Temper

[Pastafox]

Hi all anyone here feel that there patients are thinner than ever I had an event with my family that almost caused me to lose it It scared me or am I just being a angry person

[Hazel_Angelstar Administrator FMA UK Staff]

Pain and fatigue definitely end up in me being more irritable than I used to be.... Often I don't even realise that I'm being narky and irritable until hubby tells me to calm down

[Elle247]

Hello... 😊. You are not alone in this one I to feel I have increased anger issues but for me I think its a combo of perimenopause and fibromyalgia. It's awful sometimes as I know the rage I feel is not really equal to the situation but once the switch is triggered I can't switch it off until I feel it passing. I have had an incrase in my fibro pain so because of that i feel stressed and overwhelmed which makes me snappy at people, so then i have to apologise to people for how I have acted which goes around and around in my mind (anxiety) which also doesn't help matters lol. I used to be very easy going but how I feel like at times I have a hairline trigger. Oh the fecking joys of fibro, perimenopause and getting older. I'm living the dream 🤣😉.

[Su55anr]

Yes, I have noticed that I have no patience these days too. I think I’m worse at family get together as they know me as an easy going person and before I would let things slide rather than call someone out . Do feel family who see me often understand & wider family don’t. Comments like you look ok to me don’t help.

[Onceabiker]

Are you on meds? I was on Duloxatine and one of the side effects was low patience. It can easily be that when you are frustrated with your condition and what has become of you the pot boils over. Is your family understanding of your condition as if not that can be a trigger . You can always talk on here..

I found an outlet very helpful. I cycled and the release of adrenalin and endorphins helped a lot. Talk to your Dr. and they may help, I was sent to see people I could talk to and release what was built up inside.

Good luck, you are not alone.

[Elaine200756 in reply to Onceabiker]

Hi Onceabiker, I didn't realise that you can get anger issues from taking Duloxetine. I take 120mg, which is the highest dose.

I don't have this issue thank goodness, but I have found lately that I'm oversensitive and feeling overwhelmed. I'm so glad you have found an outlet that works for you and is positive. Well done, it's not easy xx 👍🤗

[Onceabiker in reply to Elaine200756]

There are many opinions about Duloxetine on here, everyone is different. I visited a locum GP and told him I wanted to stop taking it, he said don’t - you’ll kill yourself! Horrible stuff.

🙂

[Elaine200756 in reply to Onceabiker]

Wow! That's a shocker. We just don't expect to be offered meds that can be life threatening xx

[Onceabiker in reply to Elaine200756]

Dear Elaine, many drugs offered by Drs can make a patient dependant on them. I was on something like 120 mg and had the sweats, trembles, itchy all over depressed and moody. Some on here would say Duloxetine is a wonder drug and they feel good on it, but not me.

I came down 10mg per month when I could but some months the next jump down was too much for me if I had a family wedding go to so I would stay at the level I was for two months. After nearly a year I was on 20mg and went to ask my GP the best way to come off it - go to zero.

He said don’t do it. Well, that does not work for me, you have to tell me why. His response was You’ll Kill Yourself. His wife had been on it and had a tough time coming off it but I felt determined to do it. Like any “drug addict” on the more recognisable addictive recreational drugs if they stop they can go cold turkey and have a very difficult time as the body adjusts to no longer being fed an addictive substance.

I was very bad for around four months - my ribs felt like they shook all day and I was very volatile. Which is not good with kids and dogs around. My wife did not understand and booked us a holiday in a caravan and at night with the dogs and kids not lying still I felt the caravan was vibrating, moving around like it was in an earthquake and I’m afraid I erupted. I spent the rest of the holiday sleeping in a tent beside the caravan.

During the proceeding months I contemplated suicide in the garage on a daily basis. Not nice but true. I ended up in a clinic for pain and mental health for a month. I can’t say that helped me other than I found exercise there and bought a bicycle when I left which helps me a lot with the release of adrenalin and endorphins.

Each of us are different but I don’t think the medical world understand Fibromyalgia yet. Currently I am on 35mg of Nortriptyline which is an anti depressant but I can sleep 17 hours a day on it! Off to see my GP tomorrow.

Good luck.

[Aches_n_Pains_All_Over in reply to Onceabiker]

Good morning Onceabiker, I was on the highest dose of duloxetine a few years ago and I was totally out of it, don’t have much recollections of those days, slept at every turn, had to give up driving, had suicidal thoughts, had to rely on my son and daughter and their partners for almost everything, there were many more issues but this was just my experience, eventually after numerous consultations with my GP he took me off duloxetine, switched me over to a different medication, unfortunately he didn’t calculate the correct dosage for new medication and I had a breakdown, daughter phoned GP and spoke to a different GP who saw the miscalculation right away and sent a prescription straight to the chemist after about a week I started to feel better. Due to my experience I would not go back to duloxetine. I wish you well on this medication but if it still troubles you speak to GP again.

(((Gentle hugs)))

[Welshcatlady]

I have mellowed over the years, before I had my hysterectomy I used to turn into a monster at that time of the month. Now, though, I get really snappy and irritable when my pain is bad, and then I have to apologise to whomever I snapped at. It's nowhere near as bad as I used to be though. 🤔

[Midori in reply to Welshcatlady]

Anyone can get snappy when in pain, its tries your patience sorely!

Cheers, Midori

[Africanmonkey]

Yes I have really found that my patience is not as good as it was. I get anoid with my wife and I at work when he wants things done his way even if it means my wife and I are put in pain.

[Carlt]

I never lose my temper and someone once said that if I was any more laid back I'd be in a coma.

Other people find this infuriating and I am well aware that I am the source of enormous irritation to many people, including my immediate family.

My OH gets very annoyed that I shrug my shoulders at my health issues (when my shoulders aren't hurting) but I don't see the point of adding stress to my woes.

Oh well!

[Pastafox in reply to Carlt]

I was onece that way myself I have been falling slowly for many years body bashing off many rocks and recived many kicks and blows to get where I am todayAm frightened to snap

I do hope you are as Teflon as you say no 1 hurts us in this life as much as we can hurt ourselves stay safe ...

[Al10]

Short fuse can be the meds you are on? It's insidious and so mostly you don't think to make the connection. It's not good because they really can mess with your mental health. Watch out too for becoming more depressed, hopeless, trapped or even feeling the 'S' word?

If you suspect it's your meds, see your Quack. Not fair on loved ones or randoms to get their ear chewed.

Also menopause getting close is another possibility for some? It can be very shocking the change is temperament.

Pain doesn't help either.

And just being around annoying stupid people can be a trigger for some. Who can say?🙄

[Midori]

For me, when the fibro is bad, I'm a grump, although I try hard not to be. Normally my Fight or Flight is fairly balanced; I don't take any medication other than OTC Ibuprofen. I do get very snappy when the Fibro is bad, or someone has triggered the CPTSD.

This is because, despite having a GP, Getting an appointment is like pulling teeth without anaesthetic! Nearly 5 years ! (It's the only Surgery in town!) I don't drive any longer as my sight is failing.

I'm lucky I was a nurse, and I can talk with the pharmacists and get help, but they are limited in their prescribing abilities.

Cheers, Midori