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Miscarriage

Hello everyone. My fiancé and I lost our baby boy on Christmas day, I went to the hospital on Christmas eve with cramps and I was thinking that it wasn't bad until a half an hour it got more intense, my sister and my fiancé took me to the ER. and the doctors found that my water sac was in my vagina and it was already too late to stop the contractions and too late to push the baby back in. I had to go through a normal labor and delivery. The doctors said the baby wasn't gonna make it. I was 23 weeks pregnant. I felt that what have I done wrong or why didn't they see this coming. while having my contractions I was put on epidural and hours later, I didn't feel the baby go down until the nurse check me and told me that the baby is out and not breathing. My heart wanted to burst and I felt like someone took my breath away and rip my heart out. My baby boy will always be in my heart. When I was reading your story, I was so touched by those and realize that I'm not the only one that is going through it. I have strength and hope for future.

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Oh my goodness Kristen 😥 that is absolutely heartbreaking. I am so so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how you must feel. It's so cruel for that to happen. Please dont blame yourself ! You did everything you could to grow and nurture your baby, sometimes nature just takes over regardless how hard you try. It really isn't your fault or anything you did wrong. No woman should have to go through what you did. Thinking of you and your partner I hope you start to feel better soon ❤️ take it a day at a time xxx

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Big hugs my love. 💙💗

I'm so very very sorry for what you've been through bless your heart. You must be going through such a difficult time. I'm glad you've come here lovely you will get a lot of support.

Did they find out why this happened hun? Did they do any tests on you or your boy (it certainly wasn't anything you did)

I recently had my 6th loss it was an early loss iv had three at 12-13 weeks and 3 at 6 weeks and under. I can only imagine how tough it is to go through a loss at 23 weeks. I just wanted you to know im sending lots of love and hugs and if you ever want to talk I'm here just pm me 💗🤗😘

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I am so so sorry for your loss..how terribly painful this must be for you both. I am so glad you found us all on here as although we all have our down days the support on here in 24-7 from amazingly strong women and men. take time,heal and always hold him in your heart..much love xxx

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Kristen, I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how hard this has been for you. It’s heart breaking. Sending you much love at this incredibly difficult time xx

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What a terrible time you have had. I’m sorry for your loss x

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I’m so sorry for your loss, take time out, don’t rush into getting back to ‘normal’. I lost my son at 22 weeks just over 12 months ago, here if you have any questions or need anything x

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That's absolutely heartbreaking, so , so sorry for your loss. Hopefully you have a reliable support network round you & hopefully someone, one day will be able to give you an answer as to why this has happened. x

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I am sooo sorry to hear this! Life is so cruel! Please don’t blame yourself sweetheart. I lost my twin boys in September. Here if you need a chat xxx

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I am so very sorry for your loss and everything that you and hubby have had to go through.

Totally heartbreaking and my thoughts go out to you.

We lost ours very early but I can not imaging loosing at 23 weeks. Be kind to yourself.

I hope that you have been provided with information for support and when you are ready this could be something to consider.

Take time out for yourselves and one step at a time.

xx

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So very sorry xx

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Hi Kristen, I just wanted to say I am so sorry you lost your baby boy. As you said he will always be with you in your heart.

Lots of love xx

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I’m so sorry for your loss and all you’ve been through xx

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I'm so sorry ❤️💜❤️💜

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I am so sorry to hear this. Sending love to you xxx

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Hi Kristen

I was crying reading you post as I can completely understand how you feel. So heartbreaking. I lost my little girl last year atv23 weeks. The pain is always there but it does ease off I promise. Take care of yourself if you need to talk just message me. All the best xxxx

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I’m so very sorry to read your post, massive hugs is all I can offer 💕 xx

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Words fail me really. I'm so heart broken for you. Sending hugs to you. I really pray you will be ok .xx

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So sorry x

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Hey there! I hope you're doing good. I'm really really sorry for your miscarriage. Losing a baby through miscarriage, elective termination, still birth or child birth is, without doubt, one of the most difficult experiences that a parent will ever endure. There are no words to explain the depths of despair.It's really hard to understand the shift that occurs when all hopes and expectations suddenly drop out form underneath anything lying stable. I can't understand your pain because a mother's pain of losing a child is indescribable. It is an experience that many will never need to make sense of. It is also the one that many other will swim through unexpectedly. But I do respect your feelings. You're an example of patience and strength to every woman out there. I'm really really glad that you came to this platform to share your story. It really needs guts to explain the worst experience of your past. The whole thing is tragic and drastic and totally and completely unfair. I'm happy that by explaining your story, you're giving an example of hope to everyone. Stay blessed and stay strong. Much love!

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Hey Kristen! I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It is devastating to see a mother go through miscarriages. I know you are going through a terrible phase. But just remember, this is not the end. Pain is supposed to make you stronger. You must come out of this mishap as a stronger woman. You must learn to fight whatever life puts in your way. You should keep yourself distracted. Try reading books or going out on walks. Spend more time with your loved ones and try to keep yourself occupied. I have been through 3 miscarriages and I can remember how hard it was for me to get the courage to wake up. Take loads of care of yourself. My best wishes are with you.

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