We had the follow up appointment this morning after our disastrous last cycle ending in no transfer. Our consultant spelled it out to us, another attempt would likely give a less than 10% chance of success, so it was obvious. We’ve spoken briefly about moving onto DE before but now we know it’s time.
A few tears in the clinic and the car park, but I’ve come away feeling like a weight has been lifted. Four egg collections, three transfers and one chemical, I can’t put myself through it again. My AMH is verging on non- existent and my egg quality is crap. The consultant gave us a 60% chance of success with DE, so that versus our crappy probability is just a no- brainer. Thankfully the waiting list is very short through our clinic, and we will be added to the list as soon as possible.
I know there will be a lot more emotions to come and tears to cry, but it’s time to move on and accept that it just will never happen with my own eggs. There’s a woman out there somewhere with some eggs she’s prepared to donate and I could be the lucky one to use them!
So for now, I’m off to Germany on Friday to drink all the bier I’ve deprived myself of for so long. Here’s to the next step! 🤞🍻🥰 xx
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It’s such a difficult and emotional decision. I found that once we had made that decision to move on to DE and I had come to terms with it, I really felt the pressure lift from me. After several unsuccessful rounds of using my own eggs, it was a relief to think it wasn’t all down to me anymore and I finally was able to give myself a bit of a break and get back to being me a bit more.
Even though we haven’t had success yet with DE, I’ve found the process much less stressful, and hopefully you will too. The counselling the clinics offer is useful too.
Have the best time in Germany you deserve it and that beer! ❤️
Relief is definitely how I’d describe it, for now anyway! I know I’ve tried my hardest with my own eggs so won’t look back and think what if?! Best of luck with your journey! Xx
Hey NemoThat's so refreshing to hear that you feel a weight has been lifted. The pressure of going through treatment when you've had lots of disappointments along the way is exhausting and really affects our wellbeing. I hope that this new direction will allow you to feel more hopeful once again. Of course as you say I'm sure there will be so many emotions involved but you'll get through them and onto the other side. I have to also say that seeing posts like this helps me on my own journey to moving closer to donor eggs (likely to be my next port of call if transfer fails) so thank you for sharing this xx
I think I do have a renewed inkling of hope now, the next step is an hour long consultation about it all in more depth and I’m looking forward to it. I never started ivf thinking this would be the direction it went in, but I’m looking at it more and more like how fortunate I am that this is an option, and it definitely makes it easier xx
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Donor egg appointment 
Terrified waiting for embryo transfer, will they make it?
<5% chance of success with own eggs
Decision made
