Tough day

[Bluedestiny]

Went in for egg collection today they only got 4 eggs I am absolutely gutted I knew I wouldn’t get a lot but 4 is just really disappointed I have low AMH but I’m only 33. We have male issues as well so we waited at the clinic for a few hours whilst the embryologist did the test we needed to do so they’ve already told us that one of the eggs was immature and another ruptured. They have injected 2 and we will find out tomorrow if they have fertilised. Honestly I’m shattered the rollercoaster of emotions is tough. I know there’s 2 chances but I could tell from the embryologist that she didn’t look hopeful. IF and it’s a big IF any get this far we will be having a 3 day transfer. Just wanted to get it off my chest as I’m feeling really deflated x

[Idril]

Hi there, I had nearly the same !!! At 32 I only got 2 egg collected where my AMH is normalish (14), I was gutted but got 1 blastocyst as only 1 mature egg, it didn't work forme that time but that's just me. I guess the embryologist never look optimistic, they only tell you fact... So I understand your feeling. But I really hope this will work for you, we never know !!

[Bluedestiny in reply to Idril]

Sorry to hear about your failed cycle. Have you started a second cycle following this and if so what changes were made? I’m frustrated I think more than anything I felt like I should have stimmed for longer tbh x

[Idril in reply to Bluedestiny]

I am not a good example ! Lol I did 3 actually, the second one was much better than the first though, I was more relaxed and optimistic, I got a BFP but sadly ended with ectopic. I did exactly the same protocol, just took 2 more days of stims and got 7 eggs this time. However my third time was a big flop and I wasn't confident at all doing it again and scared a bit so I don't know, I totally understand your feeling, if they did the collection too early it can make a difference...

[Bluedestiny in reply to Idril]

I’m so sorry to hear this and I totally understand about the uncertainty i really feel for you it’s so difficult. We’ve had a difficult time before even getting to the first round where we thought even ivf wasn’t possible it’s such a hard journey. Good luck with whatever you decide either way it will be a brave decision. You are a warrior to go through it 3 times xx

[Idril in reply to Bluedestiny]

Thank you!! I don't know yet what to do... I am not I am not too old yet but time flies !!! Good luck to you, I hope you will have a better outcome than me ! Xx

[IVFat40]

I just wanted to say I'm so sorry you're going through this, IVF is so so tough. I also wanted to add a little hope, my sister in law went through IVF when she was a year or two older than you, they ended up with just one embryo, who is now a gorgeous 5 year old! I definitely don't mean to dismiss how worried you're feeling, which is totally understandable, but do believe that at your age you've got a really good chance even if you end up with just one embryo.

[Bluedestiny in reply to IVFat40]

Thank you this gives me hope. It’s just a load of bull really I hate that we all go through so much to be faced with constant disappointment x

[Nevergiveup21]

I couldn’t read and run. So so sorry today never went as planned. This journey is so bloody tough. Your young and should have plenty of good eggs and so many people find that one good egg. So hard when your in that position though and you feel like it will never happen for you and peoples words of encouragement just feel so empty because it’s not their situation. I will be over here sending you so much love and positive vibes and I full of hope that you will get your little baby in this cycle or the next. Little changes to protocols can sometimes make huge difference to how each cycle goes. Thinking of you xxx

[Bluedestiny in reply to Nevergiveup21]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I am a realist and tbh I never expected the first time to work I just wish we’d got better results to give a bit more hope. I know it’s not over yet its just difficult to take xx

[Gemstar20]

Please hang in there , I’m 36 with low AMH, went to EC and got 3 eggs, luckily all fertilised and turned to embryos, waiting tomorrow now to see if any turned to blastocysts, I know you prob hear it all the time, but it takes one golden egg, you have two potentials at the moment, don’t give up just yet xxx

[Bluedestiny in reply to Gemstar20]

Thanks Gem got my fingers crossed for good news for you tomorrow xx

[AuroraXen]

