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Miscarriage confirmed just 8 days after BFP 😢😢😢😢

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I was overwhelmed by the amount of lovely, heart warming posts I received from you all when I got my BFP with embryo number 7 just 8 days ago. Thanks for reaching out to me and sharing in my good news, even though some of you are going through a hard and sad time personally. This forum is amazing for support in the good and bad times. We are all in this together.

Sadly, on 15dp5dt (Wednesday just gone), I had very painful cramps and red bleeding. It started mildly on Tuesday, I could tell something wasn’t right so went for a blood test but that showed high hcg levels. I’ve since had a blood test with my clinic and they confirmed this morning that I have miscarried, my levels fell from 2633 to 600. I was officially 4 - 5 weeks pregnant they said.

Damian and I are of course devastated. At 38, this was the first BFP I’ve ever got in my life - we were living on cloud 9 for just 5 days, imagining our future as a family.

Moving forward, we still have 4 frozen embryos from our 3rd cycle so have to hope that our baby is one of them. We now know we can get pregnant so have to see that as a positive. We want to go again as soon as possible.

Keep going warriors xxxxx

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😢 Sending lots of love xxx

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Thanks Jen ❤️

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Im so sad to read this. What devastating news. Be kind to each other.sending big hugs x

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Thank you xxx

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So sorry to hear this but glad you still have embryos left and fingers crossed for next time 🤞 take care of yourself and each other xx

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Thank you xxx

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Awww Scarlett I'm so gutted for you honey!! It's such a horrible drop from the cloud of hope to nothing. Sending you massive hugs lovely, hold onto each other tightly.xxxx

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Thanks Cinderella. It’s just awful isn’t it, you start believing and then boom.... x

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Just so bloody cruel!💔xxx

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So very sorry for you both. I saw a comment you made on a post yesterday and it had me wondering if something was wrong and my heart sank for you.

I truly hope that next time is the “one” xx

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Thank you x

Yeah I wanted to wait for today’s blood test result before sharing as the nurse still held out some hope for us but I just knew it was over - I just had the feeling things weren’t right on Tuesday. Thanks for your message xxx

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So sad to hear this. Sending lots of love.

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Thank you X

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I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️❤️❤️ xx

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It makes me so sad to hear this Scarlett. 😢

I’m so incredibly sorry to hear your news. It’s just not fair!

Sending you hugs and love.

It’s good to know you still have 4 Frosties waiting 😘

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Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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I'm so sorry to read this. Sending you lots of love 💕 x x x

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So sorry to hear about your loss. It must be hard to take. You've taken it splendidly well! It's great to see you in high spirits. The best way to shake it off is by getting right back at it! I really hope you get a BFP, honey. Fingers crossed for this cycle.

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Thanks so much xxx

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Omg Scarlett I am just absolutely 💔 to read this sad news this morning :-( I don't even have any other wrds to say, esp wen ur hcg was so high aswell. One of your 4 frozen will b ur rainbow baby wen u feel strong enough to go again xx

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Thanks so much, lovely words xxx

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So sorry to read this Scarlett! Thinking of you both xxx

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Thanks Lisa xxx

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Oh no hun I’m so sorry 😔xx

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Thanks Olivia ❤️

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I am so sorry to hear this sad news 😢 Be kind to yourselves. Big hug 🤗 xx

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Thanks Gemmy x

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My heart goes out to you Scarlett, sending you lots of love and hope you recover from this news as soon as possible xxx

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Thanks so much xxxxx

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Totally gutted for you and Damien

Life can be so cruel really can, this journey is so hard really is, big big hugs to you, look after yourself

And I wish you lots and lots of luck with the next embryo’s

Sending you lots of love 💕

Xxx

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Thanks so much for your continued support leesa xxx

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Oh Scarlett, I’m so sad to read this 🙁 So terribly sorry. I truly believe that there is at least 1 baby amongst your frosties. Sending hugs and love xxx

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I hope you’re right - thank you so much xxxx

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So sorry for your loss. It's devastating. Sending you lots of support. 🙏🏻 Xx

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It really is. Thank you xxx

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So sorry about this. Good you’re carrying on strong. You’ll get there soon. Sending you a warm hug 🤗

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Thank you, I need warm hugs right now xxx

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Oh I’m so so sorry to hear this. Take care x

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Thank you x

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I'm so sorry to read this! How terrible to have it taken away when you were so close. As you say, you now know you can get pregnant and that hope will keep you going and fighting for this. Sending hugs xx

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Thanks Annie xxx

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Sorry to hear this, wish you all the best for the next round 💜 X

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Thank you x

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I am so sorry to hear this, the same thing happened to me but I didn’t find out until the 6 week scan.

