I'm looking for some help and insight about my story..I've found alot of the pages on here interesting, particularly the ones about painful sex as I have had this problem for 3-4 years and am no further forward in figuring out what caused it or how to get over it. (I have been seen by psychosexual therapists and currently using vaginal dilators to try and become in control of the involuntary spasms i get during intercourse...but I'm still finding the insertions uncomfortable). Sex is most painful on penetration and then sometimes the pain lasts and other times it fades throughout intercourse. Pain on penetration is very variable - from burning...to sharp pains...to just discomfort. I dont experience pain during orgasm as others on here have mentioned. It varies whether or not its painful afterwards, ususally it is. I usually manage with it being sore, but it has to be done in a very particular position for minimal pain on entry. And sometimes I dont manage to at all. I've seen two different psychosexual therapists who both tried to link the cause to a relationship problem which I found unhelpful and hurtful as my partner is very supportive and we had pain free sex for a good year before my symptoms started.
One thing I have queried to my GP and the therapists is whether the symptoms are linked to my IBS symptoms. I have had IBS symptoms since the painful sex started and I think maybe a year or two prior to that...but with less severe symtoms. I have read that painful sex is a symptom of IBS but noone has ever been too sure whether the symptoms are linked for me. I have abdominal pain every day...usually a dull nagging discomfort thats normally always there and I get spasm pains that range in how painful they are, occasionally throughout the day. I have a massive bloated stomache maybe 70% of the day. My bowel habits I feel are just not normal (v small bowel movements really often.) I find it hard to pass gas, as if its all blocked up. I drink plenty of water to help with this but that only ensures stools arent hard when passed.
I feel knackered all the time. When I was in high school I saw my guideance councellor about this (put down to stressful teenage exam time). I failed subjects in uni and I remember falling asleep in lectures at that time. Now Im workin the 9-5 and find it so hard to be alert and concentrate cos I feel so tired. But I've put that down to the fact its a new job and a move away from home....or could this be the fatigue associated with endo?
My periods are fine and not anymore painful than I think is normal, however I have been on the combined pill for the last 6-7 years. After reading about endometriosis I'm concerned this could be masking some symptoms of endo.. (I do remember having painful periods before I was on the pill but it was so long ago I cant really remember...and thinking it was maybe normal cramp pains..)
The thought of a laparoscopy is really scary for me...when maybe I don't have a lot to go on. I'm getting an abdominal scan soon but I know this won't always show up whether you have endometriosis.
I just wondered if my story has similarities to others out there who have ended up being diagnosed with endometriosis. Maybe I just have IBS and painful sex (vaginismus I think - with involuntary spasms of the vaginal muscles). And maybe they're associated or maybe they're not. I would be very greatful to hear from others with your experience...and any thoughts on whether I should think about getting tested for endometriosis. Thankyou.