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I've done 2 tests this morning and both negative, tomorrow is my OTD but I'm prepared now for the BFN. I don't think I'll ever be a mother 😒xx

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ShiGi8

Jojo!!!!!! This is the worst right?? I also did a test this morning... Clearblue... And it says : Not pregnant 😱 - my OTD is also tmrw. I don't know what to do now.... πŸ’”

I wonder what has gone wrong. I don't understand. 😒

Sending u love xxx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to ShiGi8

It was a kick in the stomach this morning but I've pulled myself together and trying to look ahead.

So sorry it was a BFN today for you too 😒

I'm still going to go for my blood test tomorrow just to be 100% and we will probably try again after our holiday in May.

Big hugs xxxxxxπŸ’–

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ShiGi8 in reply to JoJo_1984

May the force be with you tmrw πŸ’• I'm dreading it... Hope ur day wasn't too bad. Tears kept coming on my side but had them under control. 😳 Can't imagine how I'll feel tmrw when the BFN will be confirmed. Unless by miracle this morning's test was rubbish... Agh! 😞 I should book a holiday too πŸ˜… At least u have urs to look forward to! Take care my lovely! I'll be thinking of u tmrw xx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to ShiGi8

I hope we both had fluke dodgy tests and that there's a miracle BFP for us both tomorrow.

I was really holding it together until about 30 mins ago and my heart has just opened again dreading tomorrow and I can't sleep! Take care 😘xxxx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to ShiGi8

Hi, did you get your result back yet? I'm still waiting!!xx

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ShiGi8 in reply to JoJo_1984

It's over on my side. They already told me to stop all meds and pessaries. I've booked an appointment to see the Dr for in 2 weeks (They said that's the earliest they have!!) to see what the next step would be. I just need to let my cycle continue and wait for my period to come. I'm heartbroken... And this type follow up has not helped at all. 😒 I hope they treat u nicer at ur hospital when they give u ur results. I just wanna cry it out now. Didn't expect it would be that painful -emotionally... Xx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to ShiGi8

Mine is BFN too 😒 I don't know where we will get the strength to try for a 3rd time from but I'm sure we will. Sorry this didn't work this time, I dont think we will have our follow up appointment until April as they are always really busy!!xx

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anna0908

Sorry to hear your news. It is hard to believe it will ever work when you go through failures. A few days after my negative I can feel the hope and fight starting to return. Give yourself time to grieve and then you can build yourself back up. Best wishes xxx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to anna0908

Thanks Anna, sorry for your BFN too. I was gutted this morning but I'm being positive again and planning our next attempt. I think we may switch clinics as our current one doesnt seem very good at changing protocol. Good luck to you xxxx

Ladies

Sorry for your news. The hardest part of this journey is getting the BFN and not knowing why it hasn't worked because the doctors can't really give a definitive answer.

The annoying part is another lady with the same scenario as you it may have worked, always find that hard.

Give yourself time figure and take each day as it comes.

Don't lose hope.

Am in my fifth go and last go it's too straining, draining both emotionally, physically, mentally and financially....

What will be will be xxx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to

Thanks Tamtam such wise words obviously coming from the heart and your personal experiences. I've started to think I'm so lucky for all of the things and people I already have that I shouldn't be too devestated and I know it will happen eventually I have faith.

Good luck with your cycle wishing you BFP xxxx

Aw hun sorry to hear this, keep your chin up and test again tomorrow xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to

Thanks button, logically i knew the odds were against us with day 3 transfer but i was still so sad this morning 😒 keep positive for yourself that you will be one of the lucky ones because it does happen. I'm still going to go and get my blood test tomorrow so we know 100% but at least I'm prepared for the worst xxxxx

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Lisa1471

Awk sorry to hear xx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to Lisa1471

Thanks Lisa πŸ’–xx

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lianm8

So sorry to hear this jojo. Thinking of you xx

I haven't tested yet my OTD is tomorrow but I have started light bleeding this afternoon and have had a gut feeling it hadn't worked.

What will be will be, everything happens for a reason. And I am a firm believer of that. Xxx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to lianm8

Thank you lian, sorry to hear you're bleeding too. I totally had a conversation like this with my sister today when she was consoling me, i said I believe strongly in fate and it must not be meant to happen this time for some reason. Big hugs πŸ’–xxxx

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Rach_87

Sorry to hear this πŸ’” I had the same news on Monday and only starting to get my strength and positivity back today, had blood tests yesterday which came back ok so I'm struggling with the 'why hasn't it worked' but I'm carrying on for the 2nd time and praying extra hard. Hope your ok xx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to Rach_87

Thanks Rach, hope your second try ends in BFP xx

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Daisy32

I am really sorry to hear your news, it so heartbreaking after everything you go through to get to that point. I am thinking of you xx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to Daisy32

Thanks daisy πŸ’–xx

Oh I'm so sorry 😒 It is such a kick in the teeth.....knocks you sideways seeing that BFN! I'm only just getting over ours xx

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JoJo_1984 in reply to

Thanks Willo, I knew it hadn't worked but it still hurts like hell doesnt it! Hope we are both BFP on our next try xx

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Fingers crossed for both of us, take care xx

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