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Totally gutted. Dreamt we got a bfp and woke up all set and knew straight away on test it was negative. Gutted. Just feeling like we have become another statistic and not really sure what to do with ourselves now. Guess life just has to return to normal after a mad couple of months. What is normal now??? Just have to get back on with it and try again I guess๐Ÿ˜ฉthanks to everyone out there for your support..hopefully good news for you all next time xxxx

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Tugsgirl

Hugs to you ๐Ÿ’•

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Amanda86

So sorry to hear this Vic ๐Ÿ˜” xxx

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vic77โ€ข in reply toAmanda86

Thanks xxx

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Goodthingscome

Oh Vic, I'm so sorry to hear this, sending you lots of love. Hopefully you can treat yourselves, be kind and come up with a plan. Really sorry to hear this xxx

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vic77โ€ข in reply toGoodthingscome

Yes I need a plan like become younger๐Ÿ˜‰lol..no seriously you are right I need a plan. Posted letter already for review appointment but just read on nhs website a 2nd round can be between 6 to 11 months..I think I will certainly have gone mad by then and out on a ton of weight no doubt๐Ÿ˜งmy goodness we women are so strong to go through this..thanks for your support xx

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Sloobs30

:( so gutted for you. Big hugs and love xx

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vic77โ€ข in reply toSloobs30

Thank you so so much..think I have helped Kleenex profits hugely today ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญxx

So sorry to hear this sending you hugs x

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vic77โ€ข in reply to

Thank you so so much xxx

Aaah honey I'm so sorry๐Ÿ’”

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vic77โ€ข in reply to

What a week for us both ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญhow are you doing??? Hugs xxx

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Hey I know๐Ÿ’”went for a follow up today, doctor Doesnt know how it happened, or why it failed but now is thinking insemination instead of Ivf.

Also told no sex till period comes as I'm still stuffed full of eggs๐Ÿ’•kind of tempting but not stupid enough to risk multiples

So

Going to look after myself, beta still not 0

Oh no hunni I'm so sorry. I know there no words that will make you feel better- just to let you know I'm thinking of you. Hope you feel better in time big hugs ๐Ÿค— x x x

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vic77โ€ข in reply to

Thanks Jess means a lot xxx

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Sjt82

I feel your pain!! Got my bfn yesterday, feel in a kind of limbo land and bit numb after thinking what could of been. Just have to dust ourselves off and accept we are making up the stats...an awful lot of us have to I spose. Look after yourself and good luck if you try again ๐Ÿ€xx

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vic77โ€ข in reply toSjt82

Thanks sjt82. Your treatment sounded very similar to mine. I can't stop crying today and feel exhausted๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ. Just so so sad all that hope and now nothing. We will dust ourselves off for sure..nothing else for it. We have one more shot on nhs so will give that a go but no clue how long a wait there will be. Hope today is better for you than yesterday. Are you going to try again? Xxx

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Sjt82โ€ข in reply tovic77

I think we get one more nhs go, but have to give it 6 months. Feels like a lifetime away again now, but at least we are getting another go before it starts getting expensive. xx

BFN are rubbish look after yourself xxx

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vic77โ€ข in reply to

Thanks button...I can't stop crying and now worried about length of time on nhs for next appointment...I know we need time but just so so upset..how did you cope? Xxx

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It is awful and nothing anyone says or does makes it any easier. On the NHS I was able to start again on my 3rd period including this one, I always find it easier when I know what's next and have something to focus on xxx

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Take the time you need physically and emotionally, you'll be glad you did๐Ÿ’•

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pMauz

Im so sorry I dont know how id cope :( lots of hugs xxx

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vic77โ€ข in reply topMauz

Thanks Pmauz..not really sure how I will cope as not sure what happens next..guess we wait on nhs for another cycle. I am a planner so now I just feel I want to know when next cycle will be so I can plan for that but I am guessing there will be quite a wait to torture me even more..oh back to work I go surrounded by pregnant woman and plenty of hankies in my car for when I need to dash out and weep๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญxx

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pMauzโ€ข in reply tovic77

Oh no! surrounded by pregnant people that sucks going back to work back to normal is bad enough i feel for you, I dunno what it is about pregnant people but I really struggle with that too :( I hope you have plenty of support there as well if you do need a good cry. After so much waiting it must be so hard to start another wait for another cycle, do you get more free goes? If this round fails I will try to comfort myself with that fact.

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vic77โ€ข in reply topMauz

One more go so pressure really be on then๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌso much love and luck to you on this cycle xx

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Skybid

I'm really sorry to hear ur sad news vic77. It's such an intense period of time as it is without getting a negative at the end of it all. Hugs your way. Xxx

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vic77

Thanks skybid wishing you so much luck for this week xxxx

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katya38

Really sorry to hear your news. I know how devastating it can be. Just be kind to yourself and get lots of tlc xx

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MommaBear16

Vic I'm so sorry to read this :( Sending hugs x x x

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vic77โ€ข in reply toMommaBear16

Thanks. We are heartbroken and devastated. I feel so empty..I can't think of any other word. Period here which is horrible and a reminder of failure and back to work yesterday and it like last 3 weeks haven't happened however I somehow feel like a different person now. Maybe I am just having a bad day๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญthanks for your message xxx

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MommaBear16โ€ข in reply tovic77

It will take time I'm sure. The process takes over your whole life, the jabs and routine of it all become normal and afterwards there's a void on top of the inevitable disappointment. You are entitled to your bad days, don't be so hard on yourself. I hope you start to feel brighter and more positive in the coming weeks you won't feel like it now but you'll get there x x x

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vic77

Thanks so so much mommabear xxx

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