Not great odds!!

[Winniebear1]

Well, today we got confirmation that we have been booked in for transfer on Sunday. We are using donor eggs with my DH sperm. Both were frozen as DH has had a failed vasectomy reversal.

We had 9 eggs, 5 thawed successfully but only 2 fertilised.

When I spoke to the endrometriologist, I got the impression that these 2 weren't looking good.

I'm not sure if that was just me but she said she would be in touch if they didn't survive and may even tell us when we get to the surgery for the transfer.

Is this normal?

Am I being a pessimist and should I be thankful that we have 2 chances.

Feeling really down at the moment but feel I should not be feeling this way. Really beating myself up.

This may be our one and only chance due to my age.😞

[Heichi26]

I think they really have to manage expectations; I had a very similar call today about our fertilised eggs (2) and how they don’t expect all to make it to blasto etc. I’m not sure how much they can tell on day1; is it a case of fertilised or not, or can they determine quality? I thought the former. I know they can tell more on days 3 and obviously 5. Try and sit tight and wait for the next update. I don’t underestimate how hard that is . I’m right here in the same boat and I feel your pain . Take good care of yourself 💗💗

[Winniebear1 in reply to Heichi26]

It is just so hard, you want to stay positive but there is always that niggling little voice trying to steel the joy.Sending positive good vibes your way and hoping you get good news and a successful transfer.

Look after yourself too and please let me know how you get on.

❤️

[HollyT7]

.24 follicles, 16 collected, 9 mature, 3 fertilised. Fresh Transfer BFP with early loss, second transfer (3 in May), third transfer (6 months old). I had no hope, but look at me knee deep in nappies…you just need to have a little luck on your side, there is no reason that you can’t have just as much luck as me. Thinking of you xxx 🤞

[Winniebear1 in reply to HollyT7]

congratulations on your two little miracles, this gives me hope

Thank you

X

[M_fox]

think it’s normal. My donor clinic was in Spain and we were scheduled for fet (donor eggs for us) and we had to get there the day before, go to the clinic.. I was all changed for transfer when they then confirmed if the embryo had thawed successfully, it’s a rollercoaster of emotions and stress! Good luck for Sunday xxx