Missed Miscarriage but 8 week and 10 week scan showed no concern

[Ljayne]

Just a bit of background, I have PCOS that's managed through a restrictive diet and stage 4 endo but I've had a laparoscopy 18 months ago and a hysterectomy 6 months ago.

We had 4 embryos in total. We had one fresh transfer that failed to implant, a frozen embryo transferthat also failed to implant. With our last 2 embryos we had these both transferred and this time round I had blood thinning injections (fragmin). We were absolutely delighted to have our first positive pregnancy test!

We had a scan a 6 weeks that determined 1 embryo was growing nicely and a heartbeat was detected. We had another scan at 8 weeks that confirmed everything was going well.

I had the standard 12 week scan booked in that me and my husband excitingly attended to sadly find out there was no heartbeat. We were shocked and devastated particularly as this was our last embryo. It was estimated the embryo stopped growing around 10 weeks.

I have a call in a couple of weeks with my fertility specialist through the NHS to discuss everything further. I know it cannot necessarily be pinpointed the reason behind the miscarriage but I'm hoping the fact that I had a healthy outcome at weeks 6 and 8 that certain things can be ruled out.

Our embryos were of good quality and the scans detected nothing concerning at week 6 and 8 so I was wondering if something similar has happened to anyone and if there's any advice you can offer.

I've seen had small surgery to manage the miscarriage and in the meantime, we are unsure if we want to start all over again due to the emotional and financial impact, also the fact I'll likely require a further op, but we will work that out in a couple of weeks x

[Core]

Just wanted to say I’m so sorry to hear this, must be absolutely heartbreaking, I hope you have lots of support around you xx

[RubyVet]

I’m so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourselves xx

[Lovemylion]

I'm so sorry your going through this. It makes things so much harder when you fight so hard and finally get a positive result and pregnancy. Give yourself some time to grieve before you decide on next steps. But sometimes planning also helps so I understand. Xxx

[Hidden]

Im so sorry Ljayne. A mmc is one of the most horrible things if not the worst thing i ever been through. I didnt have any answers only that it just wasnt ment to be. Hope you have love around you x x

[JoyfulStar]

I am so so sorry to hear this. I will have you in my thoughts and prayers 🙏🏾

[ToughCOOKIE78]

Im so sorry for your loss, I know how you feel…exactly the same happened to us last year. Strong heartbeat at 7 weeks, and again at 9 weeks, only to find no heartbeat at the 12 weeks scan…baby arrested around 10 weeks….unfortunately this means in 97% of cases there are chromosomal abnormalities for which the embryo could not continue to develop. It doesn’t ease the pain, but gives you an explanation. Thinking of you ❤️

[Ljayne in reply to ToughCOOKIE78]

Thank you so much for sharing your story, they estimated that our little feutus stopped growing around 10 weeks too xx

[ToughCOOKIE78 in reply to Ljayne]

I felt guilty when it happened, I thought for some reason I did something I shouldn’t have….like stairs or lifting stuff….but I was wrong. It’s something totally out of our control, I hope you know that ❤️It couldn’t have been prevented, and most importantly it won’t prevent you to have a successful pregnancy once you’re ready to try again. Take care of yourself hun xxx

[Ljayne in reply to ToughCOOKIE78]

Thank you, that's very comforting. Naturally I cannot help feeling it's something I've done but everyone else had said the same as you xx

[Nuszkahope]

Hello,I am very sorry for your loss, miscarriage is devastating. Take your time to heal and look after yourself x you must not lose hope, you can get pregnant so I am confident that you will get your dream come true. That is what kept and still keeps me going…

Have you tested your embryos before transferring? I had many failed transfers before I tested mine. What I have learned from testing my embryos is that even if the embryos look excellent quality to a biologist it isn’t always the case. I have always been told that my embryos are top quality but when I started testing them many had chromosomal abnormalities that meant that pregnancy would not progress to full term

Wishing you all the best, look after yourself x

[Ljayne in reply to Nuszkahope]

Thank you for sharing your journey. Tbh I hadn't even thought about testing the embryos as we were told they were good quality. I will have a read into this. Thank you xx

[Nuszkahope in reply to Ljayne]

Yes Ljayane, I was exactly the same. Did not cross my mind that something can be wrong as they have always told me that they looked excellent quality under microscope.

[Sukibubs]

I have no advice to give, but I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear this and sending lots of love your way xx

[Positivemissp]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Something similar happened to us. 7/8 week scan everything was fine but at 12/13 weeks it wasn't. It's usually chromosomal. The doctor and nurses told us how common it was, not that it makes it any easier. Give yourself time to grieve and be kind to yourself xxx

[Olive12345]

I’ve had three MMC and a little boy. My first MMC was similar to yours, I didn’t have any early scans so my first was at 13.5 weeks and the baby had stopped growing at 12 weeks. My little boy came after that and I didn’t do anything different so it can happen! After extensive research, I came to the conclusion it was chromosomes. I’ve since had secondary infertility and recently more MMC, likely due to lupus. There are lots of different medications and combinations you can take, for example lots of people with PCOS seem to have metformin. So there’s still a lot that can be tried but expensive. I hope you recover soon, an MMC that late is such a shock, take care of yourself x

[Hidden in reply to Olive12345]

Thats true. I have PCOS and take metformin twice daily.

[Ljayne in reply to Hidden]

I have been taking metformin twice a day too x

[st1984]

I'm sorry this happened to you. It's the worst thing ever. It happened to me 3 times. Those words "sorry there is no heartbeat" honestly feels like a knife through your heart doesn't it. It isn't anything you did, like the others say it's usually chromosome issues. Our 3rd loss was sent for testing which confirmed this.

I just wanted to give you hope that after this happening and me losing all hope, we had 1 last cycle (6 fresh, 1 frozen) and it worked. So don't give up hope, there's no reason you can't be successful in the future if you choose to try.

Look after yourself and your husband, thinking of you xx

[Scarlett13]

I’m so so sorry to hear you went through this devastating experience at the 12 week scan after having 2 positive scans before that. I had 6 transfers that all failed then a miscarriage with my 7th transfer but from my 8th embryo I now have a 16 month old son so just wanted to share some positivity that when things look tragic, magic and hope can still blossom. I wish you all the luck in the world if you go again. I would say the fact that you got as far as ten weeks is a very good sign for a positive pregnancy next time - one in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage as I’m sure you know so fingers crossed you’ll now be ok xxx

[Gillis]

I'm so sorry to hear what your going through. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage I also had a scan at 6 weeks confirming all was fine. Embryo stopped growing at 7and a half weeks. Only found out a few days before my 12 weeks scan. I tried so hard to find out what caused it never had any luck. I now have a 5 and half months old little girl. Don't give up hope!

Wishing you all the best and hope that you'll get your precious bundle very soon.

[Sea_tan]

So sorry and hugs. Please take good care. Thank you all for sharing...