Hope everyone is keeping. Safe, maybe dramatic but I’m devastated, my youngest sister has just announced she’s pregnant, she’s only about 4 weeks. She’s 19, no job or income living at home with my mum, with a boy with has drug problems neither of them have money or infact even grown up enough to bring a child into the world. Both drink & takes drugs & I just can’t help but think what have I done so bad, I try so hard to be healthy and limit what I can eat and drink, and try take my medication daily, nag onto my husband to become healthier and it’s still just not happening for us, I can give a baby everything and more and it’s all I’ve wanted since being married, we are awaiting our first appointment with a clinic in April, but that still doesn’t stop it from hurting. I’ve had a good cry today & just needed to rant to people that actually understand. Xx
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Im so sorry hun, it’s really hard isn’t it? Life is unfair and plays tricks on us all the time. On top of it, our families not always understand what we are going through when having infertility issues (more often than not, really) .....I know it’s really hard but we shouldn’t compare our life with the one of others...everyone has their own struggles...also, being jealous or envious doesn’t do us any good when trying to be healthy and stay stress-free in order to start a very difficult journey.You know, Rome wasn’t built in a day....some people need to take the harder route to realise their dreams, but I promise you you’ll realise yours ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
You are not alone, we are going through so much pain and hurdles that we deserve happiness and we’ll have it ❤️
Oh darling, I am so sorry to read your pain. Life can be so unfair at times.. you have every right to be upset.
Whilst not the exact same, I was heartbroken (still am) when my little sister told me she was pregnant. She fell pregnant accidentally and whilst on the pill, a drunken mistake. She’s in her third trimester now and I still struggle with her pregnancy because it’s been so hard for me and my husband to conceive.
For me, I just had to put myself first and try hard not to compare my sisters situation to mine. I have to focus on myself and my own journey.
Focus on your upcoming appointment and continue doing all you are doing. Allow yourself to feel angry and sad because you’re only human, we all do and we know how rubbish and painful this journey can be. But don’t let it take over, when it does just stop and breathe and remind yourself that your priority is you and your upcoming appointment.
Big hugs ♥️ Xx
It feels like a right smack in the face when things like that happen and you are glad for them and wouldn't wish them ill but wish it was you as well.
Hi Chloe, you're not being dramatic at all, I know how you feel as I had the same feelings when my sister told me she was pregnant. It’s the worse feeling, I was heartbroken and had nobody to talk to, it’s like nobody understands, you just have to put on a brave face, which is so hard. Don’t be so hard on yourself you are entitled to feel the way you do it’s completely normal to be upset and angry. Try and stay as positive as you can. I wish you all the luck in the world xx
Oh I'm so sorry hun and you're not being dramatic at all. Its so unfair. Get it all out, cry,scream,and lots of self care. We understand you and are here to support. Big hugs xxx
It's so hurtful seeing ppl around us getting pregnant. Life is not fair. Many ppl won't understand how hard it is but we all in here do. Keep crying until you get better hun. One day will be yours xx
I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. Your are not overreacting at all, I was exactly the same when my sil announced she was pregnant. I avoided her throughout her whole pregnancy (covid made it easier) all I did was compare myself to her, which was the worst thing I could’ve done. She’s now had her baby and surprisingly all those feelings went away.Personally I find people being pregnant the most difficult to deal with, when their babies are here it’s easier.
Go easy on yourself, if you need to avoid her for a while then do it. Don’t let others tell you how you ‘should’ be feeling about her.
Most people understand if you explain things to them saying how whilst you are glad for them and don't wish them harm you have decided that for a while you can't be around them as it hurts you when it reminds you of what you have lost out on.
Genuine people will understand if you explain things to them.
It’s not dramatic at all, we had a miscarriage over new year after trying for 3 1/2 years, yesterday a friend of mine that’s not been with her boyfriend long put up her 12 week scan pictures, I felt so gutted that it couldn’t have been us sharing our amazing news and had a little cry!😪
Just be kind to yourself, take the time to feel sad and frustrated because this journey for some of us is heartbreaking and such hard work. Try not to cut yourself off from those who are getting pregnant around you, it’s not their fault we’re struggling and you’ll want them around you when it’s your turn to share your amazing news!🤗x
Hi Chloe, strangely very very similar to me!! My younger sister is 22, with a boy who doesn’t work (my sister works hard but struggles to get by and provides for them both) ... she is very overweight, doesn’t look after herself but she’s just announced she’s 6 weeks pregnant. The pain I just went through was horrendous. I love my sister so much but I felt so angry that I have changed my whole life to try and have a baby and she can do nothing and just get pregnant. I have tried to just imagine that my time is coming... I am trying to stay positive.
I truly understand how you feel as strangely I’m in the same position. If you ever want to chat, just message me xxx
No advice but I know how you feel. We tried for years to have our first baby and turned to ivf. I work with families in crisis and see every day people having babies and families they are not capable of supporting. It is like a kick in the teeth. But you have to focus on you and your husband. You have your appointment booked and this is so positive. It is not an easy journey but you and your husband need to take tine for each other and focus on your road. It is a rolleroaster but the rewards are fantastic. Good luck Xxx
Thank you so much to each & every single one of you that’s commented. I know if I always come on here, there’s always so much love & people that understand. You all got me through a rough day yesterday & cannot thank you enough. Xxx
I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Sibling pregnancy announcements must be so difficult, especially when their pregnancy was achieved so easily. All I can say is that you will get your family one day and everything you’ve been through will make you a first class parent. Our children are so wanted and so sought after, can you imagine how loved they will be? 🥰 Focus on your journey and remember that you are going through this for a reason and you will get to your happy ending soon enough. Sending you so much love and strength at this difficult time xxx
I'm sorry, it is extremely hard. I felt the same when my younger sister told me she was pregnant. I had started trying a year before and it just felt so unfair
All of us here totally understand. It’s so unfair at times and so cruel. I have been where you are so many times and it really hurts and feels unbelievable unfair. Take a deep breath and try and focus on you and your journey. Believe it will happen and all
I know exactly how you feel! I’ve had my little sister, my little cousin, close friends all getting pregnant with very little resources to look after their child. I just wanted to say, I’m also hoping and praying for you ❤️ Just have the strength to get through this.
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Had such a bad day feeling so drained 😢
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