Hi everybody

[LFC4eva_]

i was involved in a car accident Feb 2022 and since then have had this pain which has been always said to me oh you have chronic pain which I'm not stupid pain is pain but this wasn't a pain i have felt before in my life anyways fast forward to various appointments with medical professionals and MRI scans later i was diagnosed with FM this has affected my day to day life which is frustrating and upsetting i have always been a happy go lucky kind of guy always up for a laugh but this condition has kept me from doing so much this effects my emotions as well as the physical side i feel as if this condition has robbed me from living a normal life I cannot beat it even though I've been trying for the last 3 years paying for things i shouldn't taking more than I should. I have found myself hitting rock bottom wanting to end the pain not my life but those go hand in hand i mask my pain with humor. I'm after advice I don't understand this condition, and this is me reaching out and wanting to find out more thanks for reading :)🧐🥸

[Al10]

If the damage from you accident is healed, then the next stage is to ask yourself, is there any emotional baggage from this time that you didn't or couldn't deal with?

I'll take a stab at possibles to maybe help he thinking process. You had an accident and you feared you might die and that scared you. You think you should be glad you didn't die but you can't shift the what ifs and fear around what death is?

You survived the accident and people want you to move on and not dwell on what ifs? What if people had been hurt or worse and it was somehow your fault? You friends say, well that didn't happen so buck up! But maybe you need to explore these issues with a counsellor?

Some people want to know why they survived, esp if they are going to be left disabled and/or in chronic pain. They should be grateful but you can't seem to get there.

You had other things going on around that time that are unexplored and unhealed. Perhaps, now you have time, you need to unpack these issues?

Accidents are handy as a (time) signpost to point you in the direction of things that might need your attention.

Maybe you had been ignoring your feelings and the accident is now making you face your issues. Facing your fears, and all that good stuff.

On the other hand, if your body isn't fully healed, maybe the pain is pointing to something misaligned? I don't know? Do you need a good body worker?

Dealing with our emotional and spiritual side is a lifelong study that most of us wont embark on unless pushed. We all have our 'Shadow' side that we like to ignore. Our fears and hurts and so on that we don't know how to process. Some of us are very good at burying emotional pain so deep, it's only when our body cries out it is now in physical pain we even think to wonder what it's all about?

I'm offering my two pennerth because you asked. Looking up Shadow Work on line might help you decide if it's something you want to do? Or look into counselling if you know what you need to look at. Fibro is a problem because there aren't easy answers. Too many of us will swallow anything to numb the awful pain but it isn't a fix. Worse if the pain has an emotional root, then working on the physical can't work. Worser still, the meds we blithely swallow, are too often damaging our bodies and messing with our minds. Some will leave you brittle and $uicidal. Not your fault!

Fibro isn't all in your head. I suspect it is a mix of head and body and that's why it's hard to untangle. The emotions need to work from where they get lodged in the body, out into the head and then you let it go. Not easy, but it's surprising how doing the work helps on many levels making the pain we do feel easier.

I hope you find some help and answers from the lovely people on this forum. We all have our ideas and methods that help us some. You just need to look and see if what we can offer is something that might suit you.