I had a Natural FET last month and finally got my BFP but being over the moon was very short lived. I am so anxious that they're going to tell me that there's no heartbeat at our scan on Friday. I can't sleep and it's all I can think about. Initially I had quite sore nipples and they've gone away and I've had period type pain (mild) all the way through. My symptoms seem so mild I wonder if I'm hoping to see them rather than them actually being there.
Does anyone else have experience with a positive test making anxiety worse after IVF? I thought I'd be over the moon to finally see those two blue lines but I can't shake the feeling something is going to go wrong. I feel very guilty for even writing this when I know so many people who never get to see a positive test but after another sleepless night I thought I'd see if anyone else has similar experiences.
Thank you xx
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I think it’s so natural to feel this way after everything you’ve been through to get to where you are. That doesn’t mean anything will go wrong though, no reason to not be hopeful ☺️✨🤞🏻⭐️ xx
Hi lovely, I’m feeling exactly the same. I’ve not had that “omg I’m so happy moment” yet! Have my viability scan tomorrow. So scared but trying my hardest to stay positive! Sending you lots of positive vibes! Xx
The positive felt good for a few hours then your mind goes straight to the worries , what ifs and maybes.
My best advice is to enjoy each day . Don’t get ahead of yourself and spend extra time breathing and doing things for yourself that make you feel good 😘😘😘😘💐💐💐💐💐
Fresh air walks, yummy food, relaxing with a blanket and friends on etc do what you need for you.
Also, if you haven’t tried the mindful ivf app , I recommend it.
Awh that’s so annoying 🤪 hopefully they get their act together quickly! All the hard work is done .... what is keeping them 🤬 I’m all good, in a two week half term at work and continuing work from home. Hopefully it won’t be extended 🙏🏻
Thank you so much. That's such a lovely post - I will do everything I can to stay as chilled as I can! 😊
I'm trying very hard to stay positive. The lack of symptoms is so disconcerting but I have no reason to think soemthing is wrong. Just my mind playing tricks.
There is a lady on here who is pregnant with twins and she’s had no symptoms so take that as a positive my lovely. Everyone’s body’s react differently xx
Hi I feel the same (but natural conception) but I've had 3 mmc found at 12w so my anxiety is quite high even though I've had a scan at 6w+5 last week I'm 8w tomorrow I've had sleepness nights just worrying about going to my next scan them telling me its over again. I have little symptoms too but that's normal for me even with my 2 full term pregnancies I only ever had sore boobs. Congratulation on your pregnancy I don't really have any words of advise to be less anxious or I'd give myself a few lol I'm just praying for the best all you can do.
I don’t think there are any ladies or men on here that doesn’t worry every day!
I had my 8 week scan last Friday. It was amazing to see our little pea moving around especially as we have been through 3 recent MC. The midwife told us we were 95% safe now, however ur first thoughts are what about the other 5%?!
We r now on count down to our next scan but I don’t think we will actually stop worrying until we have our little pea on our arms 🤞🏻🤞🏻and then worry about everything else!!
Thanks for being open about this and sorry you are feeling his way. It's totally understandable. This is something I worry about happening once it's my turn. Not sure if you try any mindfulness/meditation but last week I came across an app called mindful IVF which helps me to keep focussed on the present instead of my mind wondering off to the worst possible scenarios.
Hello, I've totally been feeling the same. I had my BFP just over a week ago and haven't got a scan for another 4 weeks. Like you, i haven't had any symptoms at all and have been worried why.
All the best for you scan on Friday.Not to long to wait now. x
Hello Lovely, congratulations! You are not alone. I thought once I got the BFP all my worries & anxieties would disappear. Sadly this wasn’t the case & my anxiety went off the scale. The fear of it all being whisked away was crippling. I’m not sure how I got through the first 6 weeks never mind the first 12 weeks but I did somehow. I continued with my fertility counselling up to 12 weeks which I found useful. It helped me realise to accept the emotions rather than feel guilty for not being happy. I had a little mantra and did lots of deep breathing. I use Zita West meditations & the Calm app which has sleep stories. These are particularly useful for the nights I lie away at 3am starting at the ceiling! My appetite totally changed, I was so exhausted all the time, I don’t think these things helped with my mindset. Of course, Covid adds an extra worry. My symptoms changed & weren’t consistent so this also played with my mind. Again, it’s normal. I had breast tenderness & it disappeared around week 6 after I had a bleed. I was convinced it was all over. I’m now 16 weeks and although my anxiety isn’t as bad as it was in the early weeks, I still feel anxious most days. At the moment, I’m not sure if the baby is still there but trying so hard to be positive & i have a private scan next Tuesday which will hopefully give some reassurance. I’ve accepted this might be the way until s/he arrives and no doubt be replaced by another set of anxieties when that happens. I try so hard to be positive but it is difficult. So I guess I’m saying it’s totally normal how you are feeling. I hope you find your own way to cope with it & you can let the happiness & positivity creep in slowly. Best of luck Xx
I felt like this and had no symptoms of pregnancy and it made me worry so much, but it appears a lot of women feel this way, you certainly aren't alone.
I am pleased to say after my 11 week scan this feeling is going away now for me, hopefully youll feel more settled the further long u progress. Im 14 weeks tomorrow and I feel better mentally each week that passes now. Xx
Try not to stress.. it may impact the health of the little onexxx
This is totally normal to feel this way but I think it’s probably made worse by being on this forum. Whilst this place is an incredible support it is somewhere where people come for help and so you tend to see either terrible news or great news on it. You may find it’s easier to drop off here for a few weeks so you aren’t constantly seeing other people’s experiences.
I don’t mean that this forum isn’t any good but I find I sometimes have to stop coming on here occasionally when it all gets too much as it’s a daily reminder of what you are going through and for every good news story there is a bad one
Worrying does precisely nothing so try to fill your day with non baby things and happy things to take your mind off things. I am sure all is well. Congratulations and good luck xx
I felt exactly the same. And you pains are normal. Unfortunately it very hard to be confident the whole way and relax bit just try to keep busy. ❤️ xxx
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