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[Manu2015]

Hello catwoman36 I've speaken to my union today about me leaving and there adviceing me to stay in job cos I would worse off if I wasn't working in a way there right cos if I was to lose my job my gf would kick me out and I would have nowhere else to live

[Hidden]

Hello, well your girlfriend sounds lovely! (Sarcasm). Yes we are all financially much worse off claiming ESA (sick pay) than working but it just got to the point where I wasn't able to stand up on most days and I was a carer so I really had no choice. Your first step before leaving would be to go off sick, would you receive sick pay from work? You need to start planning so if your body makes you listen by giving you days where you can't stand you have somewhere else to live ect. What sort of person would throw out the person they are supposed to love for being too sick to work! I am sure your girlfriend loves you and would want to help you not make you homeless.

[Manu2015 in reply to Hidden]

Hello catwoman36 she don't understand what I'm going tho she wants me to work and thinks I'm like other young people that morn all the time and don't want to work cos my gf is alot older than me yes I would get sick pay and only place I can go is bk to my mums matthew

[Manu2015 in reply to Hidden]

Hello catwoman36 also my union think it's in my best intestes to stay in my job and not talk myself out of my job

[Midori]

There are legal things you can ask for, your employer must make reasonable allowances for your disability, They cannot just dismiss you, there is a procedure which must be followed, if they shortcut it, they can be in big trouble.

You must not leave voluntarily, or you lose your rights to JSA, etc. Check with CAB as well as your Union.

If you think your gf would really kick you out, do you really think you are in the right relationship? Surely this uncertainty can only add to your stress.

[Manu2015 in reply to Midori]

Hello midori they have done everything at work I'm on the last work area that they feel I can do and let me go at my own pess and I don't have to fully fill my Yorkshire but it's still hard work and some of the packets I throw off are really heavy

[Hidden]

Could you cut your hours to part time to make things easier? The reality is your the only person who can make the decisions but your health could get so bad you have no choice like mine did. You can go online and look at a thing called letters to normals, it is letters that help explain fibromyalgia and ME to our family members to help them understand what we are going through. I also have fibromyalgia and ME and I just got too sick to carry on at work. Have you considered going part time and doing an open university degree to retrain for a different job while continuing part time in your current job? Or asking if there is an office position available where you are? Or even just looking for a less physical job without telling your current job. You can also go on the fibromyalgia website and get information leaflets ect for your girlfriend to read to help her understand. The most important thing for you to remember is your the one who is sick and stress will make you worse and your partner should support you and want to take care of you. You have a lot to think about but please put your health first

[Manu2015 in reply to Hidden]

Hello catwoman36 I could only go to part time hours if they put me on letters at work and they won't do that they said the job I'm on nw is the only one I can do in the warehouse as for finding a new job my union rep said if I lose my job at royal mail I wouldn't get another one and I've got some information on fibro I asked my gf if she could take a look at it but she won't read it

[Hidden in reply to Manu2015]

Why wouldn't you get another job? You need to think positive and it doesn't sound like your union rep is encouraging that! Your girlfriend did the same thing as my CHILD in refusing to read the stuff! At least my son seems to be beginning to accept how ill I am though and he even offered to get a job to help support us while im so ill! I am all out of ideas now hopefully you will manage in the job your doing now.

[Manu2015 in reply to Hidden]

Hello catwoman36 I don't think I will last long in the job as some of the packets I sort are heavy I'm getting stressed out by it all and if my I go off sick my gf would have a go at me do u think I would get any benefits cos my gf works

[Hidden in reply to Manu2015]

Em im not sure about benefits to be honest as I am single. I think if you feel the job is too much right now your first step should be to get signed off sick for a month. That way you can rest and will have time to properly think through all your options and speakto the ccouncil about if you would get emergency accomodation if your gf threw you out bbecause your disabled you should get it. Are you on the tenancy/morgage?

[Manu2015 in reply to Hidden]

Hello catwoman36 I'm on Tenancy and before I got my job at royal mail I wasn't working so I went to the job centre and they said I couldn't sign on and get money cos my gf is working

[Hidden in reply to Manu2015]

If your on the tenancy then your gf cannot throw you out so stop worrying about that. Your not going to leave work to sign on you would be signed off sick because your not well enough to work and you need to rest and you would receive sick pay so you would still have an income.

[Manu2015 in reply to Hidden]

Hello catwoman36 how much sick pay do u think I would get

[Hidden in reply to Manu2015]

I don't know sorry it depends on who you work for ect so only your boss can tell you that.

[Manu2015 in reply to Hidden]

Hello catwoman36 I could ask my union how much I would get they should know but only been at royal mail 6 and a half years so don't think it would be much and I'm going speak to my doc first before I do anything I will ring him on tues when he gets bk from holiday

[TheAuthor]

I want to genuinely and sincerely wish you all the best of luck.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken