On Wednesday my partner and I found out that his low sperm count was worse than we expected. He has been diagnosed with testicular failure. He is on medication so our consultant is writing to our GP to amend the medication and then he will be tested again to see if there is any improvement. There is no other explanation as to why this could be. She ran some urgent bloods and they all came back fine apart from his FSH levels. They were 21. He’s never smoked, he doesn’t drink and has never taken drugs. No injury to his testicles and she felt for lumps etc... all seems ok.
I just feel like I don’t have anyone I can speak to. We do have a child already but it doesn’t make it any easier knowing that this may be it for us. Every day our son asks “are you having a baby yet?” It’s not just my dreams shattered, it’s out little boys dreams too of having a sibling.
I’ve opened up to a couple of friends but they don’t get it. They keep telling me “but you’re fortunate to have one already”. Yes, I am, but it doesn’t mean I want to be done. It doesn’t mean I don’t want to do it all over again. Telling me “but you have one” doesn’t make me feel any better, it does the opposite.
I genuinely feel like I am grieving. Is that silly? I’ve been told I am being over dramatic... but I can’t help my feelings and I’m just feeling really low at the moment and struggling to accept that it may be it for us.
My partner feels so guilty. I’ve had 2 lots of surgery within the past 9 months but now I feel it is all for nothing.
Please tell me it gets easier?! 😢