Test Day: Post FET

[SushiTilly]

Hello Everyone

For all those who’ve seen my post and story, I’m on Donor Egg journey after three failed egg retrieval journey. It is my fourth DE FET. Today is blood test day, it will be postal one so I won’t find out results until Saturday or possibly Monday. Home test kit came yesterday when I went into work so I’m waiting for it still. I asked my DH if I should get otc urine test, and he advised we wait for blood test results. I know my clinic abroad would like to know today.

So what is my question? Women in this community have been here, the dreaded 2ww, with symptoms and no symptoms. Today is D Day. What can you advise me for the best mindset and approach to take on test day? If I can give myself some pet talk what do I say to myself?

I think this day can be anxious where hopes and dreams are made or broken. I’ve only had failed cycles and this time round I’ve kept level head. I’ve read happy stories and sad stories most days in this 2ww.

I had to spend yesterday in the office listening to work colleagues talk about their pregnancy to be fair they had difficult road to getting pregnant as well so I did not feel any jealously or frustration. I can only imagine if I get hard outcome that I’ll feel sense of dread seeing them again.

this year I decided I want to step into the light, I’m tired of feeling like sub standards human being full of bad luck and negative narrative. Also I’m not full or positive sunshine. Maybe I am just okay, and grateful that I had chance to try but this morning I did pray and try to visualise having a family.

This morning my dog decided to sleep on my knee to be near me rather than on her bed. Reminds me I have my fur baby. Xx

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hope you get some replies to your post that are helpful and supportive Also wanted to wish you good luck and take care of yourself

Thinking of you

Janet-Partner

[Angelikid88]

best of luck to you! i would say test early but do not get disappointed if you don't see the second line. Say to yourself than nothings ends here, no matter the result. Stay strong

[SushiTilly in reply to Angelikid88]

Thank you, I know it will be hard to take in the news and staying sane and strong will be required from myself. Nothing ends here is a true sentiment.

[Sunshine809]

I really hope it's good news for you! 🤞 It sounds like you've already got a good attitude - hopeful but realistic.

I think there's no harm in doing a urine test today give you an indication, but it depends if that would make you feel better or worse. Personally I prefer to live in hope until i get a definite yes or no, unless I have a big work event or something right after I get the official results, so i want time in advance to start to come to terms with the probable result before I get it confirmed 'officially'.

I think it's good to plan something fun, maybe for next weekend. Have a day out or a nice dinner. Something to look forward to if it's bad news. The last time we got a negative we went for a champagne bruch at Cote. It was nice to treat myself and I enjoyed being with my husband, feeling sad together but trying to have a bit of fun and move forward.

I try to focus on all the good things in my life - husband, pets, family, friends, my lovely house etc. And I also like to start planning what we are going to do next....once I've had a couple of days to let the bad news sink in.

Hopefully this is your time though 🍀✨️ xx

[SushiTilly in reply to Sunshine809]

Thank you, I’m living in hope. I decided against the urine test because I know money spent on the blood test is what clinic wants to see. Also I’m doing some solid academic essay this weekend so I can do focus time. Of course in back of my head the results will be sitting in the lab and I’ll get it either Saturday or Monday.

You are right about making plans. We have anniversary coming up in Feb, but I like the idea of champagne brunch.

Thank you. I’ll pray and hope it’s my lucky one. I really appreciate you taking the time to write to my post. It means a lot to have women who can understand this anguish.

❤️

[Believers]

This is hard. I had 8 transfers in total. Sone test days I went into ‘knowing’ it hadn’t worked so almost making peace with receiving bad news and some I went into really positively which also failed. My successful transfer I had done a urine test which was negative so turned into a blubbering mess when the clinic called with my hcg results. The outcome is out of your control now somewhat. You’ve done all you can and take pride in that. X

[SushiTilly in reply to Believers]

Thank you Believers - that has really helped me to settle my anxious emotions. I think learning to take pride in what I have achieved and done to sacrifice my body to conceive is important. Totally out of hands of humanity, down to Mother Nature. In the end nature decides more than science. Xx I should get the results in the coming days. 🙏🙏🙏