Keep strong and carry on with your 4 frozen embies.

I have 1 waiting for me, that’s all it takes xx

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I’m so sorry that you found out at the scan, so devastating beyond belief. Must have been awful to not be at home too. I’m really sorry. Good luck with your next one and thank you for your kind message x

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It’s tough but I’ll be honest, it gets easier quite quickly or it did for me anyway.

It might sound crazy to some but having a bfp after all the bfn’s was quite nice, even though it didn’t quite work out. I felt like at least I knew it had nothing to do with implantation issues and that all it will really take is the right embryo xx

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Hi honey

Just wanted to tell u that Im so sorry for u both! I do understand how hard it is coz we had the same experience recently! Just dont give up! As u said when it happens once, it’ll happen again! This is what two of our doctors told us after the misscarriage! Sending u lots of love and baby dusts! Take care! xxxxx

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Thank you Paris - I’m so sorry to read what you went through - this is the pits, but it’s reassuring what your doctor said to you xxx

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Oh dear... I'm so sorry to hear about your grievous loss. Hugs to you!! What can I say the whole losing a baby when you were counting on and was so happy about your pregnancy seems so unfair. The emotional devastation that follows is a new kind of hell. I've been through it and know no words can really console you for now. But trust me time will make you strong to live with it and to move on in your TTC journey. I wouldn't say heal because the grief and the feel of loss never really heals... no amount of time can undo that. TBH in my fertility journey... though it's still on... it's hard to decide which one is grimmer and more disappointing not being able to conceive for so many years or the loss.

I know it's a hard time.. but like you said we're warriors we'll sail through. I'm glad to even notice that in spite of the remorse and pain you feel you're looking forward already. The angel you lost may rest in peace!! and the remaining embryos you have I wish one of them fulfill your baby dreams soon enough :) Just make sure you're emotionally stable and back on track before going for FET. Stay well

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Thanks so much for your lovely message - it breaks my heart so much that so many of us have to experience this journey with the highs and lows but I’ve noticed that we are all strong women and maybe that’s why this is our path - it’ll all be worth it xxxx

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TBH I found a lot of support here... especially emotionally. Out there in the real world women who are blessed with kids easily hardly understands us. I think this is somewhere where we unite in our odds to be eachother's guide and strength. Well that doesn't help infertility really in most the cases... but makes the bumpy ride just more bearable. Don't worry... it'll all be worth it in the end... the pain the suffering the BFNs.... I still believe that! :)

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This group and the ladies I’ve spoken to from it have been amazing for me - I’ve learnt so much from here too x

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So sorry for your loss xx

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Oh no. I’m so so sorry to hear this. Look after yourself. I have experienced a miscarriage and they are utterly devastating. Take care.

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Thank you kirmie, sorry you’ve been through this too. Good luck on your journey x

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I'm so, so sorry to see this. Take good care of yourself and when you feel strong again your frosties will be waiting for you. Big hugs xxx

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Sorry to read this...

It’s so hard to ever get excited without some form of reality smacking us in the face!

Keep strong x

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So true xxx thank you x

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So sorry, understand how you are feeling. It is a heart breaking journey. Take care of yourself and do what you feel is best for you both xx

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Thank you xxxx

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I'm so so sorry to hear about your loss Scarlett. I don't really know what to say other than stay strong and look after yourself. I don't know much about you since I only joined a few weeks ago but when you got your BFP last Fri, that really gave me hope as I was feeling so down on Thurs after my EC. I've been thinking about you all week at how happy you must be only to read about your loss today. Thinking of you xxx

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Hello, thank you so much for reaching out to me with this message. Welcome to the forum!! I’m glad I gave you hope and despite my miscarriage, I still have hope for both of us - with this journey, the highs and lows are extreme - but you have to ride them out and keep going to get to your baby. How are you doing? Xxx

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I'm glad you've got such a positive attitude, wish I was more like that! I'm currently in my 2ww, 5dp5dt, and it's killing me! My OTD is the 6th April but I think I might end up testing early!! Xx

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Good luck!!!!! You’ve not got long to go now - I would resist testing until at least day 9. Good luck xxxx

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Wishing you all the luck in the world x you can do this 👍

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Thank you xxxx

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Oh this is so sad but I am inspired by your strength in that you and your loved one can see the hidden positive and I prayer your frozen embryo transfer/s are the key to your baby. I hope you take care of yourself and you continue to be strong. 🙏🏻💙🙏🏻

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Thank you so much xxxxx

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I’m so sorry to hear this hun, it’s just heartbreaking 😢. I’m glad it’s not put you off trying again and I really hope it works out for you both. Sending hugs ❤️XX

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Thanks very much Clover x

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Oh god this came as a shock I’m really sorry to hear this - I really thought this was your time. Sending lots of love and strength. I’m in awe of your positivity but you’re right at least you know you can get pregnant and it’s great that you’ve got 4 in the freezer. Take your time to heal. Lots of love xx

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Thanks blondie, we were so shocked too - really thought we’d finally made it x

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I can’t imagine how sad and disappointed you must feel my heart breaks for you 💔xx

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I am so sorry to read this. Sadly many of us on here have been through similar so we can really relate to you. Sending you both big hugs.

I am sure your baby is in that freezer just waiting for you. Take some time to heal and hopefully you will have another bfp really soon xx

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Thank you - it’s awful how many of us have been through this - thank you xxx

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I'm so sorry. Sending hugs

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❤️thank you ❤️

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Oh I’m so sorry to read this. Sending lots of love to you xx

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Thanks Emma ❤️

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I’m so so sorry. Sending you lots of hugs xx

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Thank you xxx

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So sorry to read this. You sound really strong. Wishing you all the best with your remaining embryos!

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Thank you so much xxx

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So so sorry to hear this, what devastating news but you sound amazingly positive. Look after yourself and your hubby/partner. Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for your future round xxx

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Thanks so much xxxx

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I’m so, so sorry to read this. I’ve been through this too unfortunately. It’s truly devastating. Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

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Sorry you’ve been through this too, it sucks to put it lightly x

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Big hugs to you x This really is the cruelest journey to be on - I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Take care of each other xxx

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Thank you - it really is the pits isn’t it - hope you’re doing ok xx

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I’m so sorry to hear this hun. Take care of each other xx

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Thank you 🙏

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So sorry to hear your news, sending you and your partner huge massive hugs xxx

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I'm am so sorry to hear that your BFP has ended tragically. Stay strong and fingers crossed for your next transfer! Xxx

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Thank you xxxx

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Aww, I was so heartbroken reading this hun, I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how devastated you are both feeling right now. Xx

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Thank you so much, it’s so hard. But what lovely support from you all x

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So sorry to hear this news, sending you both massive hugs and love 💜💜 xxx

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Xxxxx ❤️. So sorry to hear this. X

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Thank you x

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So sorry to hear this Sending big hugs xx

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🤞❤️ thank you x

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So sad to hear this, must be devastating to finally have that BFP and then end in miscarriage but like you say taking the positives this means you can get pregnant xx

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Thanks core, always got to find the positives x

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Sorry to hear this. Take it easy and give yourself some time x

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So sorry to hear this Scarlett. You have all of our support and we all know you deserve this. Keep shining and one day it will come. Xxx

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Awww thank you soooo much 🤗

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Scarlett I am so very sorry to hear your really sad news, sending you my warmest thoughts and a virtual hug. U r so brave and strong sharing ur journey the good and bad and u should b proud of how resilient u r and the support u give others on this forum one being me recently. Great u still have some frozen and I will following ur journey to what I am sure will b another positive result and ur happy ending lots of love and take care of urself and each other xx 💞

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Oh thank you coral - that’s such a sweet and lovely message and much needed as I just woke up and cried as I saw some people’s Mother’s Day posts with their babies on Facebook. Think I’ll stay off that today!!! Good luck on your journey too xxx

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Oh dear, sorry to hear that, Yes I can appreciate how hard it must be, not finding it easy myself today, plus period finally arrived yesterday & really really heavy so a day at home for me today. Yes probably best stay off Facebook. Concentrate on looking after & being kind to yourself. I have essentially stuffed my face with chocolate and all things bad so am feeling better 😱 for doing that! also looking at booking a holiday something to look forward to. We have a follow up app at hospital end of April we will consider options after this either our last fresh cycle or a frozen one. Xx

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I need to eat all the chocolate today xxx good luck with your decision making and booking a holiday - always good to have stuff to look forward to away from ivf x

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Lots of love sweetheart 💕😢 xxx

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Thank you xxx

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Scarlett I’m so sorry for both of your loss 😢 I’m sending you love and big hugs xxx ❤️❤️❤️

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Thanks! I need hugs xxx

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I'm so sorry for your loss 💜💜

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Thank you x

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Ah Scarlett, I’m gutted for you 😔

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Absolutely gutted xxxx thank you x

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Im so sorry to read this.

So so gutted for you. Take some time for yourself. Thinking of you x

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Thanks so much xxx

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Very sad to read this...life is just so unfair sometimes! Good luck for the future xx

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Thank you xxx

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So sorry to hear this xx sending you lots of love and luck for the next cycle x

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Thanks so much ❤️

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Scarlett I just seen this..... am so very very sorry.....there are no words... having been in your shoes you know I know.... sending big hugs 😘 x

P.s glad to hear you have more Frosties best way to deal with it is try & try again, you will succeed 🍀🤞🏼🙏🏻

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Thanks so much for your lovely message Hope. You have a good name, we must keep hoping and keep going. How are you feeling now? X

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I was honestly shocked and saddened to hear your news as had so much hope for you and still do 👍 Yes we will get through this and try again 🤞🏼. Am feeling like am ready to start over ....thinking about my May cycle, using the hopefully magic ‘gonal f’ FSH drugs this time. I need to know for peace of mind.

Having a dilemma whether to bother with DHEA & Ubiquinol again, just worried they had a detrimental effect well more the DHEA as stuff read online says if I don’t need it can do more damage than help. I figured after lots of research they may help them had my worst results ever.

When I had my best cycle resulting in my darling son I took nothing but multivitamin and folic acid. I was 39 then though so was keen that last time to take any supplements that will help although my clinic will not support my use of them . It’s so hard to know what to do for the best x

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I’m glad you’re soon going to be going again - I hope the gonal f works for you. I’ve only ever used menopur. I had much better results from using DHEA and ubiquinol and can’t help but think they must’ve worked for me, but all our bodies are different and react differently, what works for one doesn’t work for the other.

I can see why you’d want to repeat what you took when you got your son! Go with your heart xxx

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Hi... I just saw this. I don't know what to say, I am really sorry... If It helps at all, you have all my best wishes for everything going good next time.

Xxx

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Thanks so much- we are going to go again as soon as we can xxx

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You deserve your happy ending, will have everything crossed for you xxx

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my heart goes out to you, xxxxxxx

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I am really sorry Scarlett .....

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Oh lovely I’ve only just seen this. So sorry to read it, really hope you are ok xx

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Thanks daisy, it’s been so hard, getting there one day at a time, xx

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Oh Scarlett, I’m so sad to read this. Good news that you still have 4 frozen. Fingers crossed for you.

Big hugs to you, it’s such an emotional journey. Xxx

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Thank you so much fir your support xx

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Really sorry for your loss xxx

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Thanks violet xx

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So sorry to read this 💔 sending lots of love x

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Thank you xxxx

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Keep going lovely, I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. You sound very strong and I am sure you will have your happy ever after with one of your frosties. Good luck for the next cycle xxx

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Thanks so much and I hope you’re right xxx

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So sorry to hear about your loss. Sending you lots of love xx

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Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

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Oh gosh, just reading this now, so very sorry Scarlett. Sending you strength x

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Thank you, it’s been such a hard experience xxx

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Thank you, it’s been rubbish but getting there xxx

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So sorry to hear this 😢 sending hugs

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Thank you xxx

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