How to emotionally cope with pregnant colleagues and friends?

[FatigueMox]

I’ve about to hit the BIG 40! I had just turned 27 when I had a life threatening brain injury (Venous Sinus Thrombosis) and shouldn’t now be sat here. I’ve had the most amazing medical team supporting me, getting me back to normal life.

30 I married my amazing husband and we agreed that for a couple of years I would want a “normal” life. We knew if I was ever to get pregnant my medical team would be watching over me like vultures on prey.

Fairly early on in our marriage (Day 2 to be precise and missing out Honeymoon as I was in hospital!!!) I was diagnosed with Endometriosis. Given my previous brain injury though the only suggested treatment was the Mirena Coil. Which my husband and I didn’t want. We wanted to try and have kids.

Roll on 8 years. No baby, but I was OK with that, life otherwise was good except I was getting these God Awful pains in my glutes and hips especially sleeping at night. GP referred me to Gynaecologists they’ve since operated last April and remove the 11Ib alien which apparently looked like a giant football (think they support the wrong football club clearly!!) and has caused all sorts of damage locked pelvis, minor bowel challenges etc, the usual Stage 4 Endo crap!

Many of my colleagues at work are now pregnant (or their partners are) I got told off by my boss for not being inclusive and withdrawing from social activities like baby showers and general conversations around their pregnancies. Whilst I am generally pleased for them, I wish they would stop going on about it every other sentence and have some consideration for those of us who would love to be in the shoes but sadly can’t be. Or am I wrong to moan?

[Afrohair]

No that’s awful you don’t need to be inclusive at all.its your choice and if it was me I’d discuss this privately with your boss they should be considerate but I will say this before endo I was a lot like that I never thought of infertility I’d had children and thought my fertility was fine not everyone realises till they actually go through it now I feel terrible guilt for those situations where I’ve ever said anything to someone about their babies or how many and so forth as I feel it’s just a sensitive thing and you shouldn’t say it but just the other day my cousin approached me with his beaming baby photos not knowing I’d had a missed misscarrige I do think sometimes people don’t realise and you SHOULD say something definitely x

[Afrohair]

And to be fair they’ve noticed your behaviour why wouldn’t they ask wassup?bad management!?