*Trigger warning* Blighted Ovum - medical management 😔

[Peanutchips]

Hi everyone,

Unfortunately it wasn’t good news this morning. I was very much expecting it as we had been prepared for the worst 😢

I’ve managed to get an apt at my local hospital EPU this afternoon and am hoping to be able to start medical management ASAP.

I was wondering if anyone knew how soon you could start medical management meds after IVF FET drugs? As of this lunchtime I have come off everything, however took estradiol and cyclogest prior to my scan this morning (was told to keep up with all meds until this scan today)...

Also, does anyone have any tips re medical management? I want to go for the pills rather than surgery if I can.

I am 7 + 5 days today.

Feeling a little bit nervous 😟 xxx

[Sexy376]

So so sorry Hun for your loss i can’t imagine how your feeling but stay strong xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to Sexy376]

Thanks lovely x

[Cinderella5]

Im so sorry honey! Its all so unfair. No advice but sending lots of love and hugs.xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks so much Cinderella. It’s rubbish, but nice to have my first bfp, even if just for a short while. How’s your cycle going? Xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Peanutchips]

Rubbish, doesnt even cover it sweetheart!!😥 You are being so brave.😘 I'm ok thanks, not much to report at the moment. Lining scan tomorrow so will see how it goes!!xx

[Peanutchips in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks so much lovely. How did your scan go? Xx

[Hidden]

I don’t have any practical advice (as I haven’t experienced that only a chemical pregnancy) but wanted to say how very sorry I am to hear of your loss. I hope you have plenty of support around you & thinking of you xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much Jess, I really appreciate that. I hope your pregnancy is going well xxx

[Hidden]

I am so sorry to hear this! Sending you lots of love and big hugs. X

[London_Lady1]

so sorry to hear your sad news. I dont have any advice. Just wanted you to know that we are all thinking about you. Xx

[Peanutchips in reply to London_Lady1]

Thanks lovely, I hope your pregnancy is going well and that you’re doing ok xxx

[Chel91]

So sorry for your loss, it's just heartbreaking. Thinking of you hun xx

[Peanutchips in reply to Chel91]

Thanks lovely x

[PurplePiggie]

So sorry, sending you lots of love xx

[Hidden]

Euch so sorry to read this, I had a blighted ovum a few years ago.

For all of my MC including my IVF one I was told to wait at least a week to see if it started naturally but every time it didnt.. when I had my blighted ovum I had a similar experience to you where I had to keep going back for scans every couple of weeks.. so I wasn't prepared to wait another week so after a bit of arguing they booked me in for surgery then and there. I know thats not relevant for you but just to say they will likely encourage you wait so be prepared for a bit of a debate.. I just needed the physical side over each time so I could try and come to terms with things. I dont see any reason why you can't start within the next 48 hours

So sorry again xx

[Peanutchips in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much Daisy, I appreciate it. Well you were right and it did create a bit of a debate at the hospital EPU. Their policy is to scan again, 7 days after the first scan (my first one with them being today). They didn’t care that I’d had scans with my IVF clinic. So I have to go again next week and hope that I miscarry naturally in the meantime. I absolutely hate being in limbo like this, I just want to be able to move on 😢 Sorry you’ve been through a lot too xxx

[Hidden in reply to Peanutchips]

oh no how maddening, I am so sorry thats happened to you as well, its just shattering isnt it - I was waving paperwork at them and they refused to accept it.

This feels weird thing to type but I really hope things start in the meantime so you don't have to go back there. Huge hugs xx

[Peanutchips in reply to Hidden]

Yes, same as me. I was waving the paperwork including printed out scan print. So now I’m just waiting and hoping something happens naturally soon. It’s weird to be willing this now but what choice do I have?! Thanks for your messages 😘 xxx

[Rach82]

Such sad news, I am so sorry. Sending you love xx

[EL7815]

So sorry to hear this. No advice but thinking of you xxx 💕

[KiboXX]

I’m so so sorry lovely. Sending you the biggest hugs ❤️ xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to KiboXX]

Thanks so much KiboXX, hope all good with you xx

[Twiglet2]

I’m so so sorry to hear this I was hoping for better news for you lovely 😢 sending you love xx

[Peanutchips in reply to Twiglet2]

Thanks lovely one. I hope your 2ww is going ok? Xx

[Lisichka]

So sorry to hear this, Peanutchips. I had blighted ovum in April last year. They discovered it at the 7 week scan. I went with the D&C through the clinic as didn’t want to keep going through scans and wait . I had to stop meds straight after the appointment and cramping started the next day. It was pretty painful! I had my D&C two days after and it was a very quick procedure, I recovered quickly and got my period after 4 weeks. Obviously not relevant to you but wanted to share my experience in case you go down this road as opposed to medical management. Sending you lots of positive vibes and hugs. It’s not easy, I know xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to Lisichka]

Thanks so much for your lovely message. I’m so sorry you’ve been through this too, I’m pleased to hear the D&C was over fairly quickly. That’s handy to know in case we end up down that route. Best of luck with your journey xxx ❤️

[fertilitystruggle]

Hi Peanutchips,

I’m truly so sorry to read this and I’m so sorry you have had to go through this.

I went through my miscarriage in February.

I bleed for a day and then the bleeding completely stopped. After 5-6 days I started bleeding properly and then it all naturally just came out.

I hope god makes this easier for you. I know right now everything seems unfair and life sucks. I felt the same way too. But be strong, the way you got pregnant this time, you will get pregnant again.

My doctors told me once a woman gets pregnant with ivf and has a miscarriage it increases her chances of her next ivf cycle working even more. And it happened for me.

My first cycle ended in miscarriage and currently on my second cycle 6 weeks pregnant. Very early stage too but it will happen for you again I promise.

If you need to talk I am always here 💛❤️

[Peanutchips in reply to fertilitystruggle]

Thank you so much for such a lovely message, it bought tears to my eyes! I’m so sorry you went through this too, I’m so pleased you’ve had success now. Everything crossed that this one is your take home baby ☺️💕 Thanks again xxx

[fertilitystruggle in reply to Peanutchips]

Thank you for your lovely message! It will happen for us all. We must believe. I realised I lacked a lot of positivity which I am trying to improve ☺️x

Hope your feeling better now x

[CLDxxx]

I’m so sorry darling 😢 I really feel for you. I had to wait after my scan (previous pregnancy) as well to see if it would happen naturally which it didn’t so I had medical management.

Here if you want to chat or any advice. Sending love 💗 xxxx

[Peanutchips in reply to CLDxxx]

Thanks lovely. Sorry you had to go through this too. The waiting is very hard, as feel I can’t move on properly until it’s happened xxx

[CLDxxx in reply to Peanutchips]

It’s so hard 😔 which is partly why when I had another MC I had surgery instead. Is this something you’d consider? It will mean your HCg levels drop faster too. So horrible having to make these decisions in the first place 😢xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to CLDxxx]

My only worry with surgery is that it might make my lining worse? I usually don’t get an amazing lining for transfers (between 7-8mm)... I thought for that reason I shouldn’t risk it? Xx

[CLDxxx in reply to Peanutchips]

No it won’t lovely. I had problems with my lining before and after my surgery but it was changing to a natural FET that made a difference to mine in the end. There are risks but so minimal. My problem also was that I perhaps rushed in to having a transfer too soon after surgery but with medical management I had bleeding for weeks - (not the case with everyone) so I assumed as it was so minimal with surgery and my HCg dropping working 2 weeks after that I’d be ok to go ahead xxx

[Patches86]

I’m so sorry to hear this Peanut. So unfair. Sending love and hope this limbo ends for you soon x

[Lovemylion]

So sorry Peanutchips. You are being so brave. So hard this fertility business 😪 I hope you’ve got lots of support around you and can take time off work to do whatever you need to do. Xxx

[Janop79]

I’m so sorry to see this. I was hoping for a better outcome for you.

It’s so unfair isn’t it?

Sending lots of love xxx

[Gem1982]

I’m so sorry to hear it. I had a missed miscarriage a couple of years back at a similar time in the pregnancy. I remember I had to take a tablet and go home for a couple of days then I was on a ward and given tablets to start the miscarriage. It wasn’t pleasant, but it worked. I was on the ward for about 12 hours. They check everything has passed. Sorry you are going through this. X x

[Peanutchips in reply to Gem1982]

Thanks Gem, I’m sorry you went through this too. So pleased you got your little one after ☺️ I hope your 2ww is going well 🤞🏻 xxx

[Gem1982 in reply to Peanutchips]

Thanks, I got a positive but I’m waiting for scan. As you know once you have had a BO you never feel like you can believe until you have seen the scan. X

[Peanutchips in reply to Gem1982]

Oooh yay, that’s good news! Yes I can totally understand how you feel. All the best for a good scan result for you xx

[Luna_79]

I’m so sorry to read this, I’m afraid I can’t offer advice but just sending you much love and so sorry for your loss 😔xx

[Hope76]

Am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you, I have been there and know how it feels.

I was adamant I wanted to do it naturally but was slightly different as had a holiday booked so dr and partner advised I get surgery. Was actually a relief as in long run I had no more pain to go through. As you are asleep then it’s all over when you waken up and let’s face it emotionally we have been through so much pain.

Wishing you all the best going forward 😘

[Peanutchips in reply to Hope76]

Thanks Hope, I’m sorry you’ve been through this but pleased the surgery was over quickly for you. It’s good to know in case we do go down that route xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to Peanutchips]

Ps hope your 2ww is going ok xx

[Hope76 in reply to Peanutchips]

Am only 5 days in and already driving myself crazy wondering if it’s implantation symptoms am feeling or just effects of the progesterone x

[Peanutchips in reply to Hope76]

Oh no! I totally know that feeling! Everything crossed for you 🤞🏻 xxx

[F_J_762301]

So sorry for your loss peanut. Theres no words that will help right now. Youre right the limbo is the absolute worst but you will get through it. Just take one day or even 1 hour at a time and be kind to yourself. I dont have any advice on medical management sorry as i had d&c. Sending lots of love xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to F_J_762301]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m definitely finding taking things one day at a time is the only way right now xxx

[Maisie234]

I've been following your post and thinking of you. I am so sorry to read this has happened. I had a D+C in February. I see some people writing about it and don't have too bad an experience. Mine was a bit different. I had surgery at 10 weeks. They said I could try again just whenever I was ready. As someone else said you are more likely to get pregnant afterwards as your body knows what its doing. I think my next period was about 6 weeks later. I also heard its unlikely to happen again. Look after yourself and you will be fine. Xx

[Peanutchips in reply to Maisie234]

Thanks so much for your kind words Maisie, I really appreciate it. I hope things are going ok on your journey. Lots of 💕 xxx

[Maisie234 in reply to Peanutchips]

Thank you too. I'll let you know at the start of October. . 😕 Xx

[Facingreality]

Hi. I hope it worked out for you. I suffered this last month. I was told it may have to be medically managed, which I was hoping not to do. I passed the gestational sac (with some tissue) a few days after I started heavy bleeding. No cramps, no pain, which surprised me.