Fibro and motivation

[AlysAudrey]

Many days and nights I lie here on my own, sometimes the loneliness just gets too much to bear, how do I get some motivation, am constantly grieving for my loved ones x

[Fibrofoggiest]

Hello AlysAudrey,

What a lovely lovely picture, I take it it is you on your wedding day ? How beautiful you are and your husband so handsome.

I can understand how your loneliness can sometimes become too much to bear, I have experienced something similar but not to the same extent as you, so I can know how each day must seem like such a struggle. Getting through the day, to hopefully find sleep if you can only to be presented with exactly the same situation each and every day. It is such a heavy burden for you to bear and I really feel that, reading what you have written.

Grieving sadly, is an ongoing process but your loved ones are still with you, they are kept alive by your memory of them and I hope that may be of some help to you, it certainly helped me when I lost my most beloved mother 23 years ago, and I miss her as much today as I did all those years ago.

I am sending you lots and lots of soothing and healing positive vibes hoping that by being heard and understood here will be a little help to you.

Foggy x

[rosie-2015]

What a beautiful photo is this your family gentle hugs Rosie xx

[TheAuthor]

Your photo is so beautiful and I feel honoured that you would share it with us all, thank you. I am afraid that I do not have any advice on motivation for the loss of loved ones, as I have lost so many of my own loved ones and I miss them everyday. However, I do carry such sweet memories in my heart as I guess that you also do? Please take care of yourself and know that you were loved.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken

[Treewade]

Who is in the picture I am sure we will all listen if you want to talk hunny, loneliness and grief feed off each other as u bottle your emotions up not wanting the world to see your pain you isolate yourself or at least I did when I lost my brother then later in life my son but I found talking helped me. Maybe it could help you xxxxxx sending loads of hugs xxxxx

[Annita]

Hi Audrey,

What a beautiful photo. I just want to reach out to you to say you're among friends here. I haven't been through such loss and it would be insincere of me to say I know how you feel as ive not been through it.

It's hard seeking company when we can't leave the house through ill health.

I've had a look on google to see what there is online, there are a lot of forums for bereavement but I don't know if that would be helpful to you.

Are there befrienders in your area if you are out of touch with people?

I wish I could be more helpful.

Sending hugs to you

Annita x

[MariLiz]

I lost my beloved Mum thirty five years ago, to cancer. My children were only young, seven and four at the time. I miss her still, but find comfort in knowing that she lives on in me, and in my children, and grandchildren. Sadly, we reach an age, when so many of those we loved have gone from our lives, and it is hard. Try to remember all the happy times, rather than the sadness of losing them. MariLiz xx

[AlysAudrey]

The beautiful photo is of my Mum and Dad, they were married in 1942 at the age of 18 and 19 both had lost their parents and my maternal great=granma gave them a home with her, I lost my husband 2008 then had a mastectomy as had breast cancer My mum died 2009 and Dad 2013, but my overwhelming frief is the loss of my Son, he became a recluse after being badly bullied by a gang of 25. He developed lymphedema/cellulitis and eventually couldn't walk, his pain was horrific and no one could touch him, I was talking to him in June 2012. he said make a drink while I bandage my legs, a few minutes later, he had died, I am so traumatised and now my fibro. is so painful, I am so bereft, but would like to thank you lovely people who have sent me a message, bless you all, Alys

[MariLiz in reply to AlysAudrey]

So very sad to hear of all your loss, especially of your son. That must be so hard to bear everyday, and I'm sure on the anniversary of his death especially so. My thoughts, prayers and deepest sympathy are with you, as they will be from many of us on here. Sadness seems to make our pain worse, or perhaps just harder to cope with. I do hope you have some friends who can help ease your pain. You certainly have some on here. MariLiz x