not helpful or professional for the supervisor to speak like that to you, when you have raised this issue and I'm sure it was an extremely stressful situation for you to find yourself in. There is no excuse for bullying behaviour, they push and push consistently until they get a reaction or get rid of you, the understanding of this arena is shocking. It costs companies millions and they lose good workers also. Sweden is leaps and bounds above the world I beleive in dealing with this problem and governments come down hard on companies and make them responsible. You walked out for your own well being. The fallout from this kind of experience takes time to heal, it is not you, it is their behaviour that is abnormal. It may be helpful for you to read books on bullying and the impact of their behaviour. Boundaries, and assertive responses towards dealing with people with this kind of behaviour/mentality they can be extremely sly, subtle and dangerous developing over years.

Thank goodness you are out of the place and can now recover fom the stress they have put you through.

Take Care. Alice