Arggggggghhhhhh!!!

[Katrina13]

Just logged onto facebook to see another pregnancy announcement. This time announcing that she is 12 weeks, exactly 3.5 months after her wedding (when they started trying).

I am just crying and crying and crying, I want to scream and smash things!!!

[Alc0503]

Aww maccerpops *hugs* I know how u feel everyone around me is having babies there's around 12 due before Xmas and it starts next weds when the first is born by c-section! I'm hoping to have started my fet so I will be too busy with that to be annoyed with them but it kills me knowing half them only tried 1-2 months and a few weren't trying and it happened it's so unfair!

[Katrina13 in reply to Alc0503]

It just kills me every time, it really does. Its so so hard.

I also got news today that a colleague's wife miscarried last night. They are both super fertile - they already have 3 kids and want another one. I also know that she has had 2 abortions in the past because at the time 'it wasn't convenient'. I find it really hard to sympathise over the miscarriage, which makes me feel very mean, but I just want to scream at him that they can just try again, get pregnant again, whenever they feel like it, so be bloody grateful!!

[Katrina13 in reply to Alc0503]

Oh, and literally ALL of my friends got pregnant in the first 2 months of trying. One even kindly told me she had conceived when they stayed over at our house one weekend.

Another one had the nerve to say to me that she knows how I feel (after 3 years of ttc + 3 surgeries + failed IVF) because she found it really hard to deal with not being able to control getting pregnant, and was really upset the one and only month it hadn't worked.. she was (of course) pregnant the second month of ttc.

[Missmmc in reply to Katrina13]

Tell me about it! me and my mates more or less the same age, no kids and nobody talking about having any. I start trying and feeling a bit smug as I would be taking the next step. 3 years later and one failed cycle and all of my friends have had babies. Some of them only met their partners. Don't get me wrong I'm pleased for all of them but just fed up. It dawned on me that I am that statistic. 1 in 6 couples will have trouble conceiving well hello here I am the one out of the six.

And don't get me started about the crèche that is now my office.

Hun you are not alone x

[Katrina13 in reply to Missmmc]

When I am down I think of myself (and my husband, thanks to me) being a dead end in the family tree. I hate that thought. I lost my Mum almost 20 years ago and my Dad is now very ill, so the thought of me being the only one left with nothing on either side is horrid.

I remind myself though of all the precious (the more sensitive) friends I have, especially the ones that really want to make sure that I am a part of THEIR kids lives, for ALL of our lives not just now, and realise that our impact on this world doesn't necessarily need to be our genes!

[Alc0503]

Aww I feel for u some people really are not grateful they can fall at the drop of a hat I'm 5yeara ttc and at 24 I'm finding it so hard and was devastated when my first Ivf failed in July but start my fet on the 5th sept so hoping to be distracted by that so I don't get to hung up on all the babies being born! U can pm me if u ever need a rant xx

[Alc0503]

That's awful they don't know how lucky they are xx

[manofkent11]

I know how that feels. You never ser people posting a miscarriage.

[Katrina13]

Thanks Ladies. Sometimes we all just need to let off steam don't we!! xx

[Belle-7- in reply to Katrina13]

Just been reading through everything and I totally wanna cry for you myself, I feel the same sometimes you need to lat out this form is for that. it's absolutely fantastic when you need to let out exactly how you feel to those that know exactly how you feel, mouth full I know you understand tho.. My hopes Are with you always we both need a bit of luck I think please check out my forum what's been happening with me. I think everybody in a similar if not same situation babe. We are all here for each other one big great group I feel proud to be apart off also it something of my own I joined here and nobody knows know the knows anything about me you don't knows you but I really feel like I have made a great impact of some of the comments going back and forth on here and I feel like that my family have never had. take care x