I got a response from our report. We had our initial visit from SWs 17th July. Said my husband is not ready and going into it for the wrong reasons.
I got a phone call this morning. She said if it was me applying on my own they would make me wait another 3 months because it’s not long since we finished IVF and had our last miscarriage. Apart from that, my 20 yr childcare knowledge and qualifications would make me a fantastic candidate. BUT they said hubby just said throughout the whole 2 1/2 hr interview ‘how good it would be for our son’, in more ways than one. The reason why we want an older toddler, a boy not a girl, is because our son wants a play mate. She said he clearly hasn’t done his research and knows very little about adoption and what difficulties the child would emotionally face.
I was told they have closed the case because hubby needs to do some research and rethink what he wants from adoption. I do remember saying to him that we should apply for a baby right from the beginning. Hubby just said “no the kids wouldn’t play together, and it would be about us wanting another baby and not thinking of our son having a sibling to play with”. On the other hand, which is totally opposite, SW said “you need to do it because you want another baby together, not a playmate for your son”. She did actually make a lot of sense.
I’m absolutely gutted. I was told to get back in touch in November if we want to still go into it. I just feel numb 😢