So sorry to hear this Bluedestiny. I know how stressful and disappointing it is, after going through so much! Try not to lose heart yet, there are SO many success stories with 2 mature eggs. I also fully understand though that deep down, most of us obviously want lots of eggs as we figure that gives us a better chance of having something to transfer after the 'drop-off'. I have low AMH and am 40 now, and have my day 8 scan tomorrow to see how many follicles are developing. Honestly, I have absolutely NO idea what they'll see... On my second (most recent) IVF attempt I had about 13 or 14 follicles in total, and got 7 eggs, 4 of which were mature. But this was 18 months ago so Goodness knows what is happening this cycle!! 😬 I'm keeping everything crossed for some good news for you xx

[Bluedestiny in reply to AuroraXen]

I’m just frustrated I know in the IVF world I am young (I think this upsets me more because i see so many that get double figures at my age although I know numbers aren’t everything like you say you can’t help but focus on it) but I’m also conscious how long things take and don’t want time to pass by. Good luck with your scan tomorrow let me know how it goes sending lots of luck and love to you. Also just read your story, sorry you haven’t had any success yet but really beautiful to read about your marriage xx

[AuroraXen in reply to Bluedestiny]

Thank you so much for your lovely words 😘 I know, it's so often just horrible. I remember my first cycle I was so gutted I got 5 eggs because I'd read stuff about people getting in the high teens and figured that was pretty common at any age 🤔 My doctor wasn't too chatty so I really didn't know what to expect! Well, off to do my shots! xx

[BabyM2021]

I felt exactly the same as you. I’m 34 & got 4 eggs. We had 1 make it to blastocyst & I’m now nearly 7 weeks pregnant. I know it’s really hard & you’ve probably been told this but it really does only take one.

Big hugs to you. IVF is tough & mentally it’s the most difficult thing I’ve ever been through xxx

[SR90]

I’m sorry to hear you’re having a tough time. I can understand, I’ve actually had 2 rounds so far this year and had total failed fertilisation on both rounds! I’m only 31.

I’m not being negative because actually you still have two chances 🤞😊, but IF you need another cycle, could you maybe ask them to change or adjust your protocol? What meds etc have you been on this time? X

[Bluedestiny in reply to SR90]

Hi those two are now out unfortunately one didn’t survive the injection and one didn’t fertilise. I was on 450 menopur and then fyrmedal from day 6. I feel like either they didn’t let me stim long enough because I had a cluster of smaller follicles but they obviously didn’t grow enough or I have just been pumped full of the highest dose and the eggs were then rubbish. I don’t know I’m not sure what I need to ask or anything yet it’s such a kick in gut x

[Rabbit89 in reply to Bluedestiny]

So so sorry for you….. my daughter was the same first time round.They changed her meds and increased and she did a double trigger too. She also had to do 12 weeks of DHEA to see if any improvement to egg quality plus other supplements. Also her husband ( issues there too) took added supplements, plus Omega 3 .

Better results the next time in January….

I always said to her you have to hope……. She is 32.

❤️…. Sending big hugs xxx

[SR90 in reply to Bluedestiny]

I’m sorry you’ve had bad news, I fully appreciate what you’ve said further down, it’s over before it started. I had the same feeling. But try not to be too put off doing it again. I think your clinic will (or should) look at your protocol and rejig it. I was swapped from Gonal F 450 to Menopur 450 but I ended up stimming this time for 14 days (11 day with Gonal). I also extended my trigger by 2 hours and my egg quality was much better this time.

It’s all about finding what works best for you and the first thing the clinic should do on your review is work out the best way to change it going forwards. X

[Leea1984]

Hi I only had 1 egg retrieved and was really upset at the time. I’m now 25 weeks pregnant with that 1 egg, they always said it only takes 1 egg and they was right at the clinic! Quality over quantity good luck to you xxx

[Fertility2021]

Hey my last cycle didn’t end in pregnancy but I only had 2 follicles and got 1 egg it developed into 3AB embryo and was transferred! I got BFN but don’t give up hope you have such a good chance try and be positive 🥰

[Jane8412]

Hey- I am so sorry you are going through this. I also have low AMH and my AFC count before stims was 2! I understand the crushing disappointment from a disappointing round. I woke up from my second round of IVF in Jan expecting to get 4 eggs and they only got 2. I was so upset. Day 1 the embryologist said only one fertilised normally. On day 3 I was left with 1 average looking embryo that they did not have high hopes for making it to day 5 to freeze (I was meant to be banking). I requested we changed to a day 3 fresh transfer. I was 21 weeks pregnant yesterday. I call him my miracle baby as he is my first ever BFP. I just wanted to give you some hope that it really only does take that one egg! Sending you all the luck xx

[Bluedestiny]

Thank you everyone for your kind words the clinic have called me already this morning sadly one egg didn’t survive the injection and the other didn’t fertilise so that’s it first round over without even getting started. I don’t even know what I feel now except that my expectations going forward are zero x

[MLeigh in reply to Bluedestiny]

I’m so sorry to hear about your experience with your first round of ivf. How many days did you STIM for? Also, have your read the book “It starts with the egg”? I followed some of the protocols in that book and I had great success with my egg retrieval. Perhaps take a few months off and follow the protocol and then try again. A lot of Doctors will tell you supplements and diet don’t make much of a difference, but I’ve seen many success stories! I believe the book has advice for males as well. I also did acupuncture for about 2 months leading up to my egg retrieval. I believe acupuncture is VERY beneficial! Hope this helps. I hate to see women do rounds and rounds of ivf, without success. A lot of times you have to look at the whole picture of why you have low AMH. If you get a good acupuncturist, they can really give you a lot of info and guide you along this journey. You are still young and early in your journey, don’t lose hope!

[Bluedestiny in reply to MLeigh]

Hi MLeigh I stimmed for 11 days I didn’t feel it was long enough because on my last scan on day 10 of stims I only had 2 follicles that were over 18mm. But I don’t know if there’s a reason they stop maybe if the big ones get too big I don’t know. I feel really frustrated with it all, I have asked for a follow up with my consultant who isn’t available until 13th July which I just don’t feel is ok to leave it that long so I am having a follow up with a different consultant next week. I really feel like I’ve just been left and it’s like ‘oh well tough’ which is upsetting. I’ve got the book so i am going to read it and get all the info xx

[MLeigh in reply to Bluedestiny]

I stimmed for 12 days and had good results. I was on the low end. I think my clinic goes up to 14. My STIMS consisted of Menopur and Gonal-F. They had me order 2 doses of Novarel, which I didn’t end up needing in the end. My nurse said that is for women who end up needing extra STIMS. Did you use the Novarel? I think if you read and implement what you’ve learned from the book you aren’t left just waiting, you are implementing and making changes yourself! I think it will be great for your mindset!

[Pittuck23]

Hey, I’m so sorry to hear about your situation however I wanted my experience.I started the fertility process at 32, found I had very low AMH levels and was pushed to ivf. I was told before I started to take DHEA tablets 3 times a day for 3 months prior to my treatment starting. I did as the consultant said. I went into egg collection- 4 collected, 1 died 3 5 day blastos manifested. I had my 1st fresh transfer which resulted in my 4 year old daughter and I froze the other 2. I started again last July, the 2nd embryo didn’t work and the third and last embryo resulted in my 2 week old son. I’m now 37 years old, and am heading into early menopause. Please don’t think because of age it cannot work for you. I had one round of ivf and out of the three embryos I have two beautiful babies.

Good luck with everything and sending you hugs xxx

[jengi]

Hi lovely, I’ve been through similar. I know waiting for that dreaded call feels like an age. I’ll keep everything crossed for you. With low AMH, I would say 4 follicles & 2 eggs is a good result so try not feel too deflated. All you need is to find one lucky egg that is good quality. It might be one of those in the lab right now. I’ll keep everything crossed for you. Remember whatever the result it’s another piece of valuable information to help the experts tweak your treatment going forward. I was told to treat my first cycle as an investigation and if we ended up with a transfer or pregnancy then that would be the icing on the cake. I now know that this was a very reasonable expectation but needless to say I wished so hard for success. I’ll keep everything crossed for you Xx