Surgery tomorrow REALLY STARTING TO PANIC. Advice please!

[JadeH92]

My surgery is tomorrow and I am having a complete melt down. I have been putting my anxiety down to the fact it might get cancelled because of the Coronavirus however, think I'm just unsure if I'm doing the right thing.

Since August 2019 I have had an awful time with my pain, prior to all that the IVF didn't exactly go to plan either so all in all it's been a difficult years or 2. However, after the miscarriage in August things got soo much worse with my and there was no let up. I was on Microgynon as advised by my fertility consultant and in January I had a hysteroscopy. They found the uterine septum but my pain after this was unbearable. My endometriosis specialists changed my pill from Microgynon to Desogestrel and although I am still spotting and have been since I started it my pain has reduced.

So now I'm here just over 24 hours before my surgery and I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. I have had a few laps before, so I know the routine but I am usual the calm one so I can't let on to my family that I am scared because it will increase their anxiety.

My main fears are;

1.If they don't find any endometriosis and the pain is caused by my adenomyosis (which they cannot do anything about)

2 If something goes wrong because of the scare tissue and adhesions I already have (because I know the risks increase every time).

3. If removing the septum in my uterus causes any damage to my womb.

The only reason I am doing any of this, is so I can go ahead with our next embryo transfer because having a baby is the most important thing to me.

I just needed to get this all off my chest I haven't slept properly since Friday and don't know what to do!

Thanks for listening!

[Moon_maiden]

Hi, I’d say try not to worry, but not easy. Had first ever op, lap/treatment last month. Petrified but told myself it was the only way to find out and he’d be able to tell if anything else was wrong. There could have been nothing and a potential waste of pennies.

Keep the main goal and determination in focus, they wouldn’t have suggested it if not worthwhile.

Likely would have been cancelled by now I would have thought.

Good luck, you’ll get some answers. Let us know how you get on. 🙂

[JadeH92 in reply to Moon_maiden]

Thank you for replying. I hope you are healing well. You are right I just need to focus on getting tomorrow done then taking it from there. Thank you for replying. I will update once I can. Take care xxx

[claudia_d]

Hey, I know this is hard I've just done my laparoscopy (had stage 4) a few DAYS ago. I recovered quickly. What I did was I found something to silence those worries, anything engaging ( for me was painting, watching standup comedy and coding). Find what works for you. You are not gonna positively change the outcome by worrying about those things, on the contrary you are gonna secrete cortisol, be tensed and stressed out. So I'm saying this will all the love: imagine a positive outcome if you can, otherwise keep your mind busy with something that brings you joy.

I really hope it goes well for you as well.

xx

[JadeH92 in reply to claudia_d]

Thank you, I have kept busy today shopping for my relatives and preparing for tomorrow. I can tell I an stressed though my pain tonight is awful.. on the plus side it has confirmed I am doing the right thing, being in agony when you are stressed is not normal! Glad you have recovered well but still take it easy! Thanks again for replying! Take care xxx

[endopositive]

Hope it goes well today and they find it, remove it and you can get started on that family! Big hugs, let us know how it goes

[JadeH92 in reply to endopositive]

Thank you soo much. Imo feeling alright actually but I am going to put another post on about how it went. Just because I am a bit confused about what was found and would like to know if anyone else has had the same. But just wanted to say thanks for taking the time to reply! Take care 😘 xxx

[Afrohair]

Firstly I’m so sorry you are feeling anxious I understand anxiety a lot. I think it has also increased because of the Coronavirus which is understandable. it’s ok to worry for a little while then get on with what your doing you could do this by setting worry times.im sorry your ivf didn’t go to plan but remember this step brings you closer to your goal of having a baby all the best and good luck my love x

[JadeH92 in reply to Afrohair]

Thank you for replying! Yes the Coronavirus did not help with my anxiety but everything went ahead as planned in the end. You are right on wards and upwards now. Hope you are well! Take care xxx

[EndoJaz]

Hi

Hope all went well, keep us informed xx

[JadeH92 in reply to EndoJaz]

Thank you! Like I have said above . I am going to put another post on about how it went. Just because I am a bit confused about what was found and would like to know if anyone else has had the same. But just wanted to say thanks for taking the time to reply and I am actually feeling pretty good. Take care 😘 x

[priyainindore]

Sending lots of love and positive vibes during these strange and surreal times. I hope the laparoscopy provides you with some relief of your symptoms xxxx

[JadeH92 in reply to priyainindore]

Thank you for your kind words and positivity and thank you for taking the time to reply. It is really appreciated. Take care xxx