Feeling scunnered

[Hopingforarainbow]

Anyone else just totally fed up waiting? Currently on NHS waiting list for IVF, but decided to go private as we wanted to speed things up due to everything being backlogged and slow with Covid. Had consultation at private clinic end of July, told next step is consent appointment which would be a 2-4week wait. 8 weeks on and still we’ve heard nothing! I phoned on week 5 to be told I’m nearly at top of list but that was it. I just feel so frustrated with the waiting. I now have an appointment in from NHS for October, it’s an ART appointment. Anyone any idea how long from this appointment to actually starting stims? Basically what I’m wondering is should we just pull out of private and go ahead with NHS? I thought going private we would have started by now but that seems to have stalled also. Sorry I’m just having a moan!

[Sas1101]

Oh my I totally get your frustration! Moan away!!! That's a tough one as I think it really depends on wait times at your NHS clinic as I know they all differ so much. Can you call your private clinic and get an approximate wait time and the same for NHS one. It may be worth keeping the NHS one in the meantime just incase the private clinic takes any longer.

Sorry you're going through this. It's hard enough without all this Covid crap! 😡 xx

[ttcemmie]

Hi love. The waiting at every part of this is awful. Personally, I pursued both private and NHS at the same time to cover all avenues. Private ended up being quicker (although still slow, and this was pre-coronavirus), but my local NHS rules were fine with doing NHS after private, so still ended up doing an NHS round too. I don't know about the normal timelines as we were seeing our NHS gynae/fertility consultant for ages before being put forward for IVF. And everything is SO SLOW atm. You'd think with clinics only having to be shut for like a month, the backlog wouldn't be this bad, but even with being open from May, my clinic wouldn't see me until August. How did they get backlogged 3 months in just 1 month? Drives me crazy! Anyway, basically saying you're not alone, but that doesn't help your frustration and agony at waiting. xxxx

[BroodySingle in reply to ttcemmie]

I think the extra delays have come in because they can see fewer patients at a time. It’s really frustrating, I know, but that’s the only reason I can think of as to why they’re delayed so much more than you’d expect.

COVID truly sucks.

xx

[Hopingforarainbow]

Thanks for replies. I think I will give the private clinic another call and find out what’s going on. As far as I’m aware I think we can pursue 1 private cycle and still be on waiting list for NHS cycle so will prob keep both going at moment and see what happens. It’s such a long and at times lonely journey. My close friends who do know don’t seem to get it. They don’t get the feelings of failure and feeling left behind. They’ve all got their families, they’ve been lucky and managed it naturally. I’ve been told “stop thinking about it and it will happen” “stop putting so much pressure on yourself” so I’ve stopped mentioning anything about it. It’s nice to read stories on here and talk to people who actually understand all these feelings you go through xx

[ashbb in reply to Hopingforarainbow]

In a very very similar boat and in Glasgow too. Today my lovely friend who her kids naturally at age 38 and 40 told me to "visualise it" and also to stop trying to try. Oh and also eat bee pollen. She means well but she'll never fully get it. Have dm'd ya. You're not alone ❤️