BFN

[Reuben-ling]

Hi...

Yesterday was the end of our TWW and unfortunately it was BFN. I am so gutted despite knowing the chances of it working. This was our first cycle and have 4 embryos frozen from it so I’m trying to look on the bright side knowing that we have 2 more tries on nhs.

I guess I’m just looking for some words of wisdom/ encouragement as it’s really hitting hard and I have this horrible fear consuming me that it will never work.

[Luna_79]

So so sorry to read this, I know how utterly crushing it is, I too spent the whole day crying and feeling so desperately sad and then quite empty a few weeks ago when we got our BFN . It’s good to let those feelings process so take time to grieve and give yourself time to heal. It’s amazing that you have some frozen embryos so all is not lost yet. Plus from what I read quite often the first round gives learnings that may help subsequent tries. I know initially I felt like I didn’t want to put myself through it all again but then how could I not! I too panic that it may never happen, today when out for lunch, there was a teeny baby just days old I just wanted to burst into tears with longing that it could be me, followed by a sense of doom that it might never be - but somewhere I still believe that it can be, you have 4 embryos, that’s such a good number so please don’t lose faith , it can happen there are so many amazing stories on here to show it can , sending you a huge hug xxx

[Reuben-ling in reply to Luna_79]

You’re definitely right about not losing faith, initially I thought can I even go through this again.

I work with small children so I know that feeling and it’s really horrid but I’m going to use it as a positive that there is still hope and I won’t give up!!

Thank you xxx

[Abbywithag]

I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through, I can totally relate! I had our first round in November and it failed! I came on my dreaded period 5DP5DT. But look at the positive. Basically round 1 the clinic goes in blind, by using you’re findings they put you on a set of meds that they don’t know how you’re body will react. Round 2 they will know more and hopefully will be a BFP for you! That’s how I looked at it - it’s soul destroying and makes you question absolutely everything. I think round one personally is the worst round as it’s going into the unknown with high expectations. Don’t let it get you down. You’re time will most definitely come. Sending you lots of love & luck... xxxx

[Reuben-ling in reply to Abbywithag]

Thank you that’s a great way to look at it, hadn’t thought of it like that. Xxx

[Leesara]

I don’t think I’m one for words of wisdom but just wanted to say: give yourself time, be kind to yourself and take one day at a time xx

[Chloettc2020]

Hi lovely,

I’m in exactly the same boat as you, horrible isn’t it! Take your time to feel crappy & just know you will come out a million times stronger!

We’ve both got some Frosties 😊 all we can do is look forward & prepare for our FETs.

Sending lots of love ❤️

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Reuben-ling. So sorry to hear this, and I hope you've got plenty of support around you just now. Hopefully, it won't be too long before you can have one of your frozen embryos transferred back inside you where it belongs. Thinking of you. Diane

[Reuben-ling in reply to DianeArnold]

Aw thank you xx

[Reuben-ling]

Ahh thank you all so much for your kind words. I’m so glad I came across health unlocked, you have all really lifted my spirits. Being able to share with ppl who have had similar/ same experiences is really helpful xxx