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Devastated 8 week scan

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Yesterday we had our 8 week scan. We were anxious going in but tried to remind myself I’d had no symptoms to suggest anything was wrong and it would probably be fine, how wrong I was.

Sonographer had a difficult time doing the scan as she said my uterus was quite tense and not cooperating but eventually gave us the bad news. She could see the yolk sac but no embryo, so development had arrested at some point and we are having a miscarriage. I’ve stopped the progesterone pessaries and we are hoping the bleeding starts naturally, but if not we are back in next Friday for another scan and to discuss options to medically manage things.

Absolutely crushed as we had no embryos in the freezer. I just feel like this will never happen for us

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Solly-44

I’m so so sorry.

Try not to think too far into the future right now, be as kind to yourself as I’m sure you’d be to someone else in your situation and take your time. Sending hugs and strength xx

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KiboXX

I’m so sorry saraht23, I can’t imagine the pain you are going through today. I wish I had words to take the sadness away. This is not the end of your journey but give yourself time now to grieve and heal. Sending you a huge hug xxxx

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Nix321

I’m so sorry to hear this. Thoughts are with you.

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Jam-master

So so sorry that’s awful. Just take time to be good to yourself and don’t think too much about what to do next yet. Lots of hugs xxx

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Lots8788

Oh Sarah,I'm so sorry. Try and take it a day at a time for now and not think too far ahead. Here if you want to chat xxx

Oh Sarah 💔what can I say if not my heart is breaking for you 😢sending you a huge amount of love and a massive hug 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

I am so sorry to read this. As Solly says try not to think too much into the future, these early days are so tough. Cry, scream, rant or do whatever you need to and start to grieve, make sure you look after yourself physically. Your time will come. Sending huge hugs xx

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RhinoCat

Awh pet, sending hugs 😭 this journey is so unfair 💐💖

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Crista240411

Devastating news. I'm so sorry hon. This journey can be so cruel.

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Cinderella5

Im so so sorry for your loss Sarah. Feel so sad for you both. Sending you massive hugs.xx

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MissSaoPaulo

I'm so sorry. Sending you big big hugs xxx

I’m so so sorry to hear this - thinking of you and look after yourself lots of love and hugs xxxx 🥰❤️🥰❤️🥰

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ashalez

I am so sorry to hear this💔 look after yourself.Sending you massive hugs.xxxxx

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Kama41

I’m so sorry read this I went through exactly the same thing last year and possibly again right now. We are waiting for another scan. Give yourself some time to process and grieve. X

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BroodySingle

I’m so very sorry to hear your terribly sad news. Take care of yourself and make sure you give yourself time and space to grieve. Much love ❤️xxx

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MrsH86

I’m so sorry. I think missed miscarriages are especially cruel as everything appears to continue as normal until you get the horrible news which you can’t prepare for as everything was normal. Sending massive hugs ❤️ x

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PenneyPots

I am so so sorry saraht23!! No words can make this better. You be you and take care of yourself now ❤️ xx

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WonderworldXx

I’m so so sorry to hear this news, I can’t imagine the pain you are in and i’m so sorry this is happening to you. I’m sending as much good thoughts and love to hopefully support you in some way. The whole process is so unfair. Take care of yourself Xx

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amandac84

Goodness I am so so sorry. Sending love at such a difficult time xx

So sorry 😣

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Hopingfor1more

I’m so sorry to hear your sad need. I had a very similar situation with my first ever pregnancy. A missed miscarriage at 9.5 weeks which had to be surgically removed. My thoughts are with you. X

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Kurstx

So sorry to hear this has happened ❤️ sending you lots of hugs and love ❤️❤️❤️❤️ xxx

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ttcemmie

Oh my gosh, this is awful news Sarah. My heart goes out to you. Lots of love and hugs. Take time to deal with the emotions of this, don't feel like you need to rush in to any decisions, and be really really kind to yourself. xxxxx

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Patches86

So sorry to hear this! Heartbroken for you. We have to believe the right time will come ❤️

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lmno

So sorry for your loss. It's so devastating. Be kind to yourself and let yourself feel what you need to over the next days/weeks/months. Sending love xxx

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louisajane80

Feel for you. Such sad news. Stay strong x

Hi sorry your going through this I’ve had 3 mmc at 12w it’s awful when you’ve finally think you’ve done it and it snatched away and then you have to deal with actual mc. Sending hugs xx

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Corchi

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s so very hard I know. I have had 6 miscarriages and just wanted to send you a message to say I send you courage and some ❤️

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Kwags

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a similar experience and it's so devastating. Sending you hugs during this difficult time X

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Shirazlover2013

I’m so sorry Sarah, just devastating to hear that news. Xx

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L2213

Sarah I’m so sorry to hear this, it’s devastating and so unfair. I just wanted to send you big hugs and let you know I’m thinking of you xxx

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JoP32

Hi Sarah. Really sorry to hear this, it is devastating. There are no words to make this better but just be kind to yourself, don’t try & rush into feeling ‘ok’ again and try to take some time off work if you can.

You will pick yourself back up again when you’re ready but for now, allow yourself time to grieve.

Sending you a virtual hug 🤗😢 xx

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Hartley1

I'm so sorry. This journey is not easy...I wish it was for all of us. Massive hugs your way. Don't give up keep hoping...one day Xxx

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FrancyItaly

I’m so sorry to hear this, the same thing happened to me. I opted to have a natural miscarriage at home. If you need to talk to someone you can message me. For now I send you a hug 🤗

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Charliebenj

I’m so sorry Sarah for your loss. Take some time for you, and focus on your recovery.

Thinking of you.

All my love xxx

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Core

I’m so so sorry for you, must be absolutely devastating. Hope you have lots of support around you xx

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