Another Fail

[Applepie7]

Another BFN, Another Heart Break.

Lost for words to be honest, tears have dried feeling nothing...guess Im use to seeing negative pregnancy tests.. been there got the tshirt!

Consultant away until next week.

Didn't know where to turn or who to speak to so Im pouring my heart to you lovely people who despite having your own heartache are always here to show suppprt love and care.

I have Embroys on ice. Thinking to go straight for another transfer feel under pressure because of my age.

Does anyone know how soon after a fresh embroy transer fail can I start the next transfer? Just need something to get on with I guess. Thanks for listening.

[Klndmr]

I'm so sorry it's a negative 🥺this journey is sooo bloody hard! My old clinic would normally wait for a bleed following fresh transfer, one normal bleed and then start FET preparation on the third bleeding. They always wanted one normal period in-between transfers. Take some time to recover... Sending love, hugs and positive thoughts your way ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🍀🍀🍀🍀

[Applepie7 in reply to Klndmr]

Thank you. Hope all goes well with you glad to hear you already have 2 Embryos in the freezer x

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Keep speaking to your other half- you will be a good support to each other at times like thisTake it easy and look after yourself

Thinking of you

Janet

[Millbanks]

Hi lovely, sorry to read this. It's heartbreaking 💔

Have you thought about doing any testing before you go ahead with your next FET?

We had several fails before doing an ERA test and Immunology tests.

Turned out that my window of implantation was out by 24 hours, and my natural killer cells were really high - so an extra day of progesterone and some steroids / intralipids and I'm 37 weeks pregnant.

Might be worth talking it through with your consultant before putting back any more precious embies.

xx

[Applepie7 in reply to Millbanks]

I havent but will speak to my consultant about it. Thanks so much.

[Hope-and-faith in reply to Millbanks]

We were in similar situation, multiple implantation fails then did ERA test and my window was 24hrs out meaning I needed extra day of progesterone. Then I actually started getting pregnant but miscarrying. We did a Chicago immunology test and long story short for our 9th transfer we followed ERA timing and I took steroids and this has resulted in my beautiful daughter being born. She will be one next month.

[Applepie7 in reply to Hope-and-faith]

Aww congratulations! Thanks for sharing will look into getting these tests done as many have suggested. Enjoy making memories with your little 1 x

[ClaireB24]

So sorry to hear this lovely, it’s so heartbreaking. I was advised the same as Klmdmr, take a cycles rest before trying again. And give herself some time to process it. After my BFNs I’ve always wanted to act straight away, but with a few weeks hindsight the break is good for me. But everyone is different and action may be just what you need. I wish you all the best for next try, and as Millbanks says maybe additional investigations are worth considering xxx

[Applepie7 in reply to ClaireB24]

Thank you for your kind words I think I will need to wait until I have my next period and scans.

[AuroraXen]

Oh #%*k!! I'm so sorry 😞 It's just the worst. There are no words. I know you've had such a tough time so I'm really sad to see this. I'm glad at least you have more frosties but I know how disappointing this all is 💔 Sending lots of love xx

[Applepie7 in reply to AuroraXen]

Many thanks!

[Hoping20]

So sorry to read about your BFN. They are so so hard to deal with and overcome. Give yourself some time. As you know, these first few days are always the hardest. Take extra care and here’s wishing you all the very best with your next steps. Take care x

[Applepie7 in reply to Hoping20]

Thank you x

[Kitca]

So sorry for your negative and loss, i waited a few months to let my system back to normal which i think is recommended. Only do it when you feel it is right for you . Im in tww now and dreading test day. Wishing you lots of love and hope you are kind to yourself x

[Applepie7 in reply to Kitca]

Thank you so much best of luck with your TWW finers and toes crossed x

[PinkPanther1234]

So sorry to see this, they are so hard 😔 Take some time to heal and the follow up appointment will hopefully help and you can develop a new plan. It is great you have some on ice waiting for you. As a couple of others have said, maybe ask your consultant about some extra testing. I am in the same position and going to ask about some additional testing at follow up, before going for more transfers. Good luck, I know how hard it is feeling like this x

[Applepie7 in reply to PinkPanther1234]

Thanks Pink Panther will speak to my consultant and see what he suggests I just feel exhausted with all the waiting. Waiting for rest results, waiting,for period, waitingbto see of folicles are growing, waiting to see embroys fertilsed and reached blacostoycts so much waiting but then again the best comes to those who wait or say they say! Wish you all the best in your journey ❤

[Hidden]

Oh no! I am so sorry, I was so rooting for you.

Like the others have said my clinic allowed you to do an FET fairly quickly after a fresh transfer, normally one bleed and then start meds with the next cycle. Sometimes I think back to back can work as the body is still topped up with the previous drugs. I am no medic so that's not a qualified view - I've just seen it quite a lot on here. Huge hugs xx

[Applepie7 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Daisy appreciate it will see what my consultant says. I hope you are keeping well x

[Positivechangeplease]

Awww it’s so hard. I feel for you. Well I never had a fresh transfer but I’m sure it’s the same if it’s a medicated transfer and realistically you can go on the next cycle. Personally I waited another cycle to fit in a holiday and get my body back to normal along with some acupuncture etc. but essentially if you get your period you can do it in that cycle.

[Applepie7 in reply to Positivechangeplease]

Thanks x

[Eternalwarrior]

I am so so so sorry, lovely. This is so hard and heartbreaking 😥I have never been able to do any fresh transfers, unfortunately, but I found the FETs much easier on my my body than when I was doing stims. I had to wait at least a cycle in between stims and FET.Every time we got a BFN or bad news (we have had our share too), we tried to book something 'nice' to be looking forward to. It doesn't take your pain away, but I found it helped a little. Sending you lots of strength and positive vibes xx

[Applepie7 in reply to Eternalwarrior]

Thank you dear for your support. I appreciate it. X

[TTCWithCHSweetheart]

This sounds EXCATLY like me this time last year. Another cycle failed and I was ready to jump straight into my first ever frozen cycle. The clinic said I had to wait around 2-3 months before I’d be at the stage of transfer which really upset me, but in hindsight it’s just the time that’s needed to get your period, start a new cycle and transfer at the right time. (Hindsight is a wonderful thing).

I remember the day my fresh cycle (this was cycle 4 for me) failed. I was heartbroken and didn’t know where to turn or what to do. Every single hour was agony and I didn’t want to think about how long is still be in this horrid journey.

This won’t be the same for everyone but like I say, your message sounds identical to me and guess what, my frozen cycle worked. I am now sat with my beautiful 5 week old on my chest.

Take a breath, a hot bath, lots of nice walks, eat well, sleep well and drink lots of waters and have faith. You can do this!

Sending lots of positive thoughts and love your way. Here if you fancy a chat xx

[Jana483]

I started on the same period I got from thy failed fresh transfer. (though everyone told me to wait to calm down mentally but I just wanted to do anything to take the pain away)

I am so sorry I know exactly how you feel (been through 4 negative transfers) but I remember feeling hopeful for my ice embies.

[Applepie7 in reply to Jana483]

Yes I just want to get on with it so I feel like im actually doing something because if you are still in the game just gives you hope and numbs the pain. Wish you all the best x

[Jana483 in reply to Applepie7]

I know exactly how you feel, wish you the best as well!!Just to give you hope I had 3 failed transfers and the fourth worked and I am now pregnant so don't lose hope it only take one good embryo!

[Booikin]

It's been a while since I was in this position, but I seem to remember I had to have a break of 3 months, but that may well have changed. Hang in there xx