delayed miscarriage

[KHRAM]

I just went for my 3rd scan today at 7 weeks and they couldn’t see the heartbeat, In the previous scan they saw the foetal pole and said come back next week to see if they can see the heartbeat, now they saying because the is no heartbeat after a week that I am having a delayed miscarriage, I’m heartbroken as I fell pregnant naturally before my appointment with IVF clinic. I have no bleeding or pain.They gave me options to have surgery or wait and see, I don’t know what to do now could it be a mistake ? Should I wait? They won’t do another scan. I don’t know what to do

[Habibi87]

Hi KHRAM, I am sorry to hear of what you are going thorough. Is it EPU who had advised you that you are having a missed miscarriage? How many day passed between the two scans and had the foetal pole changed in anyway ? When I was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage of twins (naturally conceived) I found it really hard to do decide what to do as I kept on thinking what if they have made a mistake? Both scans however showed that based on dimensions of each embryo there should have definetely been a heartbeat and that they had stopped growing. There was a part of me that wanted to do nothing, but I’m glad I opted for surgical management as I had no physical pain and could focus on my emotional recovery. I send you lots of love and strength x

[KHRAM in reply to Habibi87]

yeah it was EPU. I had my first scan on 3rd of March where they saw the yolk sac then two weeks later on 16th March and there was foetal pole but not heart been and then a week later today, they said they should of seen heartbeat, they couldn’t see that so they said delayed miscarriage and offered me option of surgery. I’m in denial I’m so heartbroken I just can’t believe it’s happening again.

[Habibi87 in reply to KHRAM]

It’s really really unfair. I am so sorry for all your pain and heartbrake. All your feelings are completely valid and understandable. Do you have support around you?

[KHRAM]

it is so unfair I know I’m not the only one, I’m so sorry for your loss too.

I do have support but I just feel so helpless and alone

[Gerbear22]

Hi there.I’m so sorry for what you are going through and can understand your pain.This also happened to me.At 5+6 only empty sac seen.At 7+1 everything was seen apart from the heart beat.Told I either got my dates wrong or miscarriage.Scan again at 8+2 still no heartbeat and sac had grown so missed miscarriage confirmed.I never had any bleeding or pain.I opted for surgical management as I just wanted everything over and done with after being in turmoil and in a constant state of distress for 3 weeks.Had D&C at 9 weeks-still never had any pain or bleeding.The doc said I could have another scan the morning of the D&C for peace of mind for myself which I was grateful for as like you a tiny part of me kept thinking it was a mistake.Sending lots of love your way.xx