Feeling more down as time goes on

[Lyn84]

I had a miscarriage three weeks ago and i thought i would find things easier as time went on but the more time passes the worse i feel my partner has a little boy and he is with us this weekend i have had to shut myself away in the bedroom as seing my partner with his little boy emphasises my feeling down my partners attitude is basically snap out of it while his son is here he said i can go back to being miserable tomorrow i wish he could have some idea of how i feel

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I think your behaviour is totally understandable due to the recent miscarriage. You need time to recover.

Time with a small child must be really painful when your loss was only a few weeks ago.

Please don't feel bad for feeling this way you are totally justified.

Sending love xxx

[Tugsgirl]

It’s really early days and it will probably be a while until you feel any better. I’m sorry that your OH couldn’t be a little more supportive xx

[Kathryn1984]

I’m really sorry that you’re going through this. I found that I was very up and down for the first couple of months. In the first week or two, I was obviously very distressed, but I was trying to feel better physically, so my focus was on getting physically better. Once I’d recovered is when the emotional hurt really hit. I probably felt my lowest about 4 weeks after. I felt rage and anger that I’ve never felt before, I had to drive to an empty car park and scream my lungs out! It’s all part of the grief process and it will take a bit of time, but you will eventually begin to have good days again. Just be kind to yourself and let yourself grieve. It put pressure on my relationship too, my fiancé just worried about me, my hormones where all over the place, and I was in grief. I went to my GP and went to counselling to help me process my grief. Speaking to others on here helped as well. I didn’t keep wanting to put my sorrow on friends and family, so writing how I felt on here really helped. My thoughts are with you in this difficult time, I hope you feel better soon xx

[Lyn84 in reply to Kathryn1984]

Its weird that you should say about going to an empty car park to scream that was exactly how i felt the other day i just wanted to scream at the top of my lungs

[Dreamingofbaby]

It def totally understandable your feeling this way and esp with a child around. Know that it ok to be feeling low. We all need to be able to grieve in our own way. It is a process for sure which u will get through in time and in your own way. Take care of u Hun xx

[Dunla]

I can’t imagine how difficult it is to go through a miscarriage, I’m so sorry. It’s only been three weeks for you, I think it must be entirely natural for you to feel this way. It’s also completely understandable to be upset in the presence of little children at this time. Please be kind to yourself and allow yourself the space to grieve your loss. Lots of love xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Have you tried contacting the miscarriage association or using the Tommy’s website? Both are helpful xx

[Lyn84 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

I did have a look at the miscarriage association site yesterday but have not heard of the other site

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Lyn84]

Give it a go! It might have some helpful info. And you can actually ring the miscarriage association as well, if you want to talk.

I know how hard it is, I have had two miscarriages. I tried hard to make the most of spending time with any children afterwards because it made me realise just how privileged I am to have time with a tot. It takes a lot of effort but it will be worth it. You’ll be having a relationship with your partner’s son for a long time so I think that’s probably why he wants you to do your best to be cheerful for the little one. Good luck for the end of the weekend x