Struggling ttc baby no 2

[JenRow7]

Had a lap in the spring and 1 tube removed. My surgeon said if I don't get pregnant within 6 months to have IVF. My partner is not on board. Says we are lucky to have 1 son. Other people aren't as lucky and so on. My mum died during my 1st pregnancy. Also had a medical termination and a long ectopic. Just want another baby so badly. Wanted 3 or 4 before I knew I had endo. Have booked private fertility tests. Will they provide all the ivf info? Just feel I have no clue about how hard it will be so can't make a decision on what to do next....

Can't persuade my partner if not sure I'll be strong enough myself

[Leigh37]

Oh Jen. I do feel for you. I know exactly what the feeling of wanting another baby is like. I’ve had various problems and now aged 42, and with a partner who isnt onboard for anymore heartache I’ve decided my chance to have another is now over. I do have a daughter and am focusing on enjoying raising her and being her mum. I don’t think my broody feeling will ever leave me though and that’s a bitter pill for me to swallow. I do hope you find the best path for yourself and your family xx

[JenRow7 in reply to Leigh37]

Thanks for your reply! Yes I know I should be grateful for my little one and just enjoy having him. I just loved being pregnant and don't feel done with all the baby stages! I guess we could have 1 or 2 more and still feel broody. I do still have a chance and I always jump the gun. So you never know I just find not knowing so hard. I've got a super niece who is just like me so lucky for that too. Hubby doesn't ever discuss anything. Always feel he has no feelings! He says life is tough and you don't get what you want. Which is gloomy I find

[Avourneen]

Be careful, the drugs they give you for IVF to help you concieve are very inclined to make endo much worse. I think it is a very tough process to go through, you also need to check if you have adenomysiosis. We managed to get embryos but I have adenomysiosis and that means carrying them to full term is very unlikely. Could you manage a baby on your own with terrible endo pain? Sorry to be so harsh and not offer the cuddly advice you want to hear but I think it's a good idea to be realistic about things, maybe that is your husbands view ? Than if you look at a worse case scenario you can see honestly whether you could handle it.I'm in so much pain with endo now I wish I had not bothered trying and that I had ad a full hysterectomy etc. Sorry to be a downer that's my story. You need to think carefully.

[JenRow7 in reply to Avourneen]

Okay that's really helpful advice thank you. I'm sorry it's made your pain worse. I wouldn't have thought of that. How do I find out if I have adenomyosis? Would they know that from my laproscophy? My endo hasn't caused any issues since surgery except migraines. I've been teaching full time. Was thinking better t to start before I need another laproscophy?

[Avourneen in reply to JenRow7]

They should have seen adenomysios if they have done a lap and I think they would notice it even on an internal exam and definitely on an MRI. i think if you are not in any pain and the endo is not bothering you try. Good luck I hope it works out. xxx