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Anyone else feeling down?

I think it’s the time of year, so many people on my social media have announced pregnancy news, and I’m just feeling a bit down. This time of year reminds me of the piece that’s missing for us, no child or baby to spoil. This year I’ve been keeping myself really busy and not thinking about it but yesterday and today it’s come back over me like a big black cloud, it will pass I know but each year I just hope it’s our year and our turn 🤞🏻🙏🏻

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Hi Bella

I can completely empathise - 9 years we've been waiting patiently and have been so busy with life that thankfully it hasn't consumed us

But slowly Every friend...relative....sibling...cousins has announced their pregnancy - we've just had a bumper 5 births this last month (!)

Let the feelings come and go- holding them in doesn't help but know that they will pass as you said and allow you to enjoy all the other great things and people in your lives hopefully

We thought this cycle would fail too due to my health and I had lost a lot of hope but we got our miraculous bfp this week. I don't say this to upset you but maybe give you hope that if it can happen to an old veteran like me (and so many others recently who have had failed cycles over and over) then maybe one day it can be you too XX

It's certainly not over and every day you worry even when you do get a positive (!)

Thinking of you and everyone else who is feeling the same way - cling onto your OH and make this the best holiday ever for the two of you 🙂

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I’m sorry you’re feeling so down. Hoping that next Christmas you’ll have your bfp or better yet a little one. Happy 2019 xx

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I’m here with you Bella.

I was doing well until I found out 2 ‘friends’ in the last 2 days have had babies (and I didn’t even know they were pregnant, hence the friends in quotes). I don’t even get warnings anymore, they seem to just drop out of folk.

And they’re the kind of people I never thought would have kids, or at least would be a while after me - 1 is a chimney smoking alcoholic in a very unstable relationship and the other had just got divorced (but is pregnant with someone brand new apparently).

It really IS our turn now!!

Christmas is hard, we’re told it’s all about family so it just shows us the family we don’t have. But, as my massage lady said to me yesterday, we must believe it will happen and it will.

Let’s enjoy time with our OH’s and eat lots of yummy food and watch some good films xx

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Thank you all for your replies. I will get over it and feel ok again it’s just I’ve heard a lot of announcements over the holiday and when you’ve got more time due to being off work you have more time to think and it’s just a realisation that it’s not happened for us. It does annoy me how for some people it’s so easy and how some really don’t deserve it but all we can do is hope it will be our turn soon and if not then it wasn’t meant to be ☹️

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I completely understand! I’ve also had so many pregnancy announcements fly up on my Facebook this past month! It’s super hard but you aren’t alone❤️. We can all help. Hopefully we will be blessed soon with a lovely miracle xx

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I’ve always found Xmas really hard. It’s all about family and was always a reminder that we didn’t have one.

Hoping the next year will be better for you. X

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I know exactly how you feel, we weee supposed to be having our first round of IVF in November but it got cancelled after my down regulation drugs part as I had a cyst, I can’t help but feel a bit fed up - I was supposed to be pregnant now - instead I’ve been given a shit load of booze for Christmas & have drunk all day 😔 Looking forward to seeing the back of this year. 🤞 for all of us for next year xx

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I know how hard Christmas can be. Hoping that black cloud lifts soon. Sending you very best wishes for the New Year xx

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Know exactly how you feel, the last few years we have said “this time next year it will be us” and it hasn’t been and when OH said something similar last night we had a chat about it. I’ve decided to not say “next year” instead we are going with in future, it will be us...xxx

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Hope youre feeling a bit better today xo

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I know exactly how you feel. My facebook news feed is full of pregnancy announcements and cute Christmas baby bictures. I'm thinking I might need to close my account for a while to maintain my sanity!

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