painful sex life

hiya do any of you get painful sexaul intercourse and find it really hard to orgasm..and do anyone get real bad pain after this aswell.i have been suffering with this illness now for 10 years they diagnosed me when i was 22 and had hysterectomy and no kids neither.the excision of endometriosis when i was 23 i have been suffering form this since i was about 16.i hate living like this.does any girls want a chat.this has also been a very severe case.

[anneliese]

Hiya : )

I can TOTALLY relate to you , I got diagnosed in September but I have had severe period pain and clotting since I was 9. However it wasn't until I became sexually active at 17 ( 4 years ago) that noticed something was seriously wrong. I went to the docs and they said oh it will just be "honeymoon cystitis"- funny that the honeymoon is well and truely over and I still feel the same with intercourse!I'm really lucky because I've only ever been in a sexual relationship with my fiancé . Although he is understanding - I'm completely unsatisfied with my sex life too- I'm only a young woman and I dread sex , and I can't even orgasm through it . Don't get me wrong I can orgasm through other things just not intercourse.

What kind of symptoms do you experience ?sorry if I'm over stepping the line- you don't have to answer that question! I'm always here though if you want anything to chat about!

x x

[Hidden in reply to anneliese]

thanks for talking because i get ignored by other girls.because ive got this endometriosis.and they think that they can catch it do you get this from other girls or not.and my symptons are i get very bad pain having it and pain afterwords totally no orgasm what so ever and hurts me inside.mine was severe how would you describe yours.had no kids and had a hyserectomy.

[Hidden]

thanks for talking because i get ignored by other girls.because ive got this endometriosis.and they think that they can catch it do you get this from other girls or not.and my symptons are i get very bad pain having it and pain afterwords totally no orgasm what so ever and hurts me inside.mine was severe how would you describe yours.had no kids and had a hyserectomy.

[anneliese in reply to Hidden]

Hiya , well I can't orgasm at all through intercourse but I can in other ways. I just find intercourse so unsatisying it's painful when he's entering me and throughout the whole thing. We've tried different positions but to tell you the truth it's still as painful to me x x

[LadyA]

yes, it so painful for me!! it makes me so sore, that i find it hard to enjoy it, but recently its been getting better because we have tried different ways to do it. i never orgasm either, no exactly how u feel xx

[Hidden]

yes i know its horrible isnt it hun.can u cum though because i cant do both. im just dry all of the time.if im going to in to detail let me know please.xxx

[LadyA]

Have you tried extra lubrication, durex do some good ones! that may ease it, if your dry that mmight be why its painfull for you! After i have sex i feel like everythig is going to fall out, and during sex its so painful in the area were my cervix is! i cant orgasm at all! i can other ways but that doesnt happen to much either! xx

[Zolta]

Hi Kasy,

I had very painful intercourse when my endometriosis started to develop inside my right ovary. The pain went across my right side and in my ovary like a sharp knife stabbing across inside, especially during intercourse, and after felt like bad period pain with cramps. I went to docs and said it was IBS. 3 years later with a 6cm cyst that kept rupturing every month, I had a laparoscopy to drain the cyst, with diagnosis of endometriosis. The pain is less now the cyst is smaller, but my ovary and uterus still hurts during intercourse sometimes. I find me and my fiance had to foreplay for about 15 minutes when was on Prostap, now the the dryness is not so bad but on a bad day we still have to foreplay for at least 10 minutes to prepare myself physically and mentally for intercourse. We are also limited to the same positions because of the pain. Also, when I am having a bad day when I am bloated out to looking 5 months pregnant and can feel pain in there, we leave my downstairs well alone and only make love on my better days.

When it starts to hurt during intercourse I let other half know. We stop and and foreplay again, or try a different position as this helped me be less anxious, as when I felt anxious about expecting the pain it made me clam up so there was no way that anything could enter there! Knowing that I could take more control over the pain during intercourse helped me to relax and be less nervous about it - and actually allowed me to orgasm It really helps to take it very slowly, with the other half being at the speed you are comfortable with, and not to penetrate too deeply at first until you feel you may be ready to go further, and foreplay loads!

Zolta xx