First day of 2024 and I have nothing to be positive about š
Feeling so low as the past 4 years has just been heartache!
Donāt know how to pick myself back up again itās just very lonely as all my friends are pregnant as well one announcement last night.
Give yourself some time, itās all fresh and raw. Then on to your next steps. šŖš»
So sorry to hear this š„ It's just unfair and heartbreaking. I always found it helpful to think about the other things I could try moving forward. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Sending lots of love xx
You have 2024 to be positive about! You are officially a day, week, month, closer to having your baby!! Just because youāre not at the same pace as your friends, doesnāt mean that you wonāt overtake them. I know it feels crappy right now, but it will all be worth it I promise you that. You have it in you to keep going, youāve come so farā¦that far that youāre even closer to getting that babe. The turtle and the hareā¦ slow and steady but you will win in the end ā¤ļøš¤š¼
thank you for such a lovely encouraging message.
I feel rubbish for even comparing myself and my journey to people around me but canāt help it.
You are right just need to believe and be positive x
My husband sometimes gets annoyed at me for the comparison with friends but it is really hard not to do when everyone around you gets exactly what you want and can't have. The way I explain it to him is that I'm not jealous - I don't wish them ill - and I am genuinely very happy for my friends getting great news, but I can't avoid the fact it is like a big mirror being held up showing me everything I should have and don't. And that makes me sad. But other people's happiness doesn't impact your position except to the extent you let it make you feel sad, so just take some time yourself to be sad and recognise your own hurt and the fact it is coming from your infertility and not their fertility, and know you will start to feel better soon š. Getting into that frame of mind helps me deal with the good news, most of the time! x
Only natural to compare, I still do it now, and still feel things are unfair when I hear pregnancy announcements. Not that Iām not happy for them, just wish it story was easier thatās all. You are incredible for coming this far, some days you might feel that itās broken you but itās really just made you, and the rest of us, stronger and I feel more appreciative when we get the end result. And the community that itās brought to us is a blessing ā¤ļø
gosh itās tough hey
Sending u lots of strength to get through this and stay strong for the next one.
Iāve been there and a good friend of mine who had trouble conceiving said you think itās never going to happen and then I just does š«š
Morning, I know that feeling all too well. Just know that youāre not alone, and you will get through this. Of my friends (lots of us have had fertility problems), itās taken an average of 5 years to have a baby - just something to bear in mind. We all thought it wouldnāt happen, but it can. Hold on to that hope x x
Iām also feeling very low , kind of in a dark spot after recent failed transfer. But itās the case after all failed transfers or MC or termination. Itās gonna take few months and Iām sure I will survive this . Looking back gives me chills cos journey started in 2018 and I donāt know how I got thru each year of heartaches but I did . So yea again will have to hit restart . Because Iām not ready to give up yet . Iām sure you will pick up yourself and restart again .
This was me at your age - I was 36, TTC for 6 years, and going into IVF that had been cancelled mid treatment for a year due to lockdowns, finding Christmases extremely hard and feeling at New Year like everyone else had 'overtaken' me and I had such a long road ahead just to get started. Two back to back early losses on fresh transfers left me even more deflated. But then the third transfer/first FET, it just worked. Since having my LG I tried again and had a pretty traumatic PUL on another (awful round) fresh transfer and a BFN on a FET, then it happened naturally while waiting for another FET. So that's three rounds, five transfers, five pregnancies, three losses, one BFN, two successess (and a partridge in a pear tree...) in the space of three years. It's mad and emotionally and physically exhausting, and financially ruinous, but if I went back in time to NY three years ago and could tell myself that I'd have a LG and be 6mnths pregnant - overtaking some friends - I would have said that's a nice dream, sadly it doesn't work like that in reality so please pass me the clemetine vodka and leftover Xmas pudding and let me wallow. Your feelings are valid and totally understandable, but just don't lose hope. And try not to compare yourself to everyone else and their situations because that's not your life and yours has taken a different route to get to where you want to be, maybe a bit longer and harder but you have time and as much chance as anyone else on here x
Thank you for your reply, Iām thankful for such an amazing support from all of you and gives me hope to carry on. Itās hard the first few days to stay positive and pick myself back up and start again.
Iām going to try and not compare myself as itās only making myself upset and takes away my own energy and you are right this is my journey and I should only look ahead and not get distracted from my own goal. Xx
I know exactly how you feel - really hard to stay positive especially when everyone around you is falling pregnant.
Hang in there - your time will come
KHRAM this was me for 6 years, I was so exhausted of trying but it worked eventually. Keep your chin up, itās so hard when you are in the thick of it I know. Be kind to yourself, do some nice things with your partner whilst waiting for the next attempt, buy yourself little gifts for getting through each stage. Stay strong xx
Breathe. Go through the emotions and then keep going. Wish you all the best. x
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