So after our scan showed that the pregnancy sac was abnormal at 5w4d we had a second scan a week later to confirm that the pregnancy wasn’t viable. The second scan at 6w4d showed that there had been some changes although the foetus still wasn’t the right size and only a very faint slow heartbeat could be detected. Because there had been changes they couldn’t confirm that the pregnancy was definitely not viable so we had to wait another week to scan again. The final scan at 8w1d confirmed that the baby had sadly died.
I opted for medical miscarriage management at home because it felt less intrusive than having the surgical procedure I’d had 3 years ago when I miscarried plus I understood that there was less risk of damaging my lining this way.
They inserted the pessaries at the hospital then I went home. After about 4 hours I had bad period pains and some quite heavy bleeding when I went to the loo but not much on the pad. The pains had subsided by nighttime. It really wasn’t as painful or heavy as I had expected and so I was worried that the miscarriage wasn’t complete, I thought it would be more obvious. I was scanned again on Monday and they confirmed they couldn’t see anything remaining.
These last 4 weeks of scanning have been another extended limbo when we’ve known it was over but we couldn’t really move on until the miscarriage was complete. I’ve gone back to work today and reality is really starting to hit me that we’ve lost the baby and our dream is over 😥 It just seems so cruel and unfair. Don’t know where we’re going to go now.
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Hey 👋 thank you for thinking of me. Tuesday would be my second due date so I’m a bit sensitive at the moment. I really appreciate you asking after me with what you’re going through xx
So very sorry lovely, it's so unfair the process of waiting scanning and then confirmation of the dreaded news. Take care if yourself hun and grieve. Like Tugs said you'll be back up and fighting when your ready. Sending lots of love and hugs your way 💗😘
Aww Lovely, I've just replied to your message before seeing this post 😢 reality is horrible when it hits. Sending such a huge hug, and hoping the next 2 days till the weekend pass quickly. You could always ask the doc to be signed off still if your not ready xxx
Thanks hon 😘 I don’t feel like I can be off work any longer as I’ve not been in the office for 3 weeks with working from home, then a weeks holiday then a week off sick. Doesn’t help that my job is pants! 😝 As you say though at least it’s a short week. Hope you’re feeling a bit better today xxx
Thank you 😊Big congrats on your BFP! Do you mind me asking how you found out your OH’s chromosomes were linked to early MC? I’ve had 2 MMCs now, we’ve got 3 embies in the freezer from DE treatment and I’m wondering if there’s an abnormality there which means there’s no point trying again x
We had karyotyping, it’s a blood test where they check your chromosomes. We paid for it as part of a suite of tests from our fertility clinic so I’m not sure how much it costs on its own, but once hubbie was diagnosed, his family have been able to be tested for free (and unfortunately his brother also has it).
Sorry to hear your sad news. I recently had a miscarriage in Nov. After our IVF didn't work we had started going through the adoption process only to find 8 years after trying we got pregnant. We were so happy and feeling blessed it was fantastic news. Had as scan at 6 weeks and the was so strong heart beat which was good and the same at 8 weeks. Only then to start bleeding at 11 weeks when we then found out our little miracle had died at 9w 6d. I was devastated and so was my husband. We can had the hardest Xmas ever after thinking we would be excited Xmas time thinking it was the last one as the 2 of us. Plus I found out my sister in law was 6 weeks pregnant on Xmas Eve which was hard. There is no words anyone can say that will make you feel better. Mother's Day was my worst and I spent most of the day crying by myself. After I did that I feel like I can cope better with what has happened. It gets easier as time goes on, but you must give yourself time to cope with what has happened.
Talk to as many people as you can to help and grieve in anyway you want to. Sorry from families and friends is a massive help. If you need to vent or chat feel free to message me.
Thank you so much for sharing your story although I’m really sorry for your loss and the pain it causes. This journey really is so cruel after everything you’ve been through. I know it will take time for us to start to heal, it’s just very raw at the moment and only just hitting me what’s happened xxx
So so sorry to read this CheshireKit. I really wish you all the best for the future and hopefully when you get the strength back your next try will be successful all the way through xxx
Oh Cheshirekit I’m so sorry to hear your news truly devastated for you. I had an early miscarriage last year and it’s so heartbreaking 💔 I’m so sorry you’re going through this and my thoughts are with you in this difficult time xoxo
Thank you lovely. So sorry to hear you’re having such a tough time with getting your results. What a nightmare, like this process isn’t hard enough! Really hoping it’s all good news for you xx
I'm so sorry to hear your news and that the miscarriage became such a long, drawn out process. I hated having to go back for scan afterwards so just avoided it last time (probably not advisable but I was sick of the blooming ultrasound waiting room). I know it's going to be a difficult few weeks but just concentrate on looking after yourselves and give yourself time to grieve before you worry about making any plans.
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