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I thought going through IVF was the hardest thing to go through but I was wrong - going through IVF at the same time as working with someone having a baby is the hardest thing!!! I thought it would get easier once she was on maternity leave but itā€™s actually a whole different kind of pain now! Clients are actually coming in just to ask ā€˜any news??ā€™ Iā€™m getting messages ā€˜any baby news??ā€™ I know itā€™s exciting for them but itā€™s killing me!!! I donā€™t know how much more my mental health can take!! We are going back for our treatment next month & Iā€™m trying to keep positive & focus on that but my god this is hard!!!!!

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That part of it really is so hard & some days it really does take its toll. I try to turn it around & think Iā€™ve got all of this to come & soon itā€™ll hopefully be me (and our baby) that people are fussing overšŸ¤žšŸ¼šŸ¤žšŸ¼šŸ¤žšŸ¼Although I understand thatā€™s very hard to do on days that just seen unbearable šŸ¤£ Sending baby dust & positive vibes your way āœØšŸ¤žšŸ¼šŸ’— and hugs xx

I feel your pain, I work in a large team of women and there are always a few pregnant at any given time, it is hard seeing everybody fussing around them and asking about the babies, I just kept in mind I didnā€™t want their babies I wanted my own baby and it did help. Your time will come xx

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Tugsgirl

We all have moments (days, weeks, months) where we feel like this so I understand how you feel. Hopefully it will be your turn next and all the questions and excitement will be about you and your pregnancy. It isnā€™t fair, any of this. Sending hugs xx

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MrsAdzee

I feel your pain. Hearing of friends/colleagues pregnancies can at times make me feel a bit bitter. Usually itā€™s short lived. It will be our turn soon šŸ¤žšŸ¼šŸ™šŸ» xx

Oh wow. Massive hats off to you. It must be so so hard. Sending you huge hugs and positive vibes xx

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EmJen

Argh! Absolutely get this - Iā€™ve been there too. I donā€™t know if youā€™ve managed to find any things that help release some of the stress? Iā€™ve got back into running and have had some accupuncture and have found both really help - not cures by any means, but seem to at least keep me going totally mad xx

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pepper1985

I feel your pain, I work with a group of women who all have kids, my closest work friend fell pregnant, and she only told me by text as she felt she couldnā€™t tell me face to face. I was genuinely heart broken. I then spent 8 months at work with everyone whispering behind my back about it as they didnā€™t want me to hear. Iā€™m not sure whatā€™s worse to be honest! As happy as I was for her, I went home most days and cried.

Stay positive for yourself sweetie, sending happy thoughts xx

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Dunla

It is so bloody hard and you are doing amazing! Keep taking it one day at a time xx

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CBOO1

Thank you everyone. My boyfriend doesnā€™t understand, he says Iā€™m just being bitter (which I know I am) and to stop it & that I should be happy & positive that weā€™re making progress - which I also am but itā€™s just hard. I canā€™t explain why to him & saying ā€˜it just isā€™ isnā€™t working so thank you for all understanding! Baby dust to you all xxx

Itā€™s so hard, and if anyone has the answer then Iā€™m all ears! Iā€™m completely in awe of the men and women who are dealing with infertility and pregnancy loss who can still celebrate the joy of other peopleā€™s pregnancies and babies. Other peopleā€™s good news shouldnā€™t hurt so much, but i find itā€™s like a punch in the stomach every time. Itā€™s the most unique and impossible-to-articulate pain Iā€™ve ever known. Weā€™re here for you, and we all get it xxx

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