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I’m from the Cardiff area of south Wales but I currently live in Bridgend, SW.

When I was 25 in 2017 I fell pregnant for the first time, I was extremely excited and very nervous, unfortunately it ended in upset, I was rushed into hospital after collapsing in Cardiff City Centre and it was confirmed I was suffering an ectopic pregnancy, I needed emergency surgery, never having surgery before this was extremely frightening and daunting. I was 5.5 weeks pregnant, solid heartbeat but unfortunately, in the wrong place.. They had to remove my right tube and were very concerned about the substantial internal bleeding I had faced. Luckily all went okay, I was only in for one night but the after math was the worst of it all.

I was scared to be intimate, out of fear that I would get pregnant and not catch it on time if it was ectopic again. I was scared every time my period was a day late, taking 3-4 pregnancy tests a month, I was outright petrified.

After this ectopic, about 6 months later, I was diagnosed with Endometriosis, I had an operation to remove the adhesions around my pelvic organs and the surgeons also found that half of my remaining tube was blocked, so they removed the blocked half.. leaving me with half a tube tube.

I struggled for years with my mental health over not being able to conceive whilst everyone of my friends were either already mothers, or conceiving left right and centre.

On the 1st of October 2020 I realised I was two weeks late on my period, my boobs were sore, classic sign of coming on but apart from that I was ok, I took a pregnancy test to rule it out and the word Pregnant appeared before I'd finished peeing.

It was a total shock, I didn't know what to do with myself, I shouldn't be able to get pregnant so easy? I've overcome smear after smear, colposcopy and colposcopy and an operation to be accepted for IVF. This isn't happening surely?

I immediately rang the hospital in a blind panic, they told me to come in to check but as I was only 5 weeks, an early scan couldn't be done.

My blood pressure, blood, urine etc were taken. The doctor felt around my stomach, did an internal to see if my cervix was closed which it was... Everything was completely fine. I was in so much shock, I was over the moon.

3 days later I'm woken up by the most horrific stomach cramps and a big gush of blood (but no clot) so I called the hospital again and they called me in for an early scan.

As I got to the hospital, I went to the toilet and the biggest, blackest clot left my body. I convinced myself that I had miscarried, I was beside myself. Expecting the dr to confirm, instead she told me she could see something in my tube.

They admitted me due to my history, kept repeating hormone checks, internals everyday and wouldn't let me go because they didn't know what was going on. They were certain something was in my tube but couldn't detect a heartbeat so they thought I'd miscarried an ectopic and what they could see in my tube was just a little blood.

By this time, I am defeated, I begged for the surgery to remove my last remaining tube because I couldn't go through this for a 3rd time.

They were reluctant but as I went down to concourse to ring my mum, I collapsed.

I was in surgery that day and what they found was nothing short of horrific.

I had miscarried HALF of my pregnancy but the remaining half was still in my tube.

My tube and my pelvis were both full of blood.

The day after my op I was extremely poorly, I couldn't keep my eyes open and everytime I did open my eyes I was physically sick.

Over all I was in hospital for 8 days and I was defeated.

I'm 28 years of age and I sit here with no tubes and no chance of ever conceiving naturally again, I spent a good 3 months off work, sat on my sofa in my own pity party extremely depressed when it hit me that if I let this beat me, the universe had won and I wasn’t about to let that happen.

the EPT systematically saved my life, I spoke to women all around the Country who I could confide in, cry to, and help me pull through the ordeal that took the air out of my lungs.

I thought that losing both of my tubes at such a young age was the end of the world, but in fact it’s saved my mental health. I no longer panic every time I’m a few days late on a period, my intimate life with my partner has gone back to being fun because there is no stress around it. I am more relaxed and accepting of what will be will be and I know for a FACT, I will never be able to have another tubal pregnancy again in my life.. All of these facts have been drilled into me by women from EPT and as dramatic as it sounds, it has saved my life.

The EPT are such a fantastic charity and that’s why I’ve decided that from the 1st of May 2021 until the 1st of June 2021 I will cycle 6 miles per day whilst raising money for the them.

I hope, with all of my heart that they will appreciate the money I raise, I know whatever it is, it will never be enough to thank them.

No one and I mean no one, deserves to go through two Ectopic pregnancies, but our fallen babies we’re too beautiful for this ugly world and will forever be our angels.

If you'd like to donate ( no pressure at all) please private DM me so that I can tell you the details

Lot's of love, darling girls x

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Hey Smp25, I had a live ectopic in Jan 21 at 7 weeks, our 1st ICSI FET attempt. My tube didn’t rupture but I had same day surgery, rushed from the clinic straight to hospital, so really empathise with you and how difficult it all is. Here if you need someone to talk with, but sounds like the EPT have been great to you. Please DM me the fundraising details xx

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Cmc2020

Hey the exact same thing happened to me I’m 31 two ectopics both ruptured and lost both my tubes I also had miscarriages inbetween my ectopics I also have endo but the good news is I went through ivf I had 7 embryos frozen and 1 transferred it worked first time and I’m nearly 30 weeks pregnant with a baby girl ! It’s not easy and I feel your pain it really messed with my mental Health if you need to talk you can message me anytime 🥰 also any time my period was late I freaked out too or any twinge I felt I was so worried I was having another one it’s horrible and your right it gives you relief that we don’t have to go through it again it saved me too xx

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