Fed up

[Gothchic]

Hiya

I just feel the need for a little venting, I feel sad and sorry for myself today, curled up in the sofa, having pain and fatigue also I’m so sad when I look in the mirror I look so worn out and have a face full of acne ( I’m 40 why I am still having acne 😩). I just feel like 💩.

Sorry to be negative I just needed a little moan and I know here is a safe place to say how I feel to people that 100% understand. Xx

[Nikkky]

Hi there, so sorry you’re not feeling well. I’ve just read your previous post too and it sounds like you’re menopausal. 40 is not too early to start peri-menopause and you’re having night sweats, which is a sure sign. It can cause a whole load of random symptoms as it affects every system of the body. Insomnia, skin problems and fatigue are just a few. I went into menopause soon after having a hysterectomy and I didn’t join the dots for a while because I was so used to feeling rubbish with endometriosis and adenomyosis for years. I just put my symptoms down to the endo returning until I read an article on menopause and the penny dropped! It causes physical and mental symptoms. You mentioned acne and this will no doubt be because your oestrogen level has dropped and your testosterone is dominant. Anyway, I’d really recommend you check out balance-menopause.com as it has lots of up-to-date info by Dr. Louise Newson (menopause specialist and campaigner) and a symptom questionnaire that you can complete. It’s an eye opener and will help you x

[Avourneen]

Hiya,It's rubbish sometimes being a woman and really rubbish sometimes if you have endo. The pain is really wearing isn't it. Men don't know how lucky they are no periods, childbirth, fibroids etc.

But I think we are stronger. BUt everyone feels like this at times, but remeber you can do something about your pain. You can have surgery which should really help. Your periods will stop at some point and you can get for example the progesterone only pill and take that all the time and that will just stop your bleeding and a lot of the pain.

When you are in pain just rest, go to bed with a hot water bottle watch some distracting TV or film. Then think of all the people who love you and care for you and know you can get through this.

The acne is a bummer, I don't agree with Nikky though but she may be right I may be wrong. I think you are too young for it to be related to menopause. Some people hit perimenopause at 40 but it's more likely to be 5 years later. Acne is really affected by hormones so it could be that but lots of new research says it can be caused by problems in the gut. It's frequently caused by SIBO so that might also be worth getting tested for. Some people find if they get the SIBO sorted out the acne goes away. I have rosacea at the moment and I know it feels awful to not look good on top of feeling ill. But you could find out about both.

In the meantime eat a big bar of chocolate, grab that hot water bottle and remember the pain is temporary and you can do something about it.

Good luck, really hope you feel better soon. Also Nicky your advice may be right I'm just thinking it could have another reason but I may be compelety wrong.