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But it doesn’t, I’m riddled with worry.

I have just been through a round of ICSI to try for baby number two. My IVF daughter is now 16 months - she was a frozen embie after a full cycle where I managed to achieve two excellent embies - one failed and DD went in 3months later.

I had 8 eggs collected (which was disappointing given that last time I had 16) 6 were mature and 2 fertilised. I’m now 2 years older at 37 so perhaps quality is declining? Anyway.... I had two 3day embies put back.

I started bleeding two days before OTD initially this was quite light but intermittent. But did think it was start of period. I was floored on OTD when I got a positive result.

I still thought it was game over as my bleeding became very heavy on OTD - to the point of filling tampons every couple of hours and passing clots. Anyway I was asked to go for a beta HCG blood test by my clinic day after OTD. The results of that were 18 (which is a grey area number on that day) and nurse said that probably game over as the figure is low and so much blood lost. I agreed with this. Anyway she wanted me back in for 48hrs later to confirm this number wasn’t viable. I reluctantly went to the clinic on Sunday thinking ‘what a waste of everyone’s time’ so you can imagine me literally falling to the ground when the results had more than doubled to 42!!!!

Went in for a scan and more bloods next day. Nothing to see in scan but at this early stage that’s not unsurprising. Whilst it wasn’t 48 from last test the new number of 64 was promising for 24 hrs. That was Monday and today is Wednesday and I’m going in again this morning at 10.30 for scans and blood.

I am an emotional wreck. I just don’t see how anyone can have a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby with soooooo much blood lost. I’m still heavy spotting but the really big bleed was well over two days at the weekend. It felt to me like a usual heavy period.

What on Earth is going on inside me???? Does anyone have similar experiences what was the outcome? I’m a big girl and so would like to hear good and bad outcomes of similar situations. I know you would only mean well, But please don’t congratulate me as I feel like this is not going to end well.

Help!!!!!

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What a hard time for you. As you had two embies transferred could one have taken and the bleeding be from the other? Hope all goes well today. Big hugs xxx

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Thanks. Do you think that’s possible? I’ve no idea how it works x

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I had bleed at 6 weeks one had worked and the other showed sac with bleed. Just a thought fir you xx

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Se99

I was so hoping for a straightforward journey for you! Not exactly the same but I had low numbers that rose but they weren’t as high as yours, 13 then about 28, by day 16 they had dropped to 5. I would feel more positive than negative about your numbers, my first pregnancy went up very slowly 65 then 110. Your not out yet so just hang in there, I’ve everyt crossed for you x

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Dolly8 in reply toSe99

Thankyou my darling. I just have that gut feeling. Xx

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AnnieAnnie

This must be so hard for you and scary with the amount you've bled. As we know there are many woman that still have periods, don't have any symptoms of pregnancy and bang months later only discover they are pregnant when they give birth. And as snuggles has said, maybe that could be a possobility and youve lost one of the embryos but the other is trying it's hardest to hang on in there 🤞🏼. Just some advice, when going through your cycle it's best not to use tampons, as much as they are not nice, try to use sanitary towels. Both my clinics have advised this and they have both also made me test up to 2 days after OTD (even though bleeding started before OTD on my 2nd cycle). Hoping your numbers continue to rise and your bleeding completely stops. Good luck for today xx

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Dolly8 in reply toAnnieAnnie

Thankyou, do you know why they say no to tampons? My clinic not mentioned it, but to be honest there was that much blood they were necessary with a pad too!

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AnnieAnnie in reply toDolly8

I've not asked them but assumed it was to do with infection, especially as when going through ivf you've had egg collection and then the embryo transfer. Probably better not to risk it. Oh just done the dreaded Google search and it is an increased risk of infection but likely to be low (and as you're pregnant you're not supposed to use them either) xx

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Dolly8 in reply toAnnieAnnie

Thankyou for this! I will flag with my clinic this morning as I’ve mentioned I used them to manage bleeding. They hadn’t told me this. I will not use them again.

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AnnieAnnie in reply toDolly8

Sounds like a good idea and they probably should have advised against it. My current clinic have reminded me twice already and I'm not due to start my cycle until the end of the month! Hope all goes well this morning xx

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Dolly8 in reply toAnnieAnnie

Wow! In my haste this morning I totally forgot to mention it. But I will at my next appointment x

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Autumnmoon

Sorry you are having such a worrying time hope you get good news from your scan today x

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Dolly8 in reply toAutumnmoon

Thankyou x

So sorry for what you are going through. No advice as my chemical pregnancy test was negative pretty much straight away, yours does sound more hopeful. I really hope your scan goes well & will be thinking of you xoxo

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Thankyou. So scared. I don’t even know what of!

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As an update. Just had scan and nothing there. Which at this stage isn’t totally unusual. So just have to wait on bloods. But the reality is the Dr was very sure this wouldn’t end well. 95% sure (approximately) wouldn’t work out for me this time.

In a way I’m looking forward to closure, as this has been hideous.

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AnnieAnnie in reply toDolly8

Really hoping that all works out for you. It must be horrendous for you not knowing either way what's happening xx

Wow but still doubling... am sorry yor going through this but hang in babes we all

Know there is miracles out there happening all the time... fingers crossed x

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Autumnmoon

Sorry read your update that you still don't have a conclusive answer hoping for a miracle for you but meanwhile just sending love to get you through x

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Dolly8

Today’s update! I’ve had the bloods back and it’s back at 102. So gone from 64 to 102 in 48hrs. Now got to wait a week for a scan next week. Just hanging on to that glimmer of hope xxxx

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That's great. All going in the right direction. Keep holding on to that glimmer. Everything crossed for you xx

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Dolly8

Update at what would be 6 weeks: I miscarried a couple of days ago. 😩 here’s to a glass of wine at Christmas (hanging on to my silver lining) and starting all over again in Jan! Good luck everyone else xxxx

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everhopeful83 in reply toDolly8

Aw I’m so sorry to read this 💗 wishing you the best of luck in Jan xxx

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So sorry to hear that. It's so hard whenever or however it happens. Big hugs, huge glasses of wine and I hope you really enjoy the festive season then come back fighting next year. Xx

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Jonesjp

I’m so sorry to hear this hunny, sending you lots of love x x

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Dolly8

Oh sweet god. Just had my final HCG and it’s gone up!!!!!!!! WTF? Nearly 300 (which rules out an actual pregnancy at such a low number) but what is going on????????? Anyone any advice.

The cruel thing is I’m meant to be going on holiday on Sunday and now it’s 99%sure I can’t go. I’ve a scan tomorrow. But they won’t let me travel I bet.

Ouch this hurts. I’m now broken. I’ve been strong up to now. But now I’m not coping. 😭

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