Another failed implantation…

[Wishing2023]

I’ve just tested today after my 3rd FET using my embryos created from my younger sister’s donor eggs. Another negative & failed implantation. This time my lining wasn’t thick enough at my first scan (is usually fine) so they put me on progesterone tablets x 3 times a day as well as pessaries twice a day. I was on the highest steroids, blood thinner injections, hydroxychloroquine sulphate before transfer & doubled after, doxycycline for 10 days before transfer, 2 x trips to a clinic in Sutton Coldfield for Intralipid infusions, reflexology & acupuncture sessions. I tried to eat as healthy as possible (high antioxidants, low mercury & no processed foods). Had lots of sleep & tried not to get stressed as I started back at school as a teacher after my transfer on 29th August.

All my waiting, time, effort, money & not going away on a holiday seems a complete waste of time.

Hiding away in my bed today before being Maid of Honour for the same little sister this Friday. I’m not telling her my bad news until after the wedding. I don’t want to take anything away from her special day.

I’ve got 3 more blastocysts left & will try again after I’ve had my follow up with the Recurrent Miscarriage consultant. Really worried I’m running out of time & chances. I’m 43 & have been trying to get & stay pregnant since I was 39. 💔😢

[minny_223]

I’m so sorry to read your post, it’s just heartbreaking, especially when you have been through so much to get here. It feels deeply unfair.

Just know that you’re an absolute warrior for everything you’ve been through. I’m thinking of you and sending love and strength xxx

[Wishing2023 in reply to minny_223]

Thank you for your kind words & thoughts 💔😢

[Crazycatlady007]

so sorry to hear this news - I really feel for you.

This whole process is exhausting and cruel.

Sending you so much love and hope for the future xxxxx

[Wishing2023 in reply to Crazycatlady007]

Thank you for your kind words 💔😢

[Thierry101]

I’m so sorry, it’s just so awful.

I have also had 3 failed transfers, with 5 embryos, and there is no heartbreak quite like it.

Sending you loads of love. X

[Wishing2023 in reply to Thierry101]

Thank you. Sending love & strength back to you to continue too x

[Mercury363]

Ask your clinic about prp treatment. Your protocol echoes mine and it was the missing link for my successful transfer. My lining went from 6.6 to over 10, I had never made it over 7 in any scan. Did they have you on low dose aspirin?

[Wishing2023 in reply to Mercury363]

I will do thank you. I’ve never had any issues with my lining before this transfer - it was not far off at 6.5 but they left me another week for it to thicken more. Aspirin was mentioned but only from a positive pregnancy.

[Lelo3479]

So sorry for you 😔🙏💐❤️ hope things start going well for you soon xxx

[Wishing2023 in reply to Lelo3479]

Thank you x

[Beclp]

Hey x it’s just the worst feeling. All the effort you have put in to just to get a broken heart 💔 I’ve been through it many times.

My last transfer with my last embryo I tried specialised probiotics for women as I read somewhere the implantation rates were much higher with higher levels of these bacteria in the womb

It worked and not sure if it’s what did it but could be worth a try for your next one xx

[Wishing2023 in reply to Beclp]

I’m sorry you’ve been through it too. Would you mind sending me the name of the probiotics? Thank you x

[Beclp in reply to Wishing2023]

It’s called optibac for women. I used it for a couple of months before my transfer

Wishing you all the best xxx 💗

Take some time and regroup

You have 3 more to try. Stay hopeful 💫 it really does only take one 🌸

[Wishing2023 in reply to Beclp]

Thank you for that. I know everyone says that but I’ve gone from 26 eggs that we collected from my sister to 17 embryos created. After thawing & 3 transfers I’m now down to 3 blastocysts left. It’s worrying & scary 😬

[Beclp in reply to Wishing2023]

Tell me about it. I had 43 eggs taken out and ended up with 6 embryos

It was my last one that worked and at 44 I wasn’t going to do anymore cycles.

I know it feels hopeless each time you get a failed one but it could be the next one that works for you. 💫 stay hopeful

[Wishing2023 in reply to Beclp]

Wow! You must have felt relief! Thank you for sharing x

[Beclp in reply to Wishing2023]

I pray your next cycle works 🙏💗💫

[Wishing2023 in reply to Beclp]

Thank you x

[Tinkertinkerbell]

Hi, I’m also 43 and currently pregnant following my 5th transfer. I thought it would never happen for me. I had 4 failed transfers. 2 from my own eggs and 2. From donor eggs. I only had 1 embryo left from my donor eggs so I did the EMA, Alice and ERA tests. The findings were that I needed an extra 30 hours of progesterone and lots of probiotics before transfer. I was sceptical but it worked! 27 weeks and all going well so far. I would recommend those tests as it was what finally worked for me after a long journey. Good luck x

[Wishing2023 in reply to Tinkertinkerbell]

Thank you so much. I will mention this to my consultant. Please can I ask if these tests were done on the NHS or privately? Where did you have them & how much did they cost? Congratulations to you! I hope everything continues to go well for you x

[Tinkertinkerbell in reply to Wishing2023]

Thank you.

I paid privately at Care Fertility. The EMA, Alice and ERA was £1,700 with £190 meds x

[Wishing2023 in reply to Tinkertinkerbell]

Thank you x

[Looom]

I'm so sorry, I just want to let you know I feel your pain so deeply. I just got a BFN this morning and can't bring myself to get out of bed, I completely understand how you are feeling. You are a great sister, and lucky to have her support ❤️ We can pick ourselves up and try again... wishing you all the luck in the world ✨️🙏

[Wishing2023 in reply to Looom]

Thank you so much for your supportive words. I’m so sorry that you have experienced a sad result too 😢