So after our scan showed that the pregnancy sac was abnormal at 5w4d we had a second scan a week later to confirm that the pregnancy wasn’t viable. The second scan at 6w4d showed that there had been some changes although the foetus still wasn’t the right size and only a very faint slow heartbeat could be detected. Because there had been changes they couldn’t confirm that the pregnancy was definitely not viable so we had to wait another week to scan again. The final scan at 8w1d confirmed that the baby had sadly died.
I opted for medical miscarriage management at home because it felt less intrusive than having the surgical procedure I’d had 3 years ago when I miscarried plus I understood that there was less risk of damaging my lining this way.
They inserted the pessaries at the hospital then I went home. After about 4 hours I had bad period pains and some quite heavy bleeding when I went to the loo but not much on the pad. The pains had subsided by nighttime. It really wasn’t as painful or heavy as I had expected and so I was worried that the miscarriage wasn’t complete, I thought it would be more obvious. I was scanned again on Monday and they confirmed they couldn’t see anything remaining.
These last 4 weeks of scanning have been another extended limbo when we’ve known it was over but we couldn’t really move on until the miscarriage was complete. I’ve gone back to work today and reality is really starting to hit me that we’ve lost the baby and our dream is over 😥 It just seems so cruel and unfair. Don’t know where we’re going to go now.