I hate being a woman

[Confused_con]

Hi lovely ladies,

So I am waiting for a date to have a laparoscopy to see if I have endometriosis, this horrible god damn condition we are suffering from.

I hope this isn’t too much information for you but I need to get this off my chest, but why does this disease insist on taking away everything I enjoy?! I continuously take the pill due to the extricating pain my period puts me through, intercourse is painful and now I can’t even ‘give myself a treat’ anymore!

Up until recently, as a single woman, I have needs and it’s been fine until two weeks ago and every time I finish, the pain is so bad I feel like I am my period and want to be sick :’(

This condition makes me feel like a complete failure as a woman and to say I’m fed up is an understatement. I don’t feel like I can date because of this, again I’m sorry if it’s TMI but is anyone else feeling low and frustrated?!

Thank you xx

[princessk09]

Hey, I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this but just know you’re not alone as this forum is amazing.

I know dating and sex can be awful with endometriosis, I’ve had to break up with boys (I’m gonna call them that as they were immature) as they weren’t supportive or understanding that I couldn’t have sex. I had a brief period of time after surgery when it wasn’t painful but it’s come back now and hurts like hell during and after.

It is about trial and error, I know which positions hurt and sex isn’t just about intercourse, there are other things to do together.

Don’t let endo put you off dating. All it takes is the right guy who is mature, understanding and doesn’t act like a child and get grossed out by periods. My boyfriend has been amazing through my whole diagnosis and we have been together for a year. Whenever I am having a bad day with pain or doctors being idiots, he lets me vent and then cheers me up.

Good, supportive guys do exist! ❤️❤️ xxxxx

I’d probably tell someone like on the first or second date, just to get out there and see how they react. Guys won’t understand at first since they don’t have vaginas haha but if they are interested, maybe get some websites about endo and it’s side effects etc so they can read about it.

Endometriosis.org has a good page on their website about relationships and endo which may be worth a read.

[Confused_con in reply to princessk09]

Thank you so much for the reply, as if trying to get a diagnosis for this condition is bad and hard enough, dealing with dating and being intimate with someone isn't something I can handle right now.

This forum is absolutely amazing, and I really appreciate the support. I had a pre-op on Monday so I am now just waiting for a surgery date and fingers crossed they can say yes it is endo and get rid of it!

I shall check out that website, again I cannot thank you enough! xxx

[princessk09 in reply to Confused_con]

No worries, it may be a good idea just to put dating on pause and focus on yourself and getting a diagnosis for now xx

[Confused_con in reply to princessk09]

Yes, that's the plan xxx