Heartbroken 💔

[Char2383]

One failed transfer and now two chemicals… One frozen embryo left… Just feel broken and numb, I knew I shouldn’t have been so optimistic.. I don’t have a lot of hope for the last embryo being successful, what would make it different from the others? Sorry for the depressing post just had to share somewhere 😔

[FrancyItaly]

So sorry to hear this, this journey is so hard and unfair but believe in your last embryo as it could be the one it’s meant to be! 💓

[Char2383 in reply to FrancyItaly]

Thank you lovely, how are you? I just saw your update… it’s such a rough ride IVF.. Constantly waiting for the next milestone or disappointment. Sending you lots of love x x x

[FrancyItaly in reply to Char2383]

I have to say IVF itself was fast and easy, at least that, but I really wasn’t expecting to have a second miscarriage. This is so cruel. This time I want to try and find out the reason, especially before going for a FET. I imagine it will be a long wait for me 😞

[Char2383 in reply to FrancyItaly]

Yes I agree the IVF treatment itself was alright, I imagined it would be much worse.. I’m so so sorry you’re having a second miscarriage 💔 Really my heart goes out to you, my slightly bruised and battered heart! While you wait to find out why can you change your life in some way? Go on a holiday? Distract yourself or rediscover a hobby or interest? I should really give myself my own advice! I’ll most likely be reading about recurrent miscarriages.. If you ever need a chat please reach out. I’ll be in touch if I discover any useful information. We’ll get there though lovely, keep your head high Xx

[FrancyItaly in reply to Char2383]

I will go to Italy to see my family, last time was in Feb 2020. I was meant to go a month ago but I did Ivf on nhs and got pregnant. That is definitely my plan and there is nothing else I need more! You too, if you want to talk PM me, go get your frostie that is waiting for you! Xx

[Char2383 in reply to FrancyItaly]

Some time with your family will be perfect, especially in stunning Italy (we got engaged in Sicily it’s our favourite place 🥰) Take care lovely sending lots of good vibes your way Xx

[Lou7744]

I’m really sorry to read this, chemical pregnancies are so tough (I’ve experienced one too 😞). Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

[Char2383 in reply to Lou7744]

Thank you Lou, yes chemical pregnancies are so cruel, both times I’ve had 4-5 days to really accept that I’m pregnant, get excited, figure out my due date and get attached to the little embryo! Only for it to be snatched away.. it’s so hard. Then it sets in the magnitude of starting from scratch (again)… it’s so tough, but will make us stronger people Xx

[Borbolet]

I'm in the same situation, I have one last embryo and I just don't believe that it will work, is like you said what it will make different from the others 😔. Sometimes I just want to finish to I move on and accept that it's never going to happen but then I start to think if the last embryo don't work what to do after, how to move on and be happy again...Sending you lots of love xx

[Char2383 in reply to Borbolet]

Thank you for your reply and I’m sorry to hear you’re going through it too.. I just had a nice chat with my consultant who is still positive we’ll get the outcome we want eventually. She’s suggested we might do a thrombophylia screen to check for any clotting abnormalities which we’ll probably do before we try one last transfer. Sending you lots of good vibes, things will get better lovely ❤️ xx

[Fruitandflowers]

I'm so sorry. I had two back to back. The first was the hardest for me as it had been such a long wait and I just thought we'd been lucky and once you get the positive, that's it. The second I was less hopeful although I tried harder - like taking time off, relaxing... I was very unwell (unrelated) so maybe that was it but it was much weaker from the beginning. I wasn't given any reason, just advised to keep going.

I don't know what worked this time, maybe changing the form of progesterone, adding lubion, maybe because the last two were fresh and this was a FET and it's gentler, maybe adding supplements and folate... Or maybe it's just numbers. The numbers one seems the most difficult though as it's out of our control and if you've not got many to 'roll' it's so hard to decide what to do - more tests, wait, another round...

I hope that if we do get the happiness at the end of this, these feelings are overtaken and just fade. But until then it's just so sad. Take care of yourself x

[Char2383 in reply to Fruitandflowers]

Thank you for your lovely message ❤️ I’m not ready to give up just yet and trying to keep the hope alive, I just have to accept there is going to be a lot more time invested, hormones, tablets, injections and everything else before we reach our goal. It’s a relentless journey that’s for sure! Wishing you all the best x x

[Foxez]

It is a hard experience. I am sure you will succeed in the end.