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I thought going through IVF was the hardest thing to go through but I was wrong - going through IVF at the same time as working with someone having a baby is the hardest thing!!! I thought it would get easier once she was on maternity leave but it’s actually a whole different kind of pain now! Clients are actually coming in just to ask ‘any news??’ I’m getting messages ‘any baby news??’ I know it’s exciting for them but it’s killing me!!! I don’t know how much more my mental health can take!! We are going back for our treatment next month & I’m trying to keep positive & focus on that but my god this is hard!!!!!

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That part of it really is so hard & some days it really does take its toll. I try to turn it around & think I’ve got all of this to come & soon it’ll hopefully be me (and our baby) that people are fussing over🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼Although I understand that’s very hard to do on days that just seen unbearable 🤣 Sending baby dust & positive vibes your way ✨🤞🏼💗 and hugs xx

I feel your pain, I work in a large team of women and there are always a few pregnant at any given time, it is hard seeing everybody fussing around them and asking about the babies, I just kept in mind I didn’t want their babies I wanted my own baby and it did help. Your time will come xx

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Tugsgirl

We all have moments (days, weeks, months) where we feel like this so I understand how you feel. Hopefully it will be your turn next and all the questions and excitement will be about you and your pregnancy. It isn’t fair, any of this. Sending hugs xx

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MrsAdzee

I feel your pain. Hearing of friends/colleagues pregnancies can at times make me feel a bit bitter. Usually it’s short lived. It will be our turn soon 🤞🏼🙏🏻 xx

Oh wow. Massive hats off to you. It must be so so hard. Sending you huge hugs and positive vibes xx

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EmJen

Argh! Absolutely get this - I’ve been there too. I don’t know if you’ve managed to find any things that help release some of the stress? I’ve got back into running and have had some accupuncture and have found both really help - not cures by any means, but seem to at least keep me going totally mad xx

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pepper1985

I feel your pain, I work with a group of women who all have kids, my closest work friend fell pregnant, and she only told me by text as she felt she couldn’t tell me face to face. I was genuinely heart broken. I then spent 8 months at work with everyone whispering behind my back about it as they didn’t want me to hear. I’m not sure what’s worse to be honest! As happy as I was for her, I went home most days and cried.

Stay positive for yourself sweetie, sending happy thoughts xx

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Dunla

It is so bloody hard and you are doing amazing! Keep taking it one day at a time xx

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CBOO1

Thank you everyone. My boyfriend doesn’t understand, he says I’m just being bitter (which I know I am) and to stop it & that I should be happy & positive that we’re making progress - which I also am but it’s just hard. I can’t explain why to him & saying ‘it just is’ isn’t working so thank you for all understanding! Baby dust to you all xxx

It’s so hard, and if anyone has the answer then I’m all ears! I’m completely in awe of the men and women who are dealing with infertility and pregnancy loss who can still celebrate the joy of other people’s pregnancies and babies. Other people’s good news shouldn’t hurt so much, but i find it’s like a punch in the stomach every time. It’s the most unique and impossible-to-articulate pain I’ve ever known. We’re here for you, and we all get it xxx

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