I really can’t decide what to do about going again, I change my mind daily as it’s a lot to go through & it’s going to cost us this time & I’m scared it may not work
On one hand I’m thinking I have my miracle baby I never thought I would have (successful FET on 2nd ivf attempt) so leave it at that
On the other hand will I regret not trying for a sibling as I do have 2 chances. I know it’s only my decision to make but I really just don’t know what to do my head is scrambled
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I felt the same quite soon after my son was born and absolutely dreaded going through it all again. It is marginally easier the second time as you know it can work and you have your baby at home to help with the rough times. I was desperate to give my son a sibling, and wanted to feel like I had tried even if it didn’t work.
It’s a really hard decision but for me, I felt like I couldn’t not try and so I set myself a limit as to the number of rounds I would do before I stopped.
It’s still a hard process and I found IVF completely draining but it is a little easier second time x good luck whichever way you choose xx 🍀🍀
This is me now. I’ve had a lovely year of not having to think of anything fertility related so why do it to myself 😂 exactly the same thoughts on feeling like you’ve tried. I feel like I might regret not doing it more than doing it. I wouldn’t be able to do any more than 2 , I couldn’t do the whole egg collection again I don’t think. Thanks for that it’s made me feel a bit better as like you say you have your baby at home to help you through xx
Hey Greencook, I am sure you know which way your heart is leaning to more. Like you I have embryos on ice and for me it was really hard not to think it would be the perfect opportunity to try for a sibling. But decisions like these are tough as there are other implications to think about. So do take it easy on yourself.
I have found that just giving myself some time to be sure has helped me massively. I have deferred my decision for over 3 years. I just found it hard to act on the decision I knew deep down was right. In the meantime though I have enjoyed being a mum to my DD.
Hi we had some embryos in the freezer 2 good quality ones and 4 poor quality ones. After a lot of discussion we decided we would try for a sibling but would only give it two more trys using the good quality embryos. A FET is far easier than going through a round of IVF and a lot cheaper. Your just getting the lining of your womb ready for transfer and if you go for a natural FET I think it's only progesterone medication you need to take just before and after transfer. I had to do medicated FETs as I don't ovulate. So had to take norethisterone to force a period then a tablet of oestrogen 3 times a day I had a total of 2 scans then was ready for transfer I had the choice of 3 different days to go for I had zero emotional or physical symptoms/side effects. It was far easier on my body and mind than IVF. Our first FET earlier this year ended in miscarriage at 7 weeks it was hard but not as hard as previous losses as this time I had a crazy toddler that needs constant attention so that helped a lot. Currently 7w5d with our second and last attempt. I could not go through another round of IVF the 3 we did to get my LG took far too much out of me but having embryos in the freezer I would of always felt guilty if I hadn't tried to use them to give her a sibling. Whatever you decide will be the right decision fir you. X
such a personal decision and whatever you decide will be the right one for you. For us it took 6 years and 6 rounds to make just two embryos so they are incredibly precious to us. So taking that view after our successful first there’s no way we wouldn’t give our second a chance as well. I found the egg collections much harder than the frozen transfer personally. So if our second transfer doesn’t work we will have to think long and hard about what to do. This process is so hard as you have a vision of your life and your family and it all changes. I wanted to be a young parent with 3 kids but those dreams get stripped from you. I think some time might help you figure out what you want and in our case we found therapy really helped as well. Take your time and listen to others but in the end you’ll figure out what feels right for you. ☺️ xxx
Of course it’s your decision, but if I were you I’d give those two embryos a go so there are no regrets later in life or “what ifs”. I have one more embryo to go and I plan on trying that in the new year just so I can close this chapter of IVF and put it behind us.
hey. Thought I would reply as in a similar position…a bit further along. We had 2 embryos as well and used both, unfortunately neither worked and no 2nd baby for us.
It’s a slippery slope though, because we’re now considering another full round. Going for some tests today to see where our fertility stands before making a decision. Like you, I just wonder if I can tolerate it mentally. I remember how exhausting it was emotionally and not sure whether I want to put myself through all that again, or just continue our lives with our son as a family of 3!
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my head is scrambled 
DE FET for a sibling
Trying for sibling - same plan didn’t work, miscarriage again! 
Do I tell Work the truth?
Bleeding for a week now but still BFPs 🤔😐
Why do I do it? 🙈😂
