What a day.

[Newquay]

Yesterday Sunday wish it never came.

Well where to start. Had really bad night just so tired. Well got up the usual arms aching etc.

On way to Asda later that day. We called at our son,s they had been away on holiday so just pop in on way passed to see grandchildren well in the end wished we never bothered at all.

Obviously told them about we might loose car etc. and how upset we are with every thing, to my shock daughter inlaw said well you can't blame them it's about time they did something about it all.

Well I just turned round and said well I might be stood here looking ok and I can't really expected you to understand but just now stood here my arms and shoulders are aching like I have been run over by a truck my head is funny etc, and you have been brought up on benifits, yes she said and that why people should go to work Evan if it's only for an hour a day a few days a week.

I really hope I get an assessed by some with a bit more compassion than her.

Any way didn,t get to Asda came home in tears just had to go back to bed.

But one lesson Lerant, next time she asks if we can look after kids for a couple of hours after school while she is at work I know what the answer will be.

And I left her in no doubts about benifits. They are great but in the right circumstances, been watching benifits to think.

Ps she goes to work but 3 days a week other people have to pick them up ie my husband once a week and now youngest one is starting school she wants him to pick her up 2 days a week, it's only two weeks since they asked and I said no sorry got enough on our plate finding hard to cope our selfs.

But I am afraid after yesterday if I had my way it won't be one day a week, ok she might work 3/4 days a week but it's only because she expects other people to pick them up from school . And school hoildays well they just get moved around the family including

U.S. But not any more,

Right had my moan morals of the story don't judge a book by its cover, because on day you might be that book. Whish I could pass my condition on to her for a couple of weeks. Then it would be a different story.

[RayB]

I'm surprised you could manage the kids at all with the fibro.

But as you say just because they can't see how awful you feel,, when our own kids are prepared to walk rough shod without thought all over us it speaks volumes.

[Newquay in reply to RayB]

I don't manage the kids it's my husband that picks them up and every thing but obviously I am there when he brings them home so I still have to be bothered to talk to them and listen.

If I am having a really bad day I am in bed out of way,

Thanks for your comments I might show it her next time she come if she comes.

Because earlly this year I had a big operation which I had an hematomer and ended up back in.

Had op on a Tuesday came home Friday Ended up back in 7 days later and still not Evan a text or a call how are you. My husband rung them on the Sunday to say I had been rushed back and it was 4 weeks after that that we heared from them at all.

So glad these are not my childeren I would have been devastated.

One of mine was abroad working and he Evan offered to fly home to come and look after us cause my poor husband was totally washed out.

No it's taken a long time and many years but I am slowly learning, lol

[TheAuthor]

I am so genuinely sorry to read of your experience and I sincerely sympathise with you. I quite often feel that we live in such an uncaring society and things are getting worse. I want to genuinely wish you all the best of luck.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken x