Not sure how to feel..

[Rosa19]

Hi all, I’m fairly new to this network but am finding it comforting knowing others are feeling all the things I am too. I’m starting a short round of injections in Feb. Feeling a mixture of 🥳😳😢🥺😞😝🤩😱 so not really sure how to feel at all. The reason we are having IVF is because my husband unfortunately had bowel cancer 2 years ago. Thankfully, he has recovered well and all scans have been clear etc. Phew! So far so good. I’m so glad we are about to begin this process but am just so unsure as to what will happen.... all my checks have been ok. But they said as chemo has damaged my husband’s sperm they may do normal IVF or ICSI but only decide on the day of fertilisation. I don’t like not knowing as the statistics are then all different. The other thing they said was they will decide on the day whether they will transfer 1 or 2 embryos. I feel like I’m totally out of control with the situation...... any advice appreciated. And if there is anyone else who is in a similar situation please get in touch it would be good to talk.

xxxxxx

[Faith27]

Hi Rosa, welcome to the community! I'm fairly new too but the ladies on here are so friendly and supportive as I'm sure you'll find out. It sounds as though yourself and your OH have been through so much over the years! I'm glad to hear he's recovered well and had clear scans (that must have been horrendous for you both). It always amazes me the stuff that people go through and I just wanted to send you some well wishes and hope for the future to come. I think for me, the hardest part to all of this is the waiting and the unknowing.. I've not really got any advice to share as I'm still working on both of those issues myself but if you ever want to talk, please get in touch

All the best xx

[Rosa19 in reply to Faith27]

Thank you Faith27! 💜 Yes, I kind of feel better being able to talk about it already. As in real life it isn’t always as easy. Especially when lots of friends are expecting too! Yes, we are very used to hospitals, appointments, doctors and nurses etc. This time is different though as it’s me that will be having the operations. Suppose you can only hope and pray.

Thanks again for your kind words. Good luck with everything! 💜💜💜 xxxx

[Blondyboo]

It is difficult not being in control only advise I can give is trust the clinic and just go with it. They know the best way to hopefully get you pregnant so go with the flow. ICSI is good as they pick out the best sperm out of what they got if they don’t do ICSI then it’s also good as means they had more to play with that are good quality